I have recently become a Father to a gorgeous little girl. She's now 8 weeks old.
I'm sure you've worked out from the title of this question that I'm single. For reasons I won't go into now, my baby's mother and I split up just after Christmas due to some long standing problems in our relationship.
Well, at the age of 25 I've become a single man for the first time in my adult life, and I'm ready to start getting out and about and meeting women.
The question I have is this. Do women avoid single Fathers? Do women see men with babies or small children of having "baggage"?
The reason I'm asking this is because there is a certain girl I've taken a bit of a shine to. But I'm quite worried she'll run a mile if she finds out I have a baby.
Does anybody have any experience and/or advice in this area? I'd love to hear it.
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I don't know about other girls, but I avoid single fathers.
To be honest, the idea of my correct match having a child with another woman pisses me the f*** off. Parenthood is very special. The experience of creating life, bringing life into this world and seeing what it's like to have a human being totally dependent on you in so many ways. It's a huge deal and I feel like the amazing depth and poweful experience of parenthood gets overlooked because unplanned pregnancy is so common these days. Parenthood is so special. You're creating the framework for a life, one of the most poweful things anyone will ever have be it a good or bad framework.
I'd be pissed if my man has already shared this with someone else. I want a family of my own. I want us to have just children of our own. Him having a kid just because he couldn't f***ing keep his d*** in his pants would make everything complicated. Especially as that child grows older because if the child doesn't like you then it would cause stress and friction in the relationship. You gotta worry about the mother getting all pissy and territorial and not wanting another woman around her child, which is something that I totally get. Ultimately, you can't even have him to himself because he's always going to have to put his child first and use his time spending time with the child and earning money to provide for that child. So no, I would avoid him like the plague.1