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Should men focus on their purpose between age 18 to 30 instead of chasing women? (Page 2)
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YES. YES. AND YES. My God YES. You have no idea how much chasing pussy especially when it's women that come and go in your 20s are a TOTAL waste of time.
Well, i haven't been chasing women that much and i feel the same way lol.
Probably the best we can do is to do what will make us happy and what will allow us to achive our goals.
Im a hedonist, so i see no other purpose in life but to achieve pleasure. I also happen to be ugly so my 20’s and 30’s have been sexless one of my greatest regrets
I've neen focusing on myself and honesty i really like it
You act as though you can only focus on one thing at a time..
Yep. Total waste of time especially if you don’t want to raise some fuck-ups
Yep especially today. I dont even care to have love of sex in life anymore. Just charity life and the single ride til I die
Never chase women. They don't like to be chased. Same goes for any woman who claims she does.
Just take care of you.
Yeah they should. Its easier to date as a man when you're in your 30s. So yeah they should work on themselves while young and avoid women. Women will be their downfall
Most guys are married with kids by the time they hit 30s.
@nella965 Not all. Some men wait til their 30 and want to date younger women and don't settle down
Your dating pool will be smaller by the time you hit your 30s. 20s is when people have the most active dating lives because this is the age where everyone is still single and like to party and make new friends. When you hut your 30s, you won’t have nearly as many friends and social life. No where near as many single people either
I know a lot of single guys in their 30s. A lot of them tell me that their dating pool was way bigger when they were in their 20s.
Sure you can still find a woman in her 20s if you’re 34. But you just won’t get a wide variety of 20 something yr olds to pick from.
@nella965 eh depends. Are you hitting the gym? Do you have a decent amount of money? Have you built your status up? a lot of older men can get a variety of younger women if they're on top of these things
@Chthou95. Unless you still can manage to look good in your 30s and you’ve reached high status / wealth , then you will have lots of options.
The typical average guy in his mid 30s Is not super attractive or is extremely successful so they typically don’t have these wide options.
You have no idea how many men in their mid to late 30s are single and are struggling to find girlfriends. They all tell me they don’t have the dating lives as they once did in their 20s
@Chthou95
you can go ahead and never date in your 20s. Then you will find yourself 35 and still single , Everyone around you is engaged or married or is having kids. You’ve lost most of your old friends/ social circle because they All got married.
Now You’re balding , growing wrinkles and still haven’t reached A high level of riches.
No woman is gonna marry you just because you make 80k a year. Unless you’re rich and attractive in your 30s, you’re not gonna have a better dating life
I personally know of Plenty of guys in their 30s who don’t Have many options at all. They make decent money but not rich. Most of them struggle to find dates because they no longer have the social lives that they once did in their 20s. Getting dates is all based mostly What your social life is like, not as much how you look or how much money you make. The top reason why people struggle to find dates is due to lack of social life.
you need to realize that as you get older, you will start losing friends. Because your buddies will all eventually get married and have kids. This leaves you with fewer friends to hangout with or go to the bars / parties with. It will also mean that you won't be going out to these bars and parties less , which will also mean that you won’t be meeting nearly as many people as you did when you were younger. This is why many guys in their 30s are finding it harder to get a date.
Dating is much easier when you’re surrounded by single friends and peers. In your 20s, everyone is single. Don’t wait till your 30s, when everyone is married , engaged or with kids. You’re just gonna find it harder to get a date.
It’s not impossible to get a date with a younger woman. But you just won’t have the same variety to pick from
And you also need to realize that women in their early to mid 20s are in no rush to get married. We like to play the field and take their time dating. We have tons of time to get married and have kids. We don’t need to rush.
If you’re 35 years old and still single , you are probably planning to get married so you can start a family in A few years. we may not have the same plans
A 25 yr old may not want to get married and have kids until 5-7 years later.
Or she may even break up with you , if she finds another guy.
@nella965 That's why young man in their twenties, have to work on themselves. They have to work hard. Get in the gym and be consistent for some time while also having a job & building up their resume & make money. I Believe that most can do this and accomplish this. Hard work at the gym and making money and working on your social skills and confidence, will raise a man's value and thus the options come. And again if a man in his 30's has accomplished this, why should he have to settle down? And men just need more support from other people & encourage them to be make their own success and work on raising their value
@Chthou95
It also depends on how you age. You are assuming that all men age well. Keep in mind that some men start balding by the time they hit their early to mid 30s. There are men who age well into their 30s while others do not. Just because you workout at the gym, it doesn't necessarily mean that you will look good in your 30s.
