Why doesn't my boyfriend like to please me in bed?

[Anonymous]

We've been dating for over 2 years now, at the start of the relationship we would have sex a lot but now that we live together he doesn't want to touch me. But when we do have sex he just wants in and out then it done, seems like he doesn't care weather I get off or not. I feel like a piece of meat for him. I've tried to tell him what I like and how to do it and even sent him videos that help men understand but he hasn't even tried. Tbh this is really effecting me and making me rethink our relo

[ChrisMaster69]

You need to sit down and have a very frank open discussion.

cover what it used to be like and how it is now.

explain how he’s not doing it for you any more.

ask him what’s changed.

then if there is nothing forthcoming, tell him no sex for 2 months or similar.

if he can’t change, then you need to look at moving on.

I definitely would not try adding any extra spice if you can’t fix the basic part of sex.

The foreplay, sex and cuddling etc, need to be fixed or you need to move on.

[ohshee]

Being selfish is being lazy and he's making it all about himself that's just wrong I mean when your on your relationship is sending you make me about them even when you're not in a relationship and you have sex you make it all about them that's the best part about it you want to please you want to make her feel something that she's never felt less each time that you have sex I feel bad for you because you're missing out of a lot of good things

[natured]

Well wow i'm really sorry for this it must be very frustrating.
I think you should have a DEFINITE talk to him and be straight forward, don't even beat around the bush, tell him it bothers you and that it's natural that you have your needs, SEX is something for both to enjoy not just for HIM or just for YOU, otherwise it would be better to not have sex at all and you each please yourselves.
HAVE A SERIOUS TALK WITH HIM !!!
Best of luck

[Asker]

I did just tonight and it didn't go well. He thinks I'm all about sex

[natured]

This is sad i'm sorry about it, then in this case tell him that you refuse to have sex with him when he wants to... and if he says something you tell him "well i'm not all about sex" so he will get it

[kidvid80]

maybe you guys fell into a rut of sorts, its no longer new and exciting so its like ehh let me get mine and done. have a conversation with him about it again - i would say he has lost interest not saying cheating just lost interest and its pretty selfish, on his behalf to get off and not care about you if he loves you. why should you keep trying if he doesn't want to at all? you deserve better then that

[Asker]

Please message me, I think you could help me out a lot

[kidvid80]

you have to add me, you are anaon

[kidvid80]

and sure i will do the best i can to help you, im on everday here, the delay in messages is caus eim at work, but ill help you as best i can. i can't message you directly because you posted anon, so you have to dm me, kidvid80

[Asker]

I don't know y I can't message u also

[kidvid80]

should work now, i had the only people who follow could message its open now

[OlderAndWiser]

Want to live like this the rest of your life? You can't make him start caring about you.

[slatyb]

What is not important. It's not working for you and he's not interested in changing. He is a selfish lover. If you don't want to continue to have an unsatisfying sex life, then you will have to find a different partner. Bad sex is a perfectly good reason to end a relationship.

[Harleigh90]

Change the routine, add some weirdness, give him something he hasn't seen in 2 years. Take your clothes and take him to bed! Show him what you like but give a bit back too.

Change your mindset from feeling like a piece of meat to him, be the meat and let him have his meal 😏

[0112358]

He isn't interested in sex in general at this point so it's mainly about you trying to do enough to excite him. The same thing happens when the woman has a super low drive - the sex often becomes entirely tailored to what she finds acceptable enough.

dump him and find someone else.

[TheFlak38]

Sex is your obligation to him. What you want doesn't matter. This is how you pay him back for all the emotional black mail, special favours, attention, him playing your therapist for free and your constant nagging that drives him to an early grave. Sex is literally the only thing you have to offer so let him have his orgasm and then wait for your next dose of attention drugs.

[DavidDong]

Sex is important for any relationship, you tried doing what he likes?
I'll assume you do.
Most would talk it over seriously.
If he still refuses, like, you're only doing yourself harm here

[Leavesbound]

Perhaps it's time to trade him in for a model that works better.

[Anonymous]

He doesn't seem to be that sexually attracted to you anymore. He may be getting sexually pleased elsewhere or something is bothering him I suppose

[Asker]

There's no way that he is getting it somewhere else coz he's on the game or with me. How do I get him to open up, he said to me today. Because we were talking about freaky sex and just sex. "asking me to do tht is like asking a blind man to walk over there, it isn't happening".

[Opinion Owner]

Well just simply ask him about it. Be straightforward

[Asker]

I'll try

[FilmGuy93]

He doesn't put in effort because you've never not given him what he wants.

[2021biguy]

I think you should try to tell him how you feel and see what he says, otherwise you will never be happy.

[Wise4myage]

Because he's selfish and it might be time to move on if things don't get better.

[ManHater]

He got tired of your cunt. Got tired of you. Piece of meat yep.

[bones0271]

Maybe you became the side chick 🐥 and he is screwing another woman 👩

[In_Trance]

Maybe he doesn't know how

[Asker]

I've tired to show him and all but yeah. Would this be a deal breaker for u or am I just over reacting

[In_Trance]

That's definitely a deal breaker. Not the fact that he doesn't know how but the fact that he's unwilling to learn

[Samantha_17]

Teach him how to do it properly :)

[anylolone]

Have you tried taking control of your own body?

[Iron_Man]

Ask yourself that

[Iron_Man]

What’s the problem you know him better than us

[Iron_Man]

You’re a dirty person

[Turtleneck22]

Time for a new man.