Would you date someone who is messy or has a messy house?

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TipsyFr · Accepted Answer

I have a simple rule in my house leave the place the way you found it as in everything has a place, that way you don’t have to look for anything. When your finished with something, put it back, when you’ve finished with your plate clean it and put it to dry. If there’s enough plates use the dishwasher when I go out the house I take the trash out, when you get out of bed make your bed. I have an air purifier system and a vacuum robot for the rooms without any carpets so I don’t have to vacuum around the house too often every few days is enough and only takes about 10minutes. Quick mop for the tile flooring again only a few minutes. I don’t iron most of my clothes though just dress clothes. I never used to be organised around the house but I got tired of running around to clean the place when a friend phones and decides to drop by, everytime I used to go out and could have a surprise visitor around and when your not organised the house gets messy fast being organised is just a less stressful way to live ✌️

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

So honestly dating wise, yeah, I have, and I would. I mean she looked nice and was very clean in appearance when we would go out. She definitely kept up with herself and her looks and hygiene. But her house was disaster.

Now while we were just dating that was one thing, but if you start talking about marriage and/or moving in together... then that's Yellow Flag. I will not say Red Flag... because maybe with you there to help she would clean better or do more... but it's an issue of concern.

I mean if it's to the point that you are always at your place because you just do not want to be at her place... totally got a problem there. So how good is the sex and how much do you really like her as person... because I don't live in a pig pen.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

It depends on how messy it is to be honest and there is a difference between messy and dirty. I’m a cluttered person and leave clothes etc lying out. I am okay with having a few dishes in the sink but I don’t let them get out of control. I vacuum, take my trash out, etc. So while cluttered I don’t live in a dirty environment. If my boyfriend let his dishes get consistently out of control, consistently had his trash over flowing where it is attracting bugs, dirty counters, rotten food laying out or in the fridge, etc I couldn’t do that. That is just dirty at that point.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

My room isn't as clean as a surgical unit at a hospital but it's cleaner than around 80% of houses and is only messy if you compare me to the very elite among academics.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I have done that in the past and it didn't work out, so I wouldn't do it again!

xKayTea · Answer

I couldn't, I don't know why but it just stresses me out and the unorganisation would drive me wild, especially if we get to marriage and moving in together, we would share a room and I just couldn't cope.

I'm the type of person that doesn't like to go to bed knowing there is dishes in the sink, I wash up after my meals gone down, or sometimes immediately after, and I clean up as I go. So we would be incompatible.

ShadowYamihiro · Answer

yeah, what matters to me is how she would treat me and those around her, if her place is a like a huge mess that you don't even have a proper place to lay down or sit then yeah i would told her to clean up a bit but wouldn't try to make her into someone she is not, just a bit cleaner like no clothes on the floor kind of stuff and clean bed and sheets, other than that i'm ok with it.

Lionman95 · Answer

No especially if someone wants is lazy doing the dishes after dinner and waits until he or she "wants" to do them drives me nuts. To me living in a clean and organised is a question of self-respect sure it´s nothing pleasuring but it´s necessary and it makes life easier.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

It depends. If it's messy because there's clothes all over and she leaves food out, fuck that. I hate bugs and there's no reason for clothes to be all over for more than a day or two.

If it's messy because there's just a lot of stuff being used fairly regularly, that's different.

As long as it's a functional space and we know where everything is, I'm good.

lightbulb27 · Answer

messy has degrees to it. have to understand the messy and decide if accept it. Hording... I would not. Stacks of dishes and clothes all over the floor... no.

I'd equally be concerned about "too clean". That may be worse.

It depends...

Christsdisciple15 · Answer

no because I know myself and I’m a little bit of a clean freak. There are the rare times when I don’t wash the dishes or I might not take the trash out but I never leave it longer than 48 hours so someone being real messy where they don’t care or they’re expecting me to clean up after them I don’t believe I would do well with because they would irritate me a lot

exitseven · Answer

She was a real slob. She used to take her clothes out of the d ryer and just pile them on the bed ans pick through the pile for something that was clean. She never changed the dogs litter box or clean up when he would pee on the floor.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm a bit messy at times so I would date someone who is somewhat messy but can clean up when it needs to be done. I don't stay in a messy house for long. Maybe a few days and then I'm cleaning up the mess. It's too dysfunctional to live in a messy house for a long period of time.

caitycat21 · Answer

It depends on how messy tbh. A little bit of mess is fine, Ayye you’re too busy to clean up like that but if you have roaches/rats and just leave food everywhere then I wouldn’t want to date someone like that

Anonymous · Answer

I am very clean and organized. However, people who are messy honestly have their reasons, it could be depression, rough times, hoarding disorders, and a lot more. I can not live in unclean conditions so they will have to work through it and go to therapy and i would support them but it’s something we will have to overcome.

