Would you date someone who is messy?

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Lost_in_the_Woods · Accepted Answer

Messy? Absolutely. That's a huge plus and I actually think it's adorable.

Dog pee on the floor, absolutely not.

I had a buddy who would literally scoop the dog shit off his bed with his bare hand. He had a lot more sex than I did but, I wasn't jealous. Any girl who got in there with him was doing the rest of us a favor by outing herself as... Not what we were looking for.

But if you leave your socks and makeup on the floor, come over and let's build a messy nest of things we like and call it home.

rebelsunshine · Accepted Answer

No, I wouldn't. Messy people live hectic and chaotic lives because they are so disorganized. They may be smart and likeable in other respects, but if they can't organize their own lives well that's a big turn off.

That said, I have dated some artistic/creative types who didn't keep things as neat as I'd like while we were living together. They've been the only two exceptions to my rule of not dating messy women.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

A bit messy I could probably deal with. I'll have to do more, but eh-.
But generally speaking I like clean, hygienic, and organized people. They tend to be conscientious and I prefer that (though they may also be fussy and pedantic. But they're the lesser of two evils, in my opinion.) Plus, I have a really strong sense of smell, and I'll get grossed out and lose respect for someone who is dirty and lives dirty.

TrueConfection · Accepted Answer

My husband is messy. I'm a neat freak. I don't mind picking up after him most of the time, but some days it is annoying. I think what bothers me most about (some?) messy people is their ability to whine about not being able to find something in their own mess. That makes me CRAZY. If we ever split up, I wouldn't date another messy person.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I’d date somebody who is messy with clothes and furniture but not somebody who is messy with sanitation or hygiene or food. So I’d date a messy person but not a dirty person.

Novacane · Answer

I don't think I can, I know that everyone has their own way of keeping clean or their own styles of cleaning, but if they are just completely messy it's like dating a kid and no one wants that. I also link messiness with hygiene, if someone can't even keep their house/room/stuff clean what makes you think that they can keep themselves clean.

Coulis · Answer

I probably would not. Clutter literally makes me go insane. I have had a psychotic break and nearly from dealing with the moderate hoarding issues of a family member. I am a photographer so I'm highly Visual and meth just absolutely drives me up the wall.

hannahjo022 · Answer

Sorry but no I can't date someone messy. Its means they don't got their stuff together. I don't want to go to a guys home when I start dating him and see his bathroom is gross, kitchen dirty, and room messy with unmade bed with dirty clothes on the floor.

exitseven · Answer

I dated the biggest slob you could imagine. When she did laundry she never folded it and put it away, she just piled it on her bed and picked though it when she needed something to wear, her dog would pee on the floor and she would just let it dry. She had a litter box for her cat. It was probably changed one a year.

Floppy2112 · Answer

Not anymore... Well I wouldn't live with them. If you are not messy and the other person is, it causes anxiety for the non-messy person. It actually does matter. Clutter makes me crazy. I am not super neat, just prefer for things to be put back where they came from.
Anecdote: My ex and I had an agreement. When she cooked, I cleaned. And when I cooked, I cleaned. And I did 95% of the cooking and cleaning.

Tunasub · Answer

Being messy can be overcome.. being messy and unclean is a problem

Jonny59 · Answer

my parents are quite tidy usually but after years and years things change and my mom got quite messy she left many things untidy etc I mean I get it she's stressed out with life WE all are and tidying is not our priority when we are in this period especially emotionally you just forget these things unless you have guests so you clean
I often clean but not always because when am alone I just leave my bed like it is
thats the only thing I leave untidy lol

red324 · Answer

I'm messy, but I'm also a germaphobe. Always wash hands before eating, take lots of showers etc. Now was far as the house is concerned. The laundry stays in the dryer, I usually have lots of paperwork on the kitchen counter tops like junk mail and bills that need to be thrown out. Last night's food stays on the counter til morning etc. I'm a bachelor and take full advantage of it.

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Answer

Messy, yes. As long as it is all clean. I find tidyness OCD (the sterile keeping of everything neatly folded). It is also a waste of time - you can use it for better purposes (if you have the mental capacity to learn/connect the dots).
Hygiene is obligatory, it is a health matter

jshm2 · Answer

WTF has that to do with anything, unless you are a clean freak?

There is "messy" and there is "unhygienic" the two are not synonymous. Most clean freaks are tidy, but often toxic and not pleasant to be around.

Avcfhcic · Answer

Probably take what I can get. Depends on what mess and how messy

Jlegacy · Answer

Not for the rest of my life. Messy means unprepared and unorganised to host true love.  Not cool for either a guy or a girl.

Andres77 · Answer

i have  the sex was crazy fun. but a messy place tends to equal messy brain and emotions so other stuff kept popping up. i had to leave.

