How high is physical beauty on your preference list when it comes to dating?

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Sarahr123 · Accepted Answer

To a great extent, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Conventional beauty standards is widely restricted to modelling agencies, strict film industries and beauty related industries or men who want trophy wives just to show off.

What individuals are otherwise attracted to varies. I have seen men with women I think are hudeous while the man is extremely good looking but to him she is the most beautiful woman because she fits his specific tastes. For instance some men even prefer fat women. Some men prefer women with daintier facial and bodily features whilst others actually like muscular and bug face bones even though that isn’t conventionally attractive. SOME men are attracted to gummy smiles or protruding teeth even.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder I guess. Your 10 could be my 0. There is obviously the case where people are conventionally beautiful and most people can at least agree they aren’t bad looking if they don’t think they are the most beautiful person in the world. The conventional face will be attractive to almost everybody.

To each his own. I would advise being with someone you’re personally immensely physically attracted to. Don’t compromise on that because there will be no chemistry, your sex life is going to suck and you’ll be forcing yourself to get turned on when you should be wet from just looking at them. Physical attraction is EXTREMELY important. It is just as important as the emotional connection.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I only care about looks when the personality and life skills are already there because when you are hungry you want protein and not chocolate.

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

It is so high it's not even on my preference list; it's a prerequisite.

On par with "does this person have a vagina?". I'm not homophobic and I even think trans-girls can be very outwardly attractive, but when it comes down to having a penis rubbing on me, it's just not my cup of tea.

Same thing for physical beauty. If I don't think you're beautiful, then you are never getting past the friend zone. There are some "exceptions" in that someone could be less physically attractive to me and once I got to know them their personality could make them more attractive to me. That only goes so far, the same way doing your hair or makeup, how you dress, or working out and your fitness level is only going to go so far.

Leavesbound · Accepted Answer

She doesn't have to be "gorgeous" in a general sense but it would help if she had one or two physical features that I liked. I like a wide variety of things and I don't remember meeting many women except extremely elderly women who didn't possess at least one such trait. Nice hair or a nice smile or a nice butt would all be very acceptable. But anyone of those things could qualify with little effort. Even bad hair can be nice if it grows longer. A smile is nice if it's genuine and friendly and not forced. An average butt can become nice if it's put to good use.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Physical attraction is very high on my list; it's an absolute requirement. But I have been attracted to women who others did not consider to be physically beautiful.

Lliam · Answer

I wouldn't approach a woman to ask her out unless I found her physically appealing. After all, that's about all I know about her at that point. It's what would make me want to know her better to see how we got along.
So I'd have to be able to imagine how wonderful she would be to kiss and make love to.
Honestly, she'd have to be pretty enough for me to feel proud being seen with her.

But my idea of "beautiful" doesn't necessarily match the popular, classic stereotype. I'm not into high cheekbones, for example. I think cute is the most beautiful. I like short women with baby faces and women's bodies the best. The girl next door type. I think they are adorable.

Anonymous · Answer

Looks are very important ngl I'm not gonna date someone that I'm not attracted to. I am very physically attracted to my boyfriend, he also treats me very well. Before I started dating him I got some offers from some guys that I thought were unattractive (in my eyes at least). I knew that if I would've settled with one of those guys, I would have a wandering eye and that it wouldn't last. I wouldn't be able to get physical with them either. So all in all, looks and personality are both very important.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Although I'd PREFER a pretty girl because if I'm gonna be looking at her the rest of my life, I'd like to have someone pretty to look at, looks don't always last for very long!! My first girlfriend was drop dead gorgeous!!! We broke up a few months later but stayed casual friends. Last time I saw her in person, about 18 years later (that would've made her 37), she was still very pretty! A few years later (in her mid to late 40's?), she posted a picture of herself online and she looked like a scary witch!!

hannahjo022 · Answer

Physical attraction is important to me and of course personality has to be good too. I know guys will want to have sex , but I can't have sex with someone who I am not physically attracted to. I want a guy who can take care of themselves physically and mentally. I've dated guys in the past who did not take care of themselves physically and mentally which reflected on myself and I am the type of person who always takes care of themselves physically and mentally.

lanadelrey25 · Answer

Not even gonna lie, it's pretty damn high. But that doesn't mean it's all I care about, it means I am so f****** picky. I need someone I can find beautiful inside and out. I realized not to long ago how important personality is. I don't care if the guy is a god, if he isn't on point with that personality, I don't want him.