ɹǝʇʇɐɥpɐW · Answer

Yes. There are limits, of course, but I don't care at all if the house isn't spotless every day. In fact, i'd be more comfortable in a relaxed environment. If your house doesn't look like people live there, I don't trust you.

lilBigPotato · Answer

My room can be messy too so it's not super important but it shouldn't be too bad either. If he's sleeping between the trash of the last few months then that's a big no no

CuriousInquirer · Answer

No.  I have more respect for myself to bother with a slob. Not to mention if I have to pick up after them like they are 5 years old... I'll be charging them $500/hr to be their maid.

electromagnetic · Answer

Probably not. I’m not a clean freak but I’m very careful of item placement and I can typically noticed if something had been moved. That’s a stressor for me.

PippiTip · Answer

Messy yes, dirty no. I can’t do filth. Almost everyone’s house gets messy sometimes. Messy hair…depends on the person…does the messy look fit them and their personality? Does is look good on them? So if you could expand on what you define messy as, then the question could be better answered.

jshm2 · Answer

A little mess is normal, and humans. In fact I would be very careful around someone too neat and too ordered as they can be a bastard to deal with.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Did that twice and can't take it. I'm not even the neatest person, either. But there's a basic level I need to see.

molonski2 · Answer

Cannot stand messy , no way , it doesn't have to be perfect , but things need to be under control.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I’ve spent the entire summer restoring a house that was trashed by a hoarder. I can deal with some minor uncategorized messes, but seeing what it can become is truly disturbing.

Lliam · Answer

I would date a messy person as long as she was into cleanliness. But I would not marry someone like that. I like a clean, tidy home.

4ngelic · Answer

messy but clean yea messy but dirty no

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I keep my place clean, I think she should too.

Kabluie · Answer

Her room in her parents house was practically inhabitable. It's okay they let me sleep downstairs, and she would eventually join for sex.

Sweetsurprize · Answer

Damn, being a homeowner... that's rare for Millenials (and younger) these days.

Jazzy54 · Answer

Nope. My upbringing wouldn’t allow it. I’m nowhere near a neat freak, but I can’t stand clutter, either.

Billlewis · Answer

I would, because I do all the household chores anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

I dont care for some mess but if it heaps messy to the point you can't sit down or lay down because of the mess and you have zero clean dishes I probably wouldn't

sheenagwapa · Answer

i personally wouldn't. i'm fine with a certain level of messiness but not so messy

Andres77 · Answer

When I was younger, messy place meant raunchy sex. But she’s got other issues. now I wouldn’t date someone who’s residence was messy.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Nah… cluttered? Maybe. Messy like moldy rotten stuff? No way!  Lived in homes are inviting and fun to unwind in but toxic biohazards ☣️ no way!

sheikalana · Answer

I can't. Messiness and clutter really disturbs me.

Reem12345reem · Answer

your space tells u a lot about your mental health

imfreeze95 · Answer

I cannot throw bricks in this glass house  I’m not dirty persay but I do have a lot of books lying around and it can get a bit messy

ejx629 · Answer

A bit of clutter is fine, but if it looks like the aftermath of a natural disaster then it's a problem.

Anonymous · Answer

HELLLLL NOOOOO!!! I stopped hanging out with my sister cause she’s like that

DiegoO · Answer

Anyone who had to deal a hoarder, is not gonna take lightly that.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Messy in her place, perhaps. Comes over and makes a mess of mine, absolutely not.

Iron_Man · Answer

They have to keep things clean you have to be professional?

Anonymous · Answer

I live with my boyfriend and his family. His family are hoarders. My boyfriend has picked up some traits but not a bad, luckily!

Minahh · Answer

I'm messy too so a little mess doesn't hurt as long as he doesn't mix his mess with my mess

TallAnon · Answer

Yeah, I'm a bit messy; Let's just hire a maid every week.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

I'll bone a sloppy bitch, but not get into any thing serious with her.

Pinay_ako · Answer

No… ..

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, I couldn't do it.

JosyJosy · Answer

Yeah, they can be trained.

Subflics · Answer

I can deal with clutter but not dirty

TiaNour · Answer

Yeah since my room is sorta messy

Malwi93 · Answer

nope thats disgusting

stranger_girll · Answer

Why not

Anonymous · Answer

I do that every time I masturbate.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

Messy yes. Nasty no.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on how messy I guess.

LavLavLuv · Answer

No thanks

Pterodon · Answer

I have

Anonymous · Answer

No!!

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