Is it possible guys rush into a relationship if they've met a pretty girl?

Question

There's a re-occuring pattern in my life when I meet a man: it's that he wants to rush into things and "claim" me right away.

And so I've been told that I am not your average looking girl a lot, and I am wondering if this is how men behave when they feel there's a lot of competition? Like they're afraid to lose me to another guy?

Honestly, if so, it's not so great because nobody really takes the time to know me, for me, and love me for who I am as a person...

PJH359 · Accepted Answer

Sometimes it’s difficult to find the right balance, especially when you don’t know someone that well. The physical attraction is full speed ahead but the other aspects of attraction need to catch up. I actually made the mistake once of moving too slowly with a girl. She was complete model material (she in fact was part time) and I was so intimidated by her beauty that I was petrified of doing or saying something that would push her away. However in the end, I pushed her away by dithering and not being assertive enough. She felt I was indecisive and a waste of time. I’ll never forget her as the one that I completely fucked up. My advice? Talk to each other and don’t be afraid of communication. If it’s disastrous, at least you know it just wasn’t meant to be.

Jamie05rhs · Accepted Answer

I think that's a very real factor that you should consider, because it may just be the reality in your case, and there's probably not much you can do about it. Just try to work with it the best you can. Try to corral their energy and use it to make them date you the way you want to be dated. Take charge and tell them to slow down when they need to. You control the brakes in the relationship.

ohshee · Answer

Ok I dont know if this happens to you. But it does me

We are made of water and atoms.
Atoms broke down = energy
Protons neutrons everything on our planet has energy in it and then you add North Pole or South Pole a magnetic pull if you understand this you will understand that this is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world

When we meet somebody there is compatibility there is a chemical release there is energy

I could walk up to you right now and stand next to me and you will feel this beautiful Rush flowing through your body it's as if I was pulling you in close to me there are people they don't understand this and won't feel it there's people that do understand it and will feel it

If you want to feel what it feels like you can get to magnets positive on one side negative on the other side swirl them around each other and watch the way they pull each other in feel the feeling that you feel in between your finger and thumb when you're holding the magnets try to put them together on both sides but don't let them touch incorporate that feeling in through your fingers into your hands into your arms into your whole body is beautiful or I can do what people do when you're making love 1 min before you going to have an orgasm or come there's a moment in time where you can look into the person's eyes you feel this feeling just rushing through your whole body it says if you can read each other's minds is that feeling right there if a guy knows how to do it right he can make you feel that thing up throughout the whole time that you making love most guys can't those guys are selfish and are into it just for themselves if a guy knows how to do it and keep doing it a lot of people mistake that as love as in Falling in Love it's not it's two Energies are compatible with each other enhance each other's feel about their whole body their chemistry are endorphins
So next time you making love pay attention to that moment and you'll see what I'm talking about

Okay so it's the same thing when you meet somebody
You get that energy connection most guys think that it's your beauty if they don't understand the feeling this rushing to their body and sometimes girls have that same feeling and most of the time it's more the girl that has that feelings in the guys guys don't understand that girls can feel it on the inside
So yes both guys and girls rush into things because they feel that moment and it is a very very beautiful moment they can become intense depending on how deep you can feel things like I said once again it is the most beautiful feeling you'll ever feel become one with somebody this. Pretty interesting how it works but we both did a girls and guys

Kaneki05 · Answer

Myself has limerence so I often get feelings fast and want to rush it but that's my condition really.
As for the guys your talking about that's for sure a possibility in more of theory of competition and just wanting you so they've got a great catch.

Either way they need to get to know you for you. Even with my limerence I try my best it's hard but to try remain logical in that sense of getting to know them to see if we fit, to see who they are.
Because otherwise I will get attached to someone I don't actually like or don't fit.

TonyV · Answer

They like you, are smitten by you. They've found what they want so makes sense they would move quickly.
It's probably either an inexperienced guy who's about to go through his first heart break or a player/fuckboy who knows all the right lies to say to try and hit it and quite it real quick.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

Are you sure there moving fast or are you moving at different speeds at different times.
I thought the same thing but ended up finding out I move in to a relationship pretty quickly the first couple of weeks than I slow it down a lot.
Could you start slow and than move fast after a couple of weeks?

Berethor · Answer

It possible, and don't act as if your body is not part of you. :)

virtue2332 · Answer

If they are quick to jump in a relationship that fast and your not average looking it's because they think that you aren't going to sleep with them if you are not in a relationship. It's the only reason they think your hot and they want to bang you. Most guys at that age aren't thinking fairy tale and romance. They see a hot girl and hormones take over. Sure they will date you but that's not the main reason they want to jump in a relationship.

LittleRedRider · Answer

I think it’d depend what his priorities are/what he looks for. I wondered this too at some points. More of it has to do with your vibe and energy than purely just looks. I also think you have to let a guy know you’re not always available. When you have a full life and lots of great things going on and you’re pretty, there will be a natural magnetism about you that draws them near.
I kind of disagree with your question about them though rushing into a relationship with a girl who’s really pretty. In fact, I’ve heard the contrary which is if they feel the girl has so much going on for herself and is so pretty, where is the room for him to fit, or that the girl probably has so many options that he’s not that special. It depends on his ego.

Shamalien · Answer

Nothing is your fault eh? Just too damn pretty, and men can’t control themselves yah? Ever considered that the reason they might rush is because you are always rushing into relationships? YOU are rushing into relationships with guys. YOU. Make a different choice, get different results

EaterPeter · Answer

Yes and no. Dumb me rushed in to two relationships. One at a time.

Xtendable · Answer

You have an image of a young Salma Hayek, and this question reminds me of a movie she was in, called ‘Fools Rush In’

serious · Answer

I think so. Yes.

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