Guys: why do you sometimes rush things with a girl to be in relationship with her? you’ve known each other only a month?

[TessCasie]

You’ve only known the girl for a month and you’re talking to her about having serious relationship

[TonyV]

Excuse me? From my experience on tinder most girls say eight of the bat the want something serious, some even say the want marriage, they set the expectations high before we ever even talk.
My profile said something like looking for fun and seeing where it goes and I got ignored.
So are far as I can tell women usually are the ones rushing into things

[TessCasie]

What I meant is the girl is currently abroad on vacation both met each other online and now it’s been just chats and video calls untill she comes back to the country. So then is it normal for a guy to say things like I’ll come pick you up from airport and if things work out well I want you to move in. For my case the guy is rushing it. Also to be clear met on pof. She’ll be back after three months. And the guy is constantly saying I hope you know this is gonna get serious once you get back to the country. And insists maybe you could move in? Don’t you think he’s rushing it.

[TonyV]

Ok, yeah he may be rushing it a bit, maybe give her a week to get settled in at least

[TessCasie]

Actually this is what’s going on with me. Yes he’ll give me a week but what I’m worried is why get so serious so quick?

[TonyV]

Some people just like to move fast, I dont know why. I would want to start seeing you ut I wouldn't want to move in with each other

[TessCasie]

Yeah lol makes sense. It’s not like I’m worried about moving in. What’s bothering me is why he getting so serious so quick

[TonyV]

Well you said youd been talking for 3 months in your other post right? To me it seems right to be somewhat more serious, not a serious as living together but should be going on dates and hanging out

[TessCasie]

Ok I got a question as a guy how many girls do y’all talk at a time through online dating app?

[TonyV]

Well most girls dont give me a chance, and looking back I can think of some things I should have done differently that probably made some uninterested in me, butt I think the most I ever talked to at one point was 5, I've got a girlfriend now so I'm not on any dating sites now

[TessCasie]

So you met her online? And how long did it take for you to decide her to be your girlfriend?

[TonyV]

I think 2 months, and now we've known each other about 8 months

[TessCasie]

by the way what’s bothering me is his sentence saying “ by the time you land in the country we’ll already be in relationship or stop talking long before you get home” I’ll be going back to the county after two months I’m currently on vacation? So the word relationship is bothering me. Why can’t he just slow down and say I’m excited to meet up date and hangout with you.

[TessCasie]

What I meant is I left the county in June that’s when I got him online I’ll be back in two months ie September

[TessCasie]

So since end of June and now July we’ve been texting video call online

[TonyV]

I geuss he's trying to make sure he's not wasting his time, so I really dont know why he even talked to a girl he knew he wouldn't see for 3 months

[MrCommodore]

If they are meeting once or twice a week for the first 3 or 4 weeks and constantly on the phone, then I could understand them indicating at the 1 month mark that they really like each other and see it becoming a committed relationship.

In my personal experience, Its actually always been the girl pushing for confirmation that this is a relationship or that a relationship is what I want.

[TessCasie]

What I meant is the girl is currently abroad on vacation both met each other online and now it’s been just chats and video calls untill she comes back to the country. So then is it normal for a guy to say things like I’ll come pick you up from airport and if things work out well I want you to move in.

[TessCasie]

She’ll be back after three months. And the guy is constantly saying I hope you know this is gonna get serious once you get back to the country. And insists maybe you could move in? Don’t you think he’s rushing it.

[TessCasie]

I’m facing this issue by the way and the guy concerned is 40 year old divorced guy with share custody of kids. I can’t understand why he getting so serious so quick he’s like I hope once we meet in person well like each other.

[MrCommodore]

Oh okay, thats different, I don't get why he would be so eager in that case. I find it strange that he is the one seeking a relationship so badly, I've never been in that situation.

[TessCasie]

by the way he’s recently divorced 40 year old guy.

[MrCommodore]

Perhaps this recent divorce has left him homeless, as I don't know anybody who would rush into a relationship like that.

[ohshee]

Because guys thinks girls are stupid they think that if they can rush you into a relationship the pasture they're going to get sex and disappear just remember one thing no matter what you're always the boss do that guys do that aren't they start to do that let them think whatever they want to think because they're dummies

[dudeinohio]

Actually my girlfriend of 2 years and I got serious in a month. It all depends on the people and the situation.

[TessCasie]

Did y’all meet online? And what made you make her your girlfriend within a month?

[dudeinohio]

We met on POF. We hit it off immediately. We have identical sense of humor... identical likes and dislikes insofar as tv shows. Our personalities and outlooks on life are darn near identical. We are both single parents of teens. We were pretty much a perfect match. We talked for a week before out first date. Things did progress quickly; but we were very comfortable with each other.

[bowenw]

Some people are impatient or desperate and aren't thinking straight. I would tell people like that to dial it back until you've known each other for a few years.

[curiousbeing6169]

Boy's become hopeless tbh , after being in relationship at times
Or your boy is telling a lie just to gain some physical interaction with you or your boy is somewhat highly emotional. Who knows

[realDonaldTrumpJr]

Tryin to get the booty like I'm Captain Jack or something

[TessCasie]

Wow as if there are no other girls

[realDonaldTrumpJr]

@tesscasie There are lots of fish in the sea but most taste terrible. Not every one is a flounder, tilapia, tuna, sword fish, etc. There's a lot if clown fish out there.
You've also got crazy girls which are essentially puffer fish. Yeah, the sex is good but it's a constant gamble with your life and just not worth it in my opinion. 🐡

[Slim57]

Just really interested and love having you around obviously

[TessCasie]

But it’s all online chatting and video call haven’t met in person yet

[TheOracle10]

She is attractive and you want to secure it before anyone else gets their foot in the door, this isn't all that complicated.

[Hawaiikai]

Either they just got out of a relationship and need the attention or they are just weird and desperate.

[MConfused]

Recently done this. Lack of experience with relationships. I find it hard to connect to people, but when I do I get caught up in the moment and lose my cool and ruin what was clear there.

[TessCasie]

What was clearly there?

[MConfused]

Our connection. Attraction to each other. I just jumped to a million miles an hour, and now she’s distant.

[krin_m]

It really depends on the circumstances!