Girl deleted her tinder account before the first date? Is she jumping the gun?

[red324]

This girl i'm going on a date with messaged me and said I wish I didn't delete my tinder account, now I can't look back at your pictures. lol Is she kind of jumping the gun on this one? Or maybe she just decided she didn't like any of the guy on there? She did think the whole thing was stupid, but I'm pretty sure guys send girls dumb messages on there.

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I texted her saying I was going to head home to get ready and that id see her at the restaurant. She texted about 30 minutes later saying she wants to reschedule for tomorrow night instead. This is twice now she's rescheduled. I got better things to do with my time then put up with this bs, but I'll admit usually they just ghost me, so at least she has the courtesy to let me know and not at the last second. Opinions? I haven't responded yet. Was gonna let her sweat for a minute.

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I hate to just go along with it like a little pussy bit, but I'm interested myself. We talked on the phone and she seems like she has a nice personality.

[coachTanthony]

------------I wouldn't worry about it. It takes like 5 minutes to create a new account so deleting it and starting a new one is quite easy. If it doesn't work out with you it's not a problem putting another one back up. She probably doesn't want to be bothered while she is talking and or dating you which should be a good thing in your mind.

"Never make someone a priority who only makes you an option."
~Coach T Anthony @thedatecoach IG

[red324]

Yeah maybe she's a one guy at a time kind of girl. Most of the girls online are going on dates with like 10 other dudes.

[coachTanthony]

Exactly so I give her credit for being a good person.

[red324]

She's a little hot and cold. Hopefully she doesn't ghost me. We have a date at 6:30 tonight and I always like to make sure nothing came up, but many times they'll cancel an hour beforehand.

[coachTanthony]

Well if they cancel then onto the next. Flakes are the worst but sooner or later you play long enough you find a good one.

[coachTanthony]

Cancelled twice is a strikeout for me. If she was really interested she would make that date. It's a solid pass for me.

[red324]

I rescheduled, but was firm with her about how's she's wasting my time and their won't be another date If she rescheduled again.

[coachTanthony]

Alright well I hope it works out man.

[red324]

It's about the only thing I could think of. It shows that I'm not just going to put up with her bs.

[coachTanthony]

How likely is it that someone this flaky will all of sudden stop being flaky even if she does meet up this time around? Many people tend to show their true colors early on because that is just simply who they are but kuddos for you for giving her a chance. Hope she changes her ways.

[red324]

Beats me. I've been tempted to setup a date I never plan on going on then wait until they're waiting at the table of the restaurant before texting and saying I can't come.

[red324]

Went on a date tonight. She's beautiful. She's already hoping for a second date. We had a great time.

[coachTanthony]

Very nice 👍

[red324]

Kind of surprised how overly eager she is. She doesn't seem to try and hide the fact that she's interested to avoid looking desperate like many women do. She's new to dating again. She just got out of a long term relationship about 6 months ago.

[otaku_owl_91]

You got it made. Try to see if she has other dating apps.

[red324]

She's kind of hot and cold honestly. O have a feeling she's gonna ghost me.

[otaku_owl_91]

You already got her number right?

[red324]

Yeah

[red324]

I think she just doesn't respond much at work is all it is.

[otaku_owl_91]

Don't over text her. Make her wait and think that you're busy.

[red324]

Other than responding to her good morning text this morning I haven't texted all day.

[otaku_owl_91]

@red324 I just read your update. If she put it off, that means she's not really interested. Cut her off bro, or she'll use you for validation or resources.

[red324]

We went on the date the next day. We have another scheduled for Sunday. She really likes me and I think I have a thing for her too. She's really sweet.

[otaku_owl_91]

So who's paying, you or her?

[red324]

For the second date? I'll pay.

[red324]

Offered to pay on the first date. I was like I got it then she goes I'll pay the tip. Lol I'm like okay.

[red324]

I don't even know how much she gave the waitress. The bill was on an electronic tablet. I didn't even know how much the bill was before she gave money to the waitress. Lol

[Browneye57]

The term CATFISH comes to mind. LOL

[Browneye57]

On update...
The general rule is that if you invite a girl to do something, and she declines but offers an alternative, she's interested. If she doesn't off an alternative, she's just not.

This isn't some kind of dating app, right? Please, don't tell us it is. CATFISHED!!! LOL

[red324]

Yes it's a fucking dating app. Not all of us have a huge social circle to meet people through. CATFISH means they aren't the person they say they are. Thinking a catfish situation unless she 300 pounds.

[Browneye57]

And just WAIT till you see her!!! CATFISHED. LOL

[red324]

One of the few times she turned out better than expected. She's literally 5ft tall and like 95 pounds. Lol I love it.

[Browneye57]

So why did she delete her tinder account?

[red324]

Cause she met me. Lol

[Browneye57]

Good luck. Maybe she found 'the one'. LOL

[red324]

I bet she just deleted me. I didn't text back when she wanted me to until the next day. Then a couple days later we were texting and she said she deleted the account.