Turrorrr · Answer

i would say its not just the looks.
it is also how she can move, how she can behave, how does she react / interact with situations. its more or less the second thing which really turns me on.

if she is just a beautiful doll, you have a lot of guys constantly around her and you do not get fulfilled emotions and vibe as she might be boring. and it is not worth dating like that

i prefer she is not too beuatiful but definitely not ugly. and that she has a good and positive vibe.

Not_Average · Answer

I’ve dated gorgeous women who made my life hell and gorgeous women who complemented my life very nicely. I much rather date an average looking woman who’s great to me rather than a selfish beautiful woman. Looks are nice, but I don’t prioritize them at all when it comes to dating. I of course have to be attracted to you, but values and chemistry is of greater importance.

Silas_153 · Answer

Physical attractiveness is, of course, important to at least some extent for just about everyone, but character and personality are still far more important. I mean, of what use is it if your girlfriend is ten times hotter than Jessica Alba, but in her spare time she likes to torture small animals because she's a psychopath?

DWornock · Answer

Such opinion polls are worthless because people will lie and claim looks are not that important or else their belief is contrary to their actions. Go to any dance, club, or place that singles go to meet, sit back and just observe. Unless they are already acquainted every girl, boy, man, or woman will act as if looks (which can include the appearance of status, education, and wealth) is the only thing. Even big girls will reject fat or ugly guys that don't meet their minimum acceptable level.

MyNameJames · Answer

Looks are a plus but as long as I don't feel bad for you when looking at you I'm fine.
For me it's do they have a good personality.
Do we get on well.
Do they look average at minimum. (If you look like just a normal person, not a super model or porcelain doll, also if you aren't too overweight either.)

BlackBeauty90 · Answer

Not that high. As the old saying goes beauty is only skin deep & ugly cuts straight to the bone.
In short a person can be strikingly beautiful & have the ugliest of natures/personalities.

Besides looks change, personality doesn't.

Anonymous · Answer

When it comes to guys I quite literally couldn’t care less. I naturally pull skinny guys and honestly they tend to like their girls thicker then them. I think guys may look at physical beauty more than women. But in all seriousness I don’t care about physical beauty as long as they’re not fatter than me because big girl x big boy don’t mix to well in bed.

Torari · Answer

High, but it's complicated.

As a baseline, any girl I date needs to be a 7/10 or higher. However, the more serious the relationship, the more her personality matters.

I might have a 9/10 friends with benefits, but choose to exclusively date the 7/10 instead of she has the better personality.

No matter how hot a girl is, I won't enter a serious relationship if she has a bad personality.

HawkPerception · Answer

I swipe left on 90% on more of girls on dating sites. It's due to my high standards, both physical and personality wise, that it's pretty close to find a girl for myself. But I stick to it regardless haha

MCheetah · Answer

Not that high. As long as they're tall, feminine looking, and 100% female. I care more about personality than anything. A pretty face is all too common, nowadays. Especially when they turn out to be arrogant entitled bitches.

Almost10inch4funlol · Answer

i gotta be physically mentally and emotionally stimulated to keep from seeking outside fulfillment, because i don’t cheat so i need my girl to sexually set me on fire 🔥 lol

Lanabear119 · Answer

The first thing I notice about a boy/girl, is their appearance. I must equally like their personality and appearance for me to fully decide I seriously like them.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

It’s sort of there but not a huge thing. it’s incredibly subjective and I prefer to go off things like getting on with the person, then not being toxic.

Ninjazzed · Answer

As long as he takes care of himself and puts effort into his hygiene, then that’s good enough for me.

Biancam13 · Answer

Quite high tbh. But personality is equal to it. I take really good care of myself and take pride in my appearance so I like an attractive partner too

rienna888 · Answer

I am really shallow, I think it might be a biological thing, because i'm kinda ugly so if my partner is ugly too its like 100% chance our child would be ugly.

Dalton57 · Answer

Pleasant face, reasonably fit. I like happy so a nice smile is good for me. After that it's all personality and compatibility.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Looks are very important.  I'm not going to date you if I don't find you attractive.  Looks are just as important as personality.

na2398 · Answer

Not too fussed about it. I like a girl here purely on the basis of her nature and personality. Of course, everyone desires to have an Emma Watsonesque/ Chris Hemsworth-like partner, but that's gross to live in phantasm. :)

RingOfFire · Answer

It's a deal breaker... without it I don't want to date someone. But it is only one of the most important things, not the only one. She has to have that and more.