There is also a big difference between being financially stable and rich. Financially stable is not rich.
No woman would marry you just because you are financially stable. Being rich will attract tons of women.
Its easiest to find dates when everyone is still single and you still have your friends to go out to bars / clubs/ parties with. Because by the time you hit your 30s, most of your peers won't be going out to bars to get girls with you. They would be busy at home with their wives and kids.
@Chthou95 You're also not gonna have the social skills to approach women , if you never interacted with women in your 20s. You will just be seen as a 35 yr old virgin. You need to have experience interacting with women , in order to impress women with your social skills.
You act as if dating in 20s is so impossible for men. The reality is most men date in their 20s which is why they are able to be in very steady relationships / engaged / married by their early 30s. Most guys already have kids by the time they hit 35.
Those who never cared to date in their 20s will only find themselves to be playing catch up to other married guys around their age.
you CAN get a woman in her 20s, but you will just have less variety of women to pick from. Because most of your female peers are married. When your 20s, all your peers are single. You don't have to look too far to find a single female. By the time you hit 30s, you no longer have that same "single" social circle. So you must work harder to find single people. Most folks in their 30s also don't party or go out as much as they did when they were younger. So less chance of meeting new people.
These are just observations through my years of interacting with 30 something yr old guys. I have known plenty of them.
@nella965 Nothing is permanent. Just because you don't have any social skills in the early stage doesn't mean you can't work or develop those skills. And listen to what i said, in your twenties you can work and improve on those things and then when you're in your 30's you'll have learned a lot in your twenties. And id say as long as a man can build his status & has a decent amount of money, that can help attract women. There are women are there even younger women who are attracted to men with status and sometimes your looks aren't even a problem if you can work on those things. The gym is recommended because it can help a lot of men but even then other things build attraction. So men in their 30's can achieve this and they shouldn't have to settle and there are a lot of older men that do that
@Chthou95
I think you’re too optimistic about this “success “ or “status” when you hit your 30s. Overwhelming majority of men do not even end up hitting this success or High status in their 30s. Most families in America are living paycheck to paycheck. Most Husbands Can’t even afford To support housewives. Take a look at what is happening right now. A large portion of millennials aren’t even able to afford to buy their own homes.
If every guy in his 30s Were so successful, then why is the world like this? Success only reaches the hands of a few men, not most.
I think you are very much lacking in confidence and personality If you think that you have no chance with women just because you’re not of “high status” or wealth. You’re have a huge lack of confidence in yourself. You believe that you aren’t good enough without having a name plate “high status”.
There are plenty of young guys in their 20s that are dating. Plenty guys who date in their 20s end up being engaged/ married by early to Mid 30s.
You’re not gonna wake up overnight and have these amazing social skills by your 30th birthday. Flirting skills take years and years to develop. You’re not gonna be good at flirting If you have never flirted before.
@nella965 Look at you trying to justify that older men in their 30s should settle lol. And yeah there are a lot of younger men that do but they're in the top percentage of mem that actually get women. They been in the gym, have a job and some money and have confidence and social skills. a lot of 20 year olds don't have these qualities amd some have to work on themselves and sometimes it takes longer than some would expect. And by logic that means i can never pick up a baseball and learn how to throw because i wasn't throwing in my 20s. Being in your 30s doesn't mean you can't develop certain qualities
You just accept the reality that you can’t be good at flirting with women , if you have never practiced flirting with women.
You also can’t accept the reality that very few men reach high status / success in life. Most men in their 30s never reach riches.
Going to the gym isn’t gonna magically cute wrinkles and baldness either.
There are TONS of men who date in their 20s so they can end up being married in early 30s. Why can so many men date in 20s but you can’t?
How would you be good at flirting , if you have never flirted before? Social skills is not flirting. They are not the same.