Starrisunset · Answer

I'm messy, so yes. I couldn't judge them for being like me. Filthy or dirty is different but messy, not a problem

Titanya · Answer

That's kind of a pet peeve but I can adjust if he's willing to get better at cleaning up after himself

JennBITx · Answer

That would be hard for me, but I would still give them a chance. I am a neat freak. Everything is clean all the time. Even shampoo my carpets once a month. Sometimes twice a month.

Anonymous · Answer

You mean cluttered stuff? Those stuff can be organized. Or those who leaves nasty residues in the fridge and clean everything else except the fridge? I know it seems oddly specific but that bothers me.

Slartybartfast · Answer

My ex never did any housework, I keep a clean house so it became my job.  Id be happy if she did the dishes after I cooked dinner.

Rachelspiks · Answer

No, I would kick them out on their sorry asses! I'm very neat, and I need it that way.

ohshee · Answer

If we could spend most of the time we're together at her house LOL

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

If it only involved clothing and furniture than sure, somebody who doesn't take care of her hygiene, or having rude table manners or doesn't clean up their bathroom and food is a different story.

Pj1981 · Answer

Sure I would, my son's mom who I was with 7yrs and I will always love could make the bedroom literally look like a tornado hit just by picking out a single outfit for a single night.

Nick473 · Answer

If its casually messy thats fine i dont expext anyone to be perfectly clean and organized all the time but if she's a horder or just trashes a clean room and doesn't care about maintaining it id prefer not to date her

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Absolutely NOT! Mess makes me get into a really bad mood.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Hard to say. I mean it's not like I ask them how messy they are on a first date.

hahahmm · Answer

If her kitchen or bathroom are gross... it's not looking likely.

Everglow5 · Answer

That's fine, I'm messy too, as long as it's not gross or unhygienic.

splashmustache · Answer

Yes of course, the important thing is the magic of love 😊

Katebfun · Answer

Depends on how healthy, loving and honest the person is.

Minamikun · Answer

Sure I don't care if her room is a mess because i am kinda messy too, lol

cth96190 · Answer

Hell no! She would turn my home into an episode of Hoarders.

jeffryrobertbabb · Answer

I am somewhat messy, but I think it is tolerable. I found an article today that I had been looking for half an hour, it was sitting on my bedroom table.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

If it is organized chaos, that's one thing; that's how I live. If the chaos is due to pure laziness and will never get straightened out, then that's not an option for me.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I would prefer not to, but I might be willing to, if we had the money to hire a house keeper.

bratgirlfriend · Answer

No but I'm the messy one... can't have two of those can we?

morgan10133 · Answer

No absolutely not. I cannot stand any sort of clutter.

girlinthemirror · Answer

i dated this person already, its ok, i am messy too. He hired a clean lady every 2 day, so our house was clean

crmoore · Answer

I could, it's not that problematic, but I would prefer it if they weren't, and I'd like it if they tried not to be.

worldscolide · Answer

Yup, my wife is messy, and I married her.

Browneye57 · Answer

Are you saying your bedroom looks like a shit-storm? Dear lord...

magiusX26 · Answer

to a certain amount of messy is fine. there are limits though.

Quidthonian · Answer

Not too concerned, as long as she is not too messy.

John_Doesnt · Answer

No, because if she can't clean up after herself then she can't clean up after me.

Eeeyore18 · Answer

Absolutely. I'm messy myself. But, I do clean up every other week

kamalravi25 · Answer

Depends on the level of messiness. Above 4 out of 10 then its a no.

Clarke498 · Answer

Well I could improve in my cleaning up, but then she'd have to do something or other so it's not that skewed.

FamilyGuy2020 · Answer

I am assuming that I already do in that I pick up her laundry and plates left every wear OMG I HAVE a Teenage Daughter Lol

ivoryprincess · Answer

If it's environmental then I wouldn't mind because I enjoy cleaning and organizing. However, if they're messy about their appearance it's an immediate no.

Longbeachguy2010 · Answer

Sure why not. I've date woman who r clean freaks they made everything such a big deal. I don't mop my floors my mom still get my laundry done. I am not dating a clean freak woman.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

It depends on how messy. I don't need a neat freak or a hoarder.

backblueblack22 · Answer

Depends on how messy. I can be makes messes but i clean them up.

WalkingBassist · Answer

I suppose it depends on "how" messy. Also, do they want to change their behavior? What else do they bring to the table?

Anonymous · Answer

Hell no. Eventually I'm going to get annoyed. People who have messy rooms are usually people who tend to be dysfunctional or lazy.

ManHater · Answer

Nope... I can't filthy dirty women. I as sure as hell am not cleaning after them.

007kingifrit · Answer

yea, its kinda fun to fuck a girl in her messy room

Hanrej · Answer

Yes if it's on a level I can manage and she has other qualities.

OddBeMe · Answer

As a messy person, no. That’s how reality show contestants are made. The bad ones.

Slim57 · Answer

Yeah would be hypocritical if I didn't though im not messy while in a relationship if that makes sense

ThePuppyEviscerator · Answer

it is concerning that this is your idea of "messy" because there is hay all over my floor and waterfowl in a cage

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