For me, I think it makes a significant 1st impression. Other then that, it's mostly about the way the other handles themselves and some situations. What is it for you?
How important do you think physical appearance is for dating?
For me personally it means nothing. For me it is more about trying to be as ethically good as I can with someone else and then see where it takes us so the way of how someone looks doesn't affect the actions that they take even if they use their looks to their advantage because they decided to use their looks to their advantage in their minds and carried it out in actions and words rather then it having to do with how they look specifically. My personal philosophy: I'm not gonna gratify you and build you up if you constantly throw yourself down because that is a toxic relationship. You think about yourself one way which is understandable and yet I clearly communicated to you that I see things a different way which happens so I wanna see you build up that self confidence over time even if it means you don't get in a relationship with anybody because I learned to stop putting myself down so I would highly recommend taking your own time to stop putting yourself down even though thats hard especially if you put down your own appearance but obviously it is your choice and I'm just here to inform you about the benefits I personally see in not caring about physical appearance.
I think intellectually we want to believe the inside is all that matters and in the end it will be. But I think very few of us are capable of 100% "mind over body". I think its too ingrained in our nature to be affected by the surface.
Many times I've hasd friends who claimed not to mind the body of the other, as long as they had an attractive mind, they said. But as pysh comes to shove and they meet someone rather ugly that had all the other traits they thought they wanted, it wasn't an option for them anyhow. Confronting them about it they usually admitted that they weren't attractive enough.
I think most times it makes sense to believe ourselves capable of being better than most and think ourselves able to look past the shallow ways of thinking and feeling. We try to be rational like that about it. But some things are so instinct-connected that we can't override it that easily.
Over time I guess it becomes a different thing but as long as we are still considering ourselves of high superficial market-value I think us judging other by their looks is enevitable conciously or not.
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Anonymous
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Personally I don't believe physical appearance is a major thing. Everyone is unique and special in their own way. I don't judge a book by its cover and there are many other factors to a person besides good looks. Personality is more important to me and maybe because I have always been so insecure about my looks that I've just learned to accept and embrace others looks as well. Everyone is not ugly they just have to find the right people who can accept and embrace them and love them truly and for who they are and not as what they are trying to be seen as or at face value. Looks don't matter to me but I can see how others might feel differently because every individual is different and have different things to like on a person so I am not speaking for anyone. Personality is first, physical attraction comes third on my List! But to each their own.😊😊
Course it's the first thing you see. How someone looks, dresses, smells and how they carry themselves. Then what happens when they open their mouths to have a conversation. That first impression can be shattered by an empty head. Though "hot" gives some people lattitude.
He does not have to be hot - just has to be healthy and not somebody I consider to be very ugly but a guy who meets my visual standards is not dateable unless he also meets my personality expectations too.
I believe looks is 80% of attraction. In order for someone to like your '' personality'' , you should pass the '' looks test '' first. it is proven by many studies that good looking people are thought to be nicer ( even if there are evidence to the contrary) , smarter , more successful , usually good looking people earn more as well... Most people treat beautiful people better in general. So if people admire you and treat you better since you were a child because you were good looking , you become confident and because people want to be around you , you attain '' social skills '' and you better them easily than normal looking or bad looking people , because people want to be around you. So if you are good looking you have not only the looks but also a great deal of the so called '' personality '' and behavioural characteristics that will enable you to have a relationship. From a point and onwards , having success in he dating market it becomes a so called '' Self-fulfilling prophecy'' for the good looking people !!
Physical appearance, as you suggest is important for the first impression but other than that quite irrelevant.
For me personally I'd say that I need some attraction first - I'd be lying if appearance doesn't matter at all, but that's really not even the biggest factor. It might also be his eyes, something quirky he does, the same interests, ... Once there's a connection if he cares for himself that's enough. The personality and the way you connect on a personal level are the most important.
Physical appearance is not super important, but it's certainly not something to be overlooked either. Looks certainly aren't everything, but I think far too many people try to reject the importance of it.
Men seem to be more aware of importance of physical appearance as most men are aware how challenging dating is. I think women think that they can get away with having lesser physical appearance as women seemingly has a higher advantage in dating for the past 10 years or so.
My suggestion is for everyone to be more mindful of their physical appearance. It's not a must to be a perfect 10 in looks for sure, but it's important to stay healthy and be aware of one's fashion sense.
Good appearance and elegance. Good manners and someone who knows how to converse well. A well-put-together appearance means that the person cares about looking good for you, which is pretty flattering. It also says something about their personality.
If someone looks sloppy, smells bad, overweight, etc. it shows a lack of self-discipline which is unattractive.
Aside from physical appearance, things like punctuality, good communication, and honesty are also important.
Unless we met anonymously online and were attracted to eachothers “great” personality, looks is more important at the start of a relationship. Looks is what initially attracts me. Personality is what will keep me. Looks will fade with age. Personality must stay. But overall, i need to be attracted to both in order to want to stay.
The first initial attention getter is going to be something physical. That's just a part of life. You like what you like. My version of a 10 isn't going to the same as the next guys..
Beyond that it's character and personality. Does the inside match what I see on the outside?
Initially it is a significant factor, since that's what drew me to you in the 1st place. It of course won't determine whether I stay with you or not though personality also makes up for that. Personally though I would have to find you at least decently attractive to date you.
You should appear presentable. You want to give the impression that you want to look your best. Everyone has physical flaws and nobody is perfect. I met this girl in college that was not gorgeous in the looks department. She described herself as plain. I used to hang out with her because she was really interesting however after a while I found myself falling in love with her. There was just something unique about her.
@lsksni10 lying ass. Lmao. Yeah dude I get you but you're not gonna like some underweight girl or even some thin girl who is a slob and doesn't groom herself. People need to stop acting like looks don't matter a lot. Just groom yourself and work out. It ain't that hard. Just req self-discipline. If your partner the best of you. Be the best of you.
Grooming is a different thing. I am talking about the factors someone cannot change.
Anonymous
(18-24)
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It's very important, I mean its not like I need the hottest guy out there, but just as long as I don't see him as unhealthy or ugly. Because if I'm not physically attracted to someone, that relationship won't last it or I would have wandering eye. That wouldn't be fair to me or anyone else. I hate when some people say it's "shallow" to want someone that's I think is attractive. I think it's perfectly healthy and not shallow at all.
Hugely important at the beginning, but obviously becomes less important once you get to know the person. Then personality/compatibility is the most important. I only date people I’m attracted to both physically and mentally
To me at my age make me laugh, be honest, do crazy stuff with me, think outside of the box, don't snuff the small stuff, hygiene & dress nice, cleanliness,& are taking care of yourself 😎😁👍
They don't have to be hot or even cute, as long as I'm attracted to them... So basically if they aren't butt ugly I could think all of them are date material.
I think it is just one aspect of many that I could be attracted to regarding a person. Although in my experience, it's usually setting me up to be let down by their personality in the future.
Very important it is... if you are always conscious of your appearance at all times of your life, if not than NO, or else you may have to keep the facade up just to impress someone.
It does matter. I'm not saying you have to fit some unrealistic image or be a model, but being at least average is necessary. Personality and compatibility are obviously the most important thing, but if I find someone unattractive, the sex life is going to be affected. That's true for anyone and when you can't stomach sex, the relationship is dead.
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