A man in his 30s who has never had sex , never flirted with women, never had a girlfriend is the same as an inexperienced virgin boy. He won’t know how to flirt , nor would he know how to fuck
@nella965 I learned and i actually learned from the red pill. None of this blue pilled shit that society likes to teach men. And i just said in the other reply that an older man doesn't need a good physique. He can attract with money and status. You act like these thinfs can't be learned. a lot of 30 year old men are successful and dating younger women & again they shouldn't have to settle if they're able to attract younger women from work they put in. There's a lot of younger men who don't chase women and focus on themselves and build their own success because with building that success the value rises in a man. Men have to make their value at a young age, women must preserve their value they have right when they turn 18
@Chthou95
Most 30 yr old guys have no value. No woman is gonna marry you just because you make 80k a year.
@Chthou95.
It’s unlikely that you will reach riches by the time they hit that age. Everything is just a dream for you. Someone Like you who is so lacking in confidence is unlikely to have anything good going for yourself
Most women also won’t tend to prefer significantly older men. Research had found that women prefer men to be 3.5 years older than them
www.google.com/.../what-we-know-about-age-gaps-in-dating-love-and-marriage%3famp
@nella965 "Most women aren't gonna marry you because you make 80k" Who said anything about marriage? 😂
@nella965 And i don't have to be rich, but a decent amount of money will help. When a women tells you, you won't be able to do something, men should use that as motivation to succeed
@Chthou95. It’s not that you want motivation to succeed. It’s just that you know you have nothing to offer women so you need money to make up for your inadequacies.
In other words, you know you suck and have absolutely nothing to offer so you don’t have the confidence at all to speak to women unless you have money
@nella965 What do women offer men besides looks and sex? And i already told you but you listen to respond not to actually listen. A man creates his value and thus attracts women and it could also be from hard work at the gym too
@Chthou95 Well no woman would want to marry you if thats your view on love and marriage. You will be attracting nobody but just gold diggers and prostitutes.
@nella965 a lot of men who are assholes are in relationships. And im not complaining if that's all id be attracting
@Chthou95 Assholes can love their girlfriends too. But no girl will ever marry a guy who does not love her. If you chose to never love , there will be no girl who would want to marry you. Unless she's a prostitute.
@nella965 Why do you keep mentioning marriage? Im not getting married. Im not an idiot
so why would you date women in the first place? why didn't you say you were just gonna fuck around?
@nella965 Do i really have to say that?
@Chthou95 dating is not the same as fucking around. and you don't need a lot of money or high status to fuck around either.
@nella965 I disagree. a lot of men need money or high status and good looks to get laid. Men have to put in work to get laid. That's just the way reality is
You don’t need money to get laid. you only need it if you’re fat and ugly as hell. The typical average looking guy can get laid just fine without money or status
@nella965 Women don't want to fuck average looking men. They want to fuck the top 20 percentage of men that have high value. So yes money can help and does help a lot of guys that aren't good looking
@Chthou95 average looking women are willing to fuck average looking men. the only problem for you is that you're not average looking guy, you're an ugly guy. thats why you need to build wealth and social status for your ugly fat ass to find a girl to bang.
only ugly guys need money. hot guys don't.
@nella965 "Average women are willing to fuck average men" lol that can debunked. And im not fat. Why is that your first assumption dumb ass?
@Chthou95
i know plenty of average looking men who fuck around. If you can't find women to fuck around, it means you're ugly
@nella965 Exceptions don't disprove the rule
Average women think average men are ugly
@Chthou95
Average guys have no problem getting laid. You just don’t want to admit that you’re ugly
@nella965 I can pull up stats to back this up. But of course your dumb ass will still say i see so and so getting laid all the time. Remember exceptions don't disprove the rule. I repeat, Exceptions don't disprove the rule
@Chthou95. Not all stats are true. Plenty of fake stats made up by misogynists.
I know from experience that any guy can get laid unless they are ugly
@nella965 Can i say the same thing about feminazis stats against men?
Women find 80% of men unattractive while the top 10 to 20% are getting anywhere with women
@Chthou95
It’s easier to fuck around than date. If a one night stand is too hard for you, then it means nobody is attracted to you
It’s not hard to understand why
The fact that you need money to sleep around , it shows nobody wants to sleep with you cus you’re ugly.
