As a fat guy who has never been hit on, I find this very unlikely, 3 women have given me a chance on my whole life. In my experience women are way more picky about looks.
Why are they fat? Are they suffering depression? Have they inexplicably changed lifestyle? I'd need to know more about why and see if they were willing to work on the route cause. I wouldn't want to be with someone who's not going to work to help themselves.
Nah, but u can at least convince them that they'll get diabetes in 2 months if they keep over-eating. Diabetes victims will get blood clots, low sugar levels, high blood pressure, over-eating habits and amputated legs. They'll be a potato forever. So no more walking to the fridge n back unless they change their diet.
If you are simply dating someone with no feelings, sure. If you claim to love the person? are you serious? if you love someone, what they look like should not matter.
If you're not attracted to someone, you're not attracted to them. You can't force attraction.
If you were someone athletic and quite into your health and fitness, and your partner USED to be, and they changed, no one has the right to judge you for no longer being attracted to them.
this is the thing most people don't get, you don't need any reason to break up with someone besides not liking them anymore, love is not rational, if she got fat and I stopped loving her then I would break up with her not because she got fat but because I stop liking her
It’s fair, yes…. If you are not into it, that’s all that matters. I would not tell them that…. I’d just say I’m not feeling it anymore. If they get fat, they know where they are at. If you liked them or were more invested maybe try to be healthy together and see if that works. I’m sure 95% of us want to lose a couple pounds anyways.
but that’s fair. Don’t fake it. That’s not helping anyone.
Yeah that person is better fo with someone that love and takes him/her as they are even if that person got fat. Maybe got fat due to the other one pulling a lot of shit that did give physical side effects that might lead to diabetes type 2 due to negative stress that overloaded stress system most of the times that in itself made cells insulin resistant and brake.
If my man gets fat I'll drag his fat ass to run with me and make better healthier food for him so he can stop relying on fastfood. I might have liked him for his looks but as his girlfriend I have some responsibility towards him just as he has towards me. If I get fat I'll also expect his support to help me loose weight. It's hard. But try helping your partner to loose weight. If they don't change their unhealthy habits for you no matter how much you help them, then leave.
If you can't contact each other for a year you can just call it quit before that year has passed. There is no excuse for no communication for that long.
Yes! Material change. Apply any other standard. You find out they lost their job, got charged with a major crime, took up drugs, cut all their hair off, or went to a funky ugly style. Those are all deal killers.
@ball_so_hard Really? This is a common reason women breakup with men. A very common impetus for a divorce. It happens thousands of times a day, for that very reason and you are claiming harsh? Wow... I guess there is one born every minute.
It's a shallow reason in my opinion, but looks are very important for some people, so... everyone is entitled to have their own preferances and deal breakers.
It feel shallow to me like you only like them for their looks. but I don't think that their is anything wrong in encouraging them to lose weight since it is healthy
Assuming you are not married with children, what would be unfair about it? I don't see that anyone deserved to be loved because life is a competition and if you don't match up to or exceed your competition, you lose out.
Since I jog 10 to 20 miles a week and often enter 1 mile to 10 K fun runs, I believe I meet the definition of physically fit. Some people might question if I'm morally fit.
It is fair to break up with anyone just because you choose to do it and you are not violating anyone's rights by doing it. You do not owe anything to anyone and breaking up with someone who does not suit you is totally right.
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Yes let them live life in peace. They don't need you around being annoying. They will find someone else who is full of joy to be with.
As a fat guy who has never been hit on, I find this very unlikely, 3 women have given me a chance on my whole life. In my experience women are way more picky about looks.
Why are they fat? Are they suffering depression? Have they inexplicably changed lifestyle? I'd need to know more about why and see if they were willing to work on the route cause. I wouldn't want to be with someone who's not going to work to help themselves.
Nah, but u can at least convince them that they'll get diabetes in 2 months if they keep over-eating. Diabetes victims will get blood clots, low sugar levels, high blood pressure, over-eating habits and amputated legs. They'll be a potato forever. So no more walking to the fridge n back unless they change their diet.
If you are simply dating someone with no feelings, sure.
If you claim to love the person? are you serious? if you love someone, what they look like should not matter.
If you're not attracted to someone, you're not attracted to them. You can't force attraction.
If you were someone athletic and quite into your health and fitness, and your partner USED to be, and they changed, no one has the right to judge you for no longer being attracted to them.
So yes, that's fair.
this is the thing most people don't get, you don't need any reason to break up with someone besides not liking them anymore, love is not rational, if she got fat and I stopped loving her then I would break up with her not because she got fat but because I stop liking her
It’s fair, yes…. If you are not into it, that’s all that matters.
I would not tell them that…. I’d just say I’m not feeling it anymore. If they get fat, they know where they are at. If you liked them or were more invested maybe try to be healthy together and see if that works. I’m sure 95% of us want to lose a couple pounds anyways.
but that’s fair. Don’t fake it. That’s not helping anyone.
That person didn't really love.
Shallow.
Yeah that person is better fo with someone that love and takes him/her as they are even if that person got fat.
Maybe got fat due to the other one pulling a lot of shit that did give physical side effects that might lead to diabetes type 2 due to negative stress that overloaded stress system most of the times that in itself made cells insulin resistant and brake.
No, it didn’t matter to me I thought my boyfriend was cute and chubby. I like to touch his belly and pull his cheeks.
If my man gets fat I'll drag his fat ass to run with me and make better healthier food for him so he can stop relying on fastfood. I might have liked him for his looks but as his girlfriend I have some responsibility towards him just as he has towards me. If I get fat I'll also expect his support to help me loose weight.
It's hard. But try helping your partner to loose weight. If they don't change their unhealthy habits for you no matter how much you help them, then leave.
If you can't contact each other for a year you can just call it quit before that year has passed. There is no excuse for no communication for that long.
Yes! Material change. Apply any other standard. You find out they lost their job, got charged with a major crime, took up drugs, cut all their hair off, or went to a funky ugly style. Those are all deal killers.
Fat is a big change.
So your SO loses their job and instead of comforting them, you dump their ass? That's harsh bro.
@ball_so_hard Really? This is a common reason women breakup with men. A very common impetus for a divorce. It happens thousands of times a day, for that very reason and you are claiming harsh? Wow... I guess there is one born every minute.
If they are being careless about their health and not willing to listen to advice. Then yea it’s fair 🤷🏻♀️
No not at all. You both should however discuss it and not leave it as the Elephant in the room (pun intended).
then both get fitter and sort weight thing out
It's a shallow reason in my opinion, but looks are very important for some people, so... everyone is entitled to have their own preferances and deal breakers.
It feel shallow to me like you only like them for their looks. but I don't think that their is anything wrong in encouraging them to lose weight since it is healthy
Assuming you are not married with children, what would be unfair about it? I don't see that anyone deserved to be loved because life is a competition and if you don't match up to or exceed your competition, you lose out.
In any event, the promise is "for better or worse" not "through thick or thin."
Hmm?
Are you fit person?
Since I jog 10 to 20 miles a week and often enter 1 mile to 10 K fun runs, I believe I meet the definition of physically fit. Some people might question if I'm morally fit.
That's fair enough.
i'd sumo wrestle them first and if i win we break up
It is fair to break up with anyone just because you choose to do it and you are not violating anyone's rights by doing it. You do not owe anything to anyone and breaking up with someone who does not suit you is totally right.
Yes because had that person been overweight when you met them you probably would have not gotten involved with them in the first place.