Why do men avoid single moms?
>> again Why do women avoid dating single dads?
P. S: these questions are not meant to offend or shame anyone, we are discussing nothing more, nothing less.
For the same reason men avoid dating single moms, to not deal with their children or in this case with the mother of their kids. Not everyone has patience for this or knows to handle this kind of situation.
I think that people with kids should only date/marry people who also have kids.
We should differentiate here between a father whose kids live with him all or most of the time and one who has kids who visit him only some of the time.
Custodial father- same dynamics as the single mom. Things are chaotic and the couple can rarely be alone. Probably has financial issues as well since the mother must be really messed up or dead if she doesn't have them living with her home.
Father who rarely or only sometimes has the kids- forces adjustments on the part of his partner when the kids are around. Keeps much less of his income.
As a sort of single father with a 14 yr old daughter.
Let’s very very clear it is not about the woman deciding if she wants a relationship, it’s if my daughter believes the woman is good enough.
that is the simple stark reality of dating when you have a teen daughter.
it’s worse than taking your girlfriend to see your parents lol
Agreed ... I also have a 14 year old daughter , soon to be 15 , but I have no intention of dating , too happy staying single
I dont want to have biological kids of my own and I am not willing to raise another person's child and become a stepmother. The child's mother will probably be in the picture for the long run. No thanks, I don't want that in my life.
I wouldn't be opposed to adopting a child and raising it as my own, but that is another topic.
We don't want to deal with extra drama of the kid, and their mom. Plus take on extra responsibility. I didn't want or cause the kid, so I don't want to be bothered, with another persons kid, heck no! I stay away from guys with kids, the kids are extra baggage I don't want or need!
I don't feel like dealing with potential baby mama drama and I'm not a fan of kids tbh.
Even if there is no drama, obviously their kid comes first so I could see him and the kid spending time with the baby's mother around the holidays while I'm not invited.
I'm not big on sharing people.
I don't want a guy that already has kids, I want to experience that with him first. I don't want a guy who was previously married, I want to experience that with him first. I also don't want to feel awkward and automatically like a step mother. And I don't want the ex to constantly be in our lives. Not saying that they are undateable for others, but it's just not my preference 🌸
Ha! You are 30+. Good luck with that post-wall-girl.
Yeah, I wouldn't put it like that, but at 30 (no kids but wanted them) most guys I know ether only date casually (usually with much younger woman) or stopped dating entirely.
If I wanted kids, and the pressure that comes with raising them, I wouldn't mind dating a single dad, as long as our parenting techniques were somewhat on par with each other. And as long as they had a reason for their child/ren.
As of current, I'm not interested in children, and so single dads aren't really on my list. Nothing against them, just don't want to deal with kids.
Single dad myself , one key reason is there are several times more available men , than women , meaning single dads cannot compete with the " baggage free " men in the sausage fest dating market. I knew this on taking full custody , and also knew I never wanted a relationship again , after the marriage I endured , then ended.
You sound like a good dad man 👍
@CaptainRonnie Thanks Capt , I simply try my best
I was reading the responses and it is interesting how it is ok for a girl to not a single dad but it is looked down on a guy not dating a single mom. In my experience guys are always brought down in choosing not to date a single mom. I think it's a double standard.
I don't want kids. I want a childless marriage.
I wanna date a young man not an old uncle with kids. Even if he's 25 but with kids then he's too old for me. I don't like a guy giving attention to kids. I'm his SO, kids will just take your energy and money and when they grow up, they will leave forever.
I didn't avoid it... just didn't work out. With the single dad I dated.. Kids are an added bonus
If I found myself on the market. I wouldn’t avoid them.
If they are single dads they are broke from paying child support.
My friend and his five children moved in with me because he was broken from paying child support..
Yes, he had the kids, the mother had been absent so long the 10 year old didn't know who she was!
One day I got a call from his work saying they had arrested him for child support...
He spent the weekend in jail, his children got to see him in handcuffs treated like some violent criminal. For the $17 he was behind because of a clerical error.
Same applies to your first question. A ex will always be in the person's life since a kid is involved.
A woman isn't going to be feeling comfortable knowing you have to see, call, and text a ex girlfriend.
And the reality kids cause a lot energy to raise and take care of, much more of mental hassle knowing the kid isn't even their's to being with.
Who wants to be some dude's free child caretaker? I want my own children, not someone else's built in drama.
They don't want to have responsibility over the kids
My answer is the same. For all the same reasons as single moms.
Primarily, you will NEVER be their priority. Those kids, their job, their Mom, and their ex, will ALWAYS come before you. Stepping is a shitty thankless job.
Since their ex would probably have custody women have less reason to avoid single dads. Therefore, their avoidance is less.
I would date a single dad as long as there's no drama and he doesn't hurt me.
I don’t like dealing with baby momma drama. Nothing against the guy, but there always seems to be an issue.
Because theyre children themselves.
Can't deal with all the baby mama drama. Also want the least responsibilities possible.
Long long ago I would have dated a single dad but he was still living with the baby's mother.
He was upfront about it and I once called for him and she drama-free passed the phone. It was all a little weird for me and I was only 18.
I imagine it was for the kid and likely apartment lease issues
I felt a little unseasoned to deal with all that.
I saw him years later with his daughter. He was just as involved as ever. At the time seeing him wasn't an option. I don't regret not pursuing anything because I wasn't that attracted but he was definitely worth a shot.
A decent and involved dad always scores high with me.