VanillaSalt · Answer

If she’s not at least cute I’m not even looking at her probably.

Anon621 · Answer

I don't care how someone looks. If I'm interested in them it's because of who they are

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Very high as is mental compatibility, comprehension skills, and talents. Compromise is for the impatient.

exitseven · Answer

I like somebody to be in good shape but having to be a perfect ten is not a requirement. I look more at her demeanor.

AlexanderAnttila · Answer

It's not so much that she needs to be conventionally attractive in the eyes of the majority, but I do need to be physically attracted to her.

DiegoO · Answer

Why would I date someone I don't find highly physically attractive? To date a person you don't find, both, physically and mentally attractive, is a waste of timr and energy.

Iron_Man · Answer

Physical attraction is what gets your foot in the door. She has to look halfway decent especially in the face. A Nice pair of beautiful legs helps a lot along with nice breasts

LlynR · Answer

I can tell a lot of y'all are single.

Its not too high for me but attraction plays a part. Certain uniqueness. Its hard to explain what attracts me. Good hygiene is must. I fancy the ones who dress formal.

cookieman12 · Answer

It matters a little at least. I’m not asking for a supermodel or anything but I feel like I need to feel at least somewhat attracted to her. It would be hard for me to really date someone I’m literally not attracted to.

Avicenna · Answer

It's a plus if she's attractive, but not a dealbreaker unless she's obese and/or really ugly.

BLMUSER · Answer

I prefer not to date an attractive woman. Where I live, male competition is horrendous. If you date an attractive women guys are all over her. I don't want to compete.

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

Give me a sweet face and a nice personality and I'll never complain about anything else

Oram52 · Answer

Quite High, I only date girls who put effort in appearance, and look good.

Shioninho · Answer

Yes looks make sense cause I can remember ma very 1st gal would make me horny less than a second of her appearance to ma eyes.. The issue is every one is attractive, it only depends to whose eyes...

Anonymous · Answer

As long as you dress reasonably well care reasonably in shape and have good hygiene, you’re good. Personality is the rest

Exterminatore · Answer

I think it’s pretty high for everyone. No attraction is a no go.

Anonymous · Answer

Think of it this way- Thousands of women in the world would find me attractive, and thousands of women wouldn't. This would be the case for literally every man and woman on the planet.

Mystery_World · Answer

Who doesn't want to date beautiful women. Obviously looks have high preference but it doesn't mean personality is out of league.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

If a girl isn't at least a 7 without makeup im not interested... and no "cute" fat girls. If you dont wear size small or xsmall im not about it.

jerdanro · Answer

I want the person I am with to be attractive to me, but a large part of that is personality. There has to be some sexual attraction, though.

bannacookies · Answer

High. They got to have it all. Great looks & great personality.

alexis6996 · Answer

It should be low nor super high. You have to find someone attractive so yes its part of dating, but not shallow enough where looks is all that matters

dpy87 · Answer

I pickup on vibes if i think they're attractive. I don't just look at people and say they're attractive enough or not.

Anonymous · Answer

As long as she has a booty thats killer, titties that are not hangers, she has a clear complexion, has bitchen hair, she is down for sex anywhere and anytime, she likes to cook n clean, she will have my attention.

Anonymous · Answer

It's 100% of it. I love beautiful women that are terrible people usually.

Anonymous · Answer

Really, REALLY high. Physical beauty is amongst the most important aspects of a prospective woman for me.

uncutfun · Answer

Don't care , as long as she is skinny... I have what I call is fat-ph-B-a.. LOL

Anonymous · Answer

Tall, muscular, blue eyes, light hair. Is that too much? I don't think so.

Zygum · Answer

I approach a woman, when she has physically appealing body and sexy parts

damaster · Answer

Not that high but the only one I have high on my preference is personality.

Anonymous · Answer

Pretty high but beauty alone won’t get you a second date

Anonymous · Answer

Well it's important yes but if she's beauty queen with narcissist personality then no.

Kas19 · Answer

I have to find them attractive. That is about it.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

It is not in my top 5 things.

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