What are qualities that are rare in women today and would make a girl dateable?

[Anonymous]

[MCheetah]

Rare traits found in a High-Quality Woman:

1. Selfless / Modest:
Doesn't try to make everything all about her. Meaning she isn't selfish. Can hold a conversation about other people without worrying about what she gains from it.

2. Heterosexual:
There is no "flexibility" to this. You're either a woman that would never kiss/fondle/sleep with another woman, or you're gay/queer. None of this "bi-curious" crap. That's a dealbreaker, for me. Only straight women.

3. Monogamous / Loyal:
Not only does this mean she's not into that immature, narcissitic AF "open relationship" polyamory bullsh*t, but that she also is willing to stick by her man and not have a queue of "potential rebounds" she's keeping lined up on her phone when the current relationship goes south. So many women nowadays have a "backup boyfriend" or a "Plan B man" and it's disgusting.

4. Classy:
Like the above you wouldn't make out for other women for "shock value," and you respect yourself and your body. You're an attractive woman, but don't go showing your body to men who aren't your partner.

5. Legitimate Sense of Humor:
"Girl jokes" (unfunny ones) don't count. You can either take a roasting as a girl, or you can't.

6. Gratitude:
Doesn't get a chicken wing and ask for the whole bucket. Can appreciate what she has, especially as a first-world woman.

7. Hard-working:
Is willing to put in a hard day's work. Not even as much as a man; just enough to sweat from it and not complain 20 minutes into the work shift.

8. Sane / Rational:
Self-explanatory. She's not crazy or blames all her problems on her emotions/period. Though this may be asking for too much from women.

9. Intelligent
This is rare for either gender, but SUPER rare among women! Intelligence means not only is she smart and quick-witted, but open-minded, and willing to admit she could be wrong. One of the biggest traits of intelligence is admitting you don't have all the answers or the knowledge you thought you knew could change tomorrow.

10. Open and Honest
There's few things more annoying than women who blame things on you, but won't tell you what's wrong or expects you to be a mind-reader. Men don't have time for that bullsh*t! Use your mouth like you do when around other women and TALK TO US! Tell us what's wrong! Tell us what's on your mind! A key to any relationship is open communication! Men do want to talk to women, but women usually bite their heads off for being honest, reducing men's willingness to do so.

All of these are rare traits that make a top-quality woman and someone who is very dateable. I'll add in, all of these traits are also what I can provide myself (or the male equivalents of) and wouldn't ask of anything I myself can't provide.

[HawkPerception]

Openess - This one is huge with me. Openess and communication are the keys to building trust. My ex and I used to always just tell each other where we are and who we're with whenever we changed locations. And the thing is... we never asked each other to do this. It was just done mutually out of respect for each other without the need for words. We also spoke our minds... anything we felt, we'd say. And we would let each other see each others phones (which we never really cared too much about because we trusted each other that much). Because of these points, we trusted each other blindly.

Embracing femininity - Many girls nowadays are with radical feminism. They think that women can do all the same things as men. They believe they're entitled to the same things as men while also having all the benefits of being a girl. Many discreetly try to avoid cooking because they don't want to be fall into traditional ways. They sometimes even go so far as to avoid wearing dresses. There is nothing a guy likes more than a girl that embraces her femininity.

Confidence - This is attractive not only in men, but in women. Many women just wait and expect men to approach them becauss that's what we're socially conditioned to do. But guys love a direct girl or one that's not afraid to show her interest. Going against the norms of society also shows us you have a head of your own.

[crazy8000]

Emotional mature.
Trustworthy.
Initiative taking.
Selflessness.
Something more than a front/image.
Ability to talk properly/build deep rapport.
Lacks drama.
Straight forward.
Aren't full of ideology/presumption/expectations/judgment.
Puts real effort.
Doesn't blame others.
Lacks unwillingness.
Doesn't play games.
Have basic social skills.
Have some basic skills to read people accurate.
Doesn't make up thing's to get their own way in some way.
Doesn't lie.
Doesn't throw tantrums.
Doesn't hitt or push people because she get a feeling.
Doesn't pull victim thing's.
Can support themselves and take care of themselves.
Kok.
Doesn't try to control/shange/improve others.
Takes charge when needed and let others take charge when needed.
Secure with in yourself, especially how you look and doesn't put on makeup.
Doesn't care what other's think and say (especially about her )
Doesn't seek attention/validation.
Fateful.
Physical activity like exercise.
Proper life habits.
Playful and serious when needed.
Respect others opinions and choices.
Lacks superiority complex.
Can defend themselves and other's when needed ( verbally)


Here are some.

