Guys, particularly eh looking ones, how do you approach women when you know you're not good looking? Women, how do you feel when it happens?

[Anonymous]

I know I'm bottom of the barrel looks wise, but in life all I want is a partner and to feel comfortable and secure. But the thought of approaching someone cripples me when I stop and think about how I look. Any girl I approach could throw a rock and hit a better looking guy and a guy with a personality that's superior or equal to. So what would make a girl chose me. I know confidence is a thing, but seriously? I keep posting here looking for genuine feedback. I need realistic expectations in life. I dont wanna spend life alone and I don't wanna spend it worrying they'll leave or cheat. I feel like I'm destined to be alone eventually and that love isn't cut out for me.

[lola333]

Hey there!

You're not as bad looking as you are convinced you are, not at all! If I'd see you in public I'd never think of you as ugly or unattractive. And yes personality does a lot. Unless someone's a really bad looking person, if your personality is attractive, it makes the person's look 100 times more attractive. I'm speaking from experience. If I meet a man that's not my type but his personality is genuinely attractive and confident, I start to become interested and attracted towards him.
So definitely don't worry too much about looks. You have nothing to worry about. On some photos you even give me viking vibes :) which is a compliment haha.

Women love confidence. If a guy is confident and it radiates out of him, it's really sexy and masculine. Building your confidence will make you more attractive. But if you're not fully confident yet that's not a big problem, start by going out of your comfort zone, this builds self-confidence.

Now, lots of guys are afraid of approaching women today, not just the ones that feel ugly. But most women enjoy being approached and actually want to be approached.
My advice is to not just approach any random woman on the street that looks like 'wifey material' but to approach only the women that draw you in with their energy, that make you feel safe and good even perhaps from a distance if you've never met them.
Because some guys just want company. And that is okay. But to the girls that get approached by these men, it feels very desperate. It doesn't feel like the guy is interested in them as a person, it more feels like they want you to just meet their needs because they're in desperation for it.
So always be genuine and authentic.

You might feel alone right now but I promise you won't be alone forever. Expect the unexpected. There's no reason for anyone to leave you or cheat on you. You're worthy of love, connection and belonging. And if it's your desire, that's even more indication it is your destiny to receive exactly that.

[Asker]

I personally just love having someone. Not just anyone, someone I actually like. I'm a sappy dude and I've been told that's unideal. I lack a manly man personality and have a hopeless romantic one. How do girls really feel about that mentality if you don't mind me asking? I know it's preference really but I'm unsure if it's just a bad one to have.

[lola333]

Like you just said - it's a preference. Every woman is different, just like every man is different. I'm personally a sucker for masculine men but I have soo many girlfriends that love men that are more feminine personality wise and romantic!! so don't worry. There is always someone out there to complement you.
Work towards being confident in who you are. Be your authentic self. If that authentic self is hopelessly romantic, own it! There are billions of people in this world, and I am very sure there is a very large group of women that love men like you.

[DarkCarousel]

Eh looking? Is that how you’d describe the man in the photos? He’s good looking!

[TedBundysghost]

Yeah... when i was 18-24 i thought that looks mattered when it came to dating...

A decent bank balance covers a multitude of sins 😉

[Cerberus_1773]

IdeologyYou aren’t ugly, and this is coming from a verified female. I think that you look kind of scary in some of the pictures, kinda like you might pull out a knife on someone, but you definitely aren’t ugly.
If you approached me in person, I would definitely be shy and nervous. You have very nice hair and even your beard looks good!
As far as for approaching someone, honestly this will sound cheesy af but just be you. It’s better to end up in a relationship with someone who loves you for you and nothing more or less than to have someone who lives the ideology of who you wish you were.

[Asker]

In person it's not as bad. My eyes tilt downwards and it kinda makes me look angry all the time.

[Cerberus_1773]

It’s only in a few of those pictures so yeah I’d believe it
That bottom left picture on the top? Stunning!

[Cutie0059]

When ANYONE asks me out, who's not a creep, I will give them a chance due to my own cripplingly low self esteem.

[Asker]

Interesting. What if someone isn't a creep but kinda looks like one due to genetic facial features

[drummergirlkimmy]

Is this a joke? You're hot! Surely, you know that, right?

[Asker]

No on paper I'm ugly and have been told many of times