@nella965 Womem can get laid easier then men. So we're both looking at the hookup world through a different lense. a lot of guys that can't get laid aren't ugly. It's just that women's standards are rising more & more & part of the reason why is because of the internet & dating apps. Men that aren't even ugly are being rated as ugly because women don't want average. They want above and model type men. And only 10 to 20% of men are getting laid while the other 80% are invisibile to women. You don't have to be ugly to struggle in the dating and hookup world as a man
@Chthou95 from My experience, you will eventually get laid on dating apps if you’re average looking guy. If u can’t get laid at all, it means ur ugly
Stop blaming women for your unattractiveness. It’s not our fault ur so ugly
@nella965 Average men hardly get laid on dating apps dumb fuck. There are stats that prove it. And no exceptions don't disprove anything. Women's standards are rising & a lot of average men are not enough. And again i need to say this again and hopefully your dumb ass actually understands this. EXCEPTIONDS DON'T DISPROVE THE RULE
@Chthou95. Average men DO get laid and dates. These men who aren’t getting laid are called “ugly”. But to you, alL ugly men are “average men”
@Chthou95.
MOST AVERAGE MEN DO GET DATES. Most of the population is average looking. If no average looking men were getting dates and having sex , our human population wouldn’t exist anymore.
@nella965 Dumb ass. I told you that average men are considered ugly to a lot of women even average looking women. Average women want higher than average men. I can send you a link to show stats that were done on this
women have lower standards for one night stands than dating. when women are just looking to fuck, they aren't looking for a rich man. they are just looking for a guy who looks fuckable.
@nella965 "Women have lower standards when it comes to one night stands" 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@Chthou95 only you would be offended by that cuz you're ugly
@nella965 How old are you?
it doesn't matter. how do you look?
@nella965 It does. How old are you?
post a pic of yourself. how do you look
@nella965 Post your age. How old are you
My age is not even related to this discussion.
What’s so hard about posting a pic?
@nella965 Ah okay. You're 27. Close to hitting the wall years
I’m no where close to hitting the wall. My mom birthed me at 37
Only ugly guys need money to fuck
by the way. You’re also wrong. I am not 27
@nella965 Do you know what hitting the wall is?
@nella965 And there's nothing wrong with that
@Chthou95 there are plenty of guys would accept a woman who has hit the wall. On GAG, all of you like to say that you won't date any woman over 30. But in reality, 80% of all men on the planet are extremely desperate. They will take absolutely any woman who pays any attention to them. This is why you see men on here crying about why women have such high standards.
I'm an chubby overweight girl who can still get guys interested in me, chasing me, telling that they like me. what makes you think a 40 yr old woman would struggle to get a man?
Unless you're asexual I doubt it's going to work 🙂
Men should have balance. Pursue their dreams and the women they desire. Have fun
You already know it's YES. Just make sure tonprctice social skills in the meantime so u don't become a feral creature.
At age 18 your focus should be chasing women, unless you already caught one. ;)
You never heard of multi-tasking?
You're supposed to get married to a good woman, not chase whores around.
I’m not chasing whores
Men should allways focus on their purpose.
It's possible to do even with someone.
“FoCus oN yoUr pUrposE”
You mean become a carpenter?
You should spend time on both, life is too short to not enjoy it to the fullest.
Just focus on the purpose forever if a woman wants you she'll find you and if she doesn't then she won't
Yes, once they do they will have a much easier time in the dating world.
I did career, and it worked.
I do wish I started a family earlier (even at 20)
Definitely. They don't get good guidance from coaches and fathers nowadays.
Why even chase people in general. So yes you dont have to chase anyone
You are absolutely right.. chase money.. women will follow
You know... that's actually a really good point.
In Ancient Greece that was definitely the case. Most men didn’t marry until 30 or older. It had to do with maturity for the most part.
doesn't matter if you're 18 or 30 the later is never a good idea
What if your purpose is to chase women?
Life is all about balance.
-Mr Miyagi
With that username, you surely should
Yes of course and so should women
If you want to have a family the chase away.
You should do what makes you happy. That's it ;)
Women are almost always a waste of time.
What if that IS the purpose?
Yes. I would say up to 25 27. If not 30.
It's all about balance!!!
You don't represent entire men bro
Whats their purpose?
Yes i agree that they should follow there purpose
Women should never be a man's priority.
I already have
Started to focus
Yes.
balance of both
Yes. 100% yes.