[blank_expression]

Women have become relationship dysfunctional by anti-men cultural bombardment programing. They want men to approach…no that is a bad thing, they want them to open doors…no bad…they want them to pay …no bad. I really don’t think it is possible to list the important stuff without being “misogynistic.” I would say that any things that would make women dateable would be considered misogynistic and oppressive. Women have zero respect for men and that is the central issue to your question. Therefore, ask yourself if you have more respect for a cat or a man and given that it is the cat, just do yourself and the rest of the world a favor and take yourself out of dating altogether. You won’t or can’t accept the truth.

[JDavid25]

Not being self entitled, or narcissistic/humility which is affecting both men bad women but women have it crazy since they get more attention, and society is sort of catering to them. Actually putting some effort in and not expecting somebody to carry personality and thought for the both parties. Taking the time to know somebody and not get "bored" within the first few messages, or upset over some disagreement.. Which leads back to self entitled and narcissistic. There's a lot of nice women out there.. You just gotta look through the mess to find the treasure.

[ChrisMaster69]

Compared to when I guess.

The biggest dynamic has been social media and girls trying to be Instagram types.

trying to fit in to this artificial ideal for what a girl should be.

A dateable girl is one that does her own thing, does not follow this fake shit on social media.

is prepared to have a career, to be successful in her own right.

to be confident in who she is without needing to ask social media or a guys opinion.

has her own opinion and not simply following what latest influencer says she should be saying.

is not afraid to push social limits and expectations.

a passion for learning things and not spoon fed bollocks from social media.

the list goes on.

oh small boobs, tattoos and piercings, red hair (or funky dyed stuff).

[JSmuve]

Agreeableness and compliance --> too many want to challenge guys because they're insecure and think cooperation is weaknessNot whoring herself out because she's "trying to live her best life" --> few guys want to know that their women has been with an small apartment worth of guys before she made it to youHaving a commitment to making her man happy --> lots of girls are only in relationships for the wrong reasons and think it's the guy's job to always please her without committing to reciprocating Excelling at domestic house duties --> how many women can cook well, bake, keep a clean house, and can manage their finances? Lack of a social media presence --> many women put more time in curating their Instagram than their relationship and this leads to unrealistic relationship expectations

[Dchrls78104]

I would say:
1. Modesty.
2. Ability or willingness to cook: in my country too many subsist on Kentucky Fried Chicken and this has been exposed now because KFC stores are closed in the pandemic lockdown.
3. Natural Beauty: nearly every woman these days has or knows a girl who has tattoos and body piercings or some fake body part.
4. Contentment: where would you find a girl these days that is not high maintenance or materialistic?
5. Virginity or Chastity: in many parts of the western world most girls have lost their virginity before the age of 12!

[Dchrls78104]

6. Actually thinking for oneself: O, for a girl who really does this and doesn't merely accept propaganda or follow popular trends!

[kevyhanma]

Having an identity outside of your looks , money and materialism

being rich and pretty isn’t a personality

having self respect and not referring to yourself as a bitch a

behaving in an elegant manner

kind kind kind

intelligence or common sense or at the least and eagerness and interest in learning more (this one is more for people in general)

being compassionate and selfless seeing value in others even when they don’t (again people in general)

Being loyal and genuine if you can’t be with me at my worst you don’t deserve my best

not being afraid to be vulnerable (I feel like too many relationships nowadays are one sided and there is always one putting in more)

be direct make your intentions clear don’t lead people on just so you can benefit

[clampfan101]

I don’t know what qualities are rare in women today, but most of what makes someone datable comes with being a good Christian. If a girl’s Christian, I’ll give her a chance.

[Asker]

Love your answer. Curious, are you part of a denomination?

[clampfan101]

I go to/watch church, but that’s about it.

[Anonymous]

What are qualities that are rare in women today and would make a girl dateable?

Ture femininity, and by that I do not mean in appearance. I mean in personality, character and values. Women have largely turned their backs on true femininity today, so it's rare to find one who embraces it. They are the highest value and most sought after women because they understand the value of their femininity, the value of masculinity and, most importantly, the beauty of the relationship between the two.

The relationship between masculinity and femininity is a very adversarial one today, which is sad and destructive to both men and women.

[Qdbrown]

Submissive, caring, compromising, young and family-oriented.

What would have me running out the door would be a masculine woman, an only child woman, a feminist, an educated career-oriented woman. A mean or nasty habits. Bad morals and questionable character. Liar, cheater or even smoker. I would not like a woman who had a lot of guy friends or has a history that half the town knows about.

[FoxnEagle]

Self-humility without being a total defeatist.
My experience is women who think they are an exception to something, or bury themselves in the ground thinking they're not good enough for something.

I kinda get it, not many people want to be "average," but it is what it is, live with it.

