Why would he say this?

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Guy I’ve been going out with said “i know it’s others you want to date i don’t know why you want me”

K-I-S-S · Accepted Answer

Like others say, insecure.

And no he doesn't say date others.

He is just asking why would you want a guy like him when you could have so many other better guys.

He probably just wants validation. And will always need it.

Not really a man material you should consider.
Not in his current state anyway.

Mofunfour20 · Accepted Answer

To see if you're interested in him. He sounds like my sister when she wants to figure out something without being direct. Real men will say what they think, not pussyfooting around. Tell him he needs to be more direct

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Get rid of him. These people with no self-esteem will NEVER believe they're worthy of you if they keep saying this crap!!!

Gives me a headache that they don't love themselves and didn't appear to have people who gave them a sense of worth. You certainly can't do it at this late date.

greyislife · Accepted Answer

He’s insecure and potentially looking for self validation from you. Do not feed i to it, it’s best to not even deal with a guy like this but if you do continue instead be honest and straightforward enough to tell him if you are dating other people and he will disappear on his own.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

That statement reveals his insecurities about himself and his low self-esteem. It does not necessarily reflect on anything that you have said or done.

Citizenkirk · Answer

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Anon621 · Answer

I think he lacks confidence and he doesn't believe in himself but he's trying to deflect it onto you instead. I would recommend avoiding these kinds if people in the future

Interstate · Answer

He:

1. Is suspicious you are up to no good with another guy
2. Feels you are distancing yourself
3. Is suffering from low self-esteem and feels that you deserve better
4. Is no longer interested and is using this as a breakup tactic.

Ukrainianbuddafly · Answer

Usually he is insecure but I've also been in the position where a man will say something like this merely to see how you react so he can pick your brain whether there's other men.

Stoner710 · Answer

He’s insecure, he knows he’s not good enough for you so he thinks that there’s others that you want to date if he’s the only one show it a simple kiss or a goodnight and good morning would help

Alyssa11 · Answer

He doesn’t have confidence and what’s self validation.

Kas19 · Answer

I don't think he's telling you to date other men. He's insecure. Why not talk to him about it?

serious · Answer

I think you already asked this question with the details in your other question. Already replied to that.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

He probably just meant what he said... He likes you but, either he doesn't understand why you feel a spark with him, or you don't seem to act like you feel a spark with him.

SnakeBoop · Answer

Stop posting the same shit. He's insecure and broadcasting onto you. Major red flag,  Get out, or get hurt. Your choice

Flower7 · Answer

Sounds like he thinks he’s not good enough for you. And he’s probably right about that. I’ve seen some of your other questions.

paradiseonearth93 · Answer

He sounds insecure and toxic and I would leave him before it gets worse personally

spartan55 · Answer

Because HE IS AN INSECURE BOOB, again, you really know how to pick em... smh

ohshee · Answer

Did you tell him because he said he was going to buy you dinner that night LOL

Finchie40 · Answer

Cuz you are dating a narcissist , Run while you can

Starrisunset · Answer

It sounds like he thinks he isn't good enough for you

John_Doesnt · Answer

Because he wants to wait until you sleep, then he'll steal your teeth so he can build a tooth ship and return to Tooth Planet.

NathanDavis · Answer

that sounds very insecure, and manipulative... still immature and a bit toxic as well

loveslongnails · Answer

Hmm... maybe because he senses you change partners every 3 to 4 weeks?

karaspara · Answer

He's insecure which makes him believe he isn't good enough for you so therefore in his mind you must prefer other guy's to him

Omario2049 · Answer

That's 100% insecurities. Has nothing to do with u. And don't try to make it work because he'll end up stalking u and being super creepy.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

He is insecure and he could be looking for attention really hard to say

pink_and_inlove · Answer

He’s very insecure I do not think that this is typical guy behavior I never met a guy like this before

kellytheman · Answer

He probably thinks he is not good enough for you or he not interested in you and trying to keep is options open.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Which one is this now🤔🤷😂

Browneye57 · Answer

Cuz you haven't proven to him that HE is the ONE. Or he's just a loser. YOU have to decide.

Floppy2112 · Answer

This dude has self esteem issues. Unless you want to be his counselor and mommy, I'd move on.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Because he doesn't fully trust you yet. So tell him why you want him.

QuestionHavr · Answer

He's insecure. My ex said stuff like this all the time, then he was the one that cheated on ME.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like he has low self-esteem. Take the chance to run away from him while you can.

InferiorElegy · Answer

It's definitely because he doesn't feel like he deserves anyone like you and he thinks if you can do better, that you should.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe he just likes to be a crybaby that craves pity.

DWornock · Answer

So what? It is meaningless because people say all kind of things for all kind of reasons.

he-takes-a-part · Answer

Haha he might have got the inuendo of your fascinating instincts towards him

Calgarydirty69 · Answer

you should'nt need to ask, what kinda man you have?

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

More critically, is it true?

Savage_Wisdom · Answer

He has very little self esteem.

exitseven · Answer

He is insecure. I have been there.

Massageman · Answer

low self-esteem and self-worth

msc545 · Answer

ask him why he said it

EaterPeter · Answer

Lake of self confidence?

Joshua0213 · Answer

I swear every question is about a different guy

Anonymous · Answer

He thinks u rnt interested in him

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

How do you keep finding these weak ass guys

TheAfrikan · Answer

Being Insecure is part of life.

JosyJosy · Answer

Insecure fellow

princeofromance · Answer

He is insecure.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Is he insecure?

888theGreat · Answer

no self confidence

Iron_Man · Answer

He’s insecure

Fuentes · Answer

Insecure

mapavrili34 · Answer

He shocked

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

He's insecure

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