[AlexanderAnttila]

Real submissiveness as in an aversion to rebellious attitudes. Which is balanced with a strong spirit and character so that she isn't just a plain-jane boring-dame.
Active desire for motherhood.
Non-quarrelsome, willing to drop things to move on.
Willing to admit fault and actually wanting to rectify mistakes.
Genuinely fun to be around. That might sound like scathing critique but few women I have met have been real fun just to hang out with.

[Torari]

I wouldn't say rare, but a lot of women suppress it because of social pressures to be "strong and independent". Which feminists seem to think is impossible if you're primarily a mother.

But i find it very attractive when a woman has strong maternal instincts. The kind of woman who puts kids before career.

[Kenpachi04]

Any quality of a girl is dateable depending upon the opposite persons preference ! There are many qualities and each person has his own set of likes and dislikes in each quality ! I personally prefer the ones who share their true thoughts and feelings to the best they can ! So that I will be able to understand them much clear to enable a smooth relationship.

[amaguqe]

Today, at least among my generation and bit younger than me, it would be so refreshing to stumble upon a girl that is not depressed. It is heartbreaking for me that this is the case, but it seems true.

Generally speaking, I think hook-up culture sucked the fun out of dating. It simply doesn't feel good to jump from one person to another. Also, sex is way better when you are with someone for a longer period of time, when you learn how to tick each other's boxes.

[SlavBoi]

Being self sufficient and actually willing to be on equal level, being a hustler
So that we both pay for lunch, mortgage, gifts, fun and all that.
If someone's gonna be spoiled in the relationship, it should be both of us.
If a woman can start a business and make the best out of life by herself (she probably wouldn't date me then), it's a 100% yes from my side

[Furuok]

Acceptance? Woman always say they like aggressive men. I'm so damn aggressive. I often get warning like " my boyfriend " or " your old enough to be my dad " to be so ugly can't have a normal conversation without having women think I just want them. Can I have a nice day where there's a beautiful lady and a conversation? Crap why do women make me feel like a creep when I know I already look like one.

[Anonymous]

It's rare for women to genuinely care about the guy. This may come as a shock to you but it's true. You can be a caring person and still not give a hoot about him and most women don't. What do I mean? I mean you can ask her does she like him and she'd say yes but she wouldn't be able to tell you why. In other words she would say " I like his biceps" but she would have no clue what his dreams and aspirations are. Because most women only care about a guy deep enough to how it affects them.

[HopelessRomantic273]

Your telling the sad unfortunate truth bro

[RawIronhide]

Humility, everyone is "pretty" and that makes them feel entitled for some reason. Every girl I've talked to sense graduation likes to brag that they were a model. Its not that impessive and is kinda shallow for you to think I'm impressed by that.

[JackSmy]

Things that have ALWAYS been true, and necessary: Integrity, Honesty, Compassion, Fidelity.
If she has all of those, I couldn't care less if she was a waitress, or Doctor! It is about those traits, and how we relate, and how we like one another.

[Defo1818]

Humility and empathy. Considering what time we live in and how much girls have made it known about their flights and struggles is amazing how girls do not extend the same empathy to men.

I think every girl needs to learn to be humble and also know that there's probably just as many conscious or unconscious sexist notions that happen to men just as much as women

[ohshee]

Confidence happiness being able to laugh at themselves not talking about other people can read eyes can talk with her eyes without one word a seductive sensual l o v e r

[Knighted2170]

The most rare I come across is comfortable with her own beauty. Not just in basic looks, but her entire body. Flaws and all.

Finding a woman with that trait is very rare.

[Anonymous]

manners the ability to say please thank you excuse me and to hold the door open for someone who's carrying stuff. not to burp fart or pick their nose. the ability to show gratitude and have gratitude and not take someone for granted and to show appreciation. and not to be a man hater or a feminazi and to show some class and not act slutty or act like a whore or cheat every chance a woman gets

[genericname85]

When women would acknowledge the difference between men and women and stop seeing every man as potential rapist or murderer or sex offender... That would really help.

[loveslongnails]

The "rarest" quality in a woman not only today, but forever, has been the ability to understand, then accept a man for what he is without trying to change him. Find me a girl who can do that and now we're talking.

[The_Maphio]

Coherence, depth, knowledge about what they want to be, a healthy inclination towards NOT murdering their children.

[Leavesbound]

If she's a nice person and likes me that would be at the top of the list. Other positive attributes would be intellect, nice smile, nice hair.

[Interstate]

The ability to interact with a man without playing head games and behave with a two-faced attitude towards him.

[Lionman95]

If she´s trustworthy and kind. A woman that´s not materialistic and traditional in way of not being sexual orientated.