When I was 20 I used to talk to 16-17 year old's and I feel like such a bad person?

[Anonymous]

yeah so when I was 20, I talked to 16-17 year old's and I don't anymore but we just flirted and stuff, I didn't have any intentions on hanging out with them or take advantage of them, it's legal where I am to hook up and stuff but I never did. a lot of people on here said it's no big deal but I feel so weird about and I guess the way the climate is at people will get cancelled and shit and I know some people think 3-4 isn't a big deal. I mean my first real girlfriend was 15 and I was 18, which is like a freshman and senior, except she had a late birthday so she was in grade 10 and I was just out of high school. I guess also still felt young like I don't feel my age sometimes. anyways I don't do it anymore but it still haunts me and i'd love to get over it so anything helps. plus i know a lot of people who had bigger age gap relationships but i think im also afraid of my image

[GoldenAxer]

If you didn't hook up then I think it's okay. Maybe a part you wanted to and that's understandable to me. If you think you're gross at 20, I still got that sometimes in my 40s and married like when I see a busty teenager girl being all flirty. But I don't do it, you know. It's like a seasoned chef can probably cook human eyeballs and rectum in a way that smells so delicious to my nose, but I don't eat that knowing what it actually is. Don't fault me for having a nose.

[Asker]

I feel like such a bad person though, like we still flirted and stuff and I don't know. but I also know people who have dated 16 year old's at 22. i also got my ex pregnant at when i was 19 and she was 16 so I don't know

[GoldenAxer]

I sometimes think these days like it would be unethical for me to date a 21-year old still in university even if that's legal, even if I was single because I got too many cards up my sleeves living so long, you know. I know too much about this, and she doesn't. But that doesn't mean I find a 21-year old unattractive. Hell nah! It's just that if she's flirting with me, she's like a "fan" and not an "equal" if you get what I'm saying. I got too much power here to pull the strings, and she won't know that I'm pulling her strings.

But you know, you try to judge yourself by your actions, not your desires. If I judged myself by desires over my actions then I should be thrown into hellfire. It's the ability to resist temptation that makes a good man, not the lack thereof.

[Asker]

I think I'm stupid because I don't

[GoldenAxer]

You can try now. I don't think that many people are good 24/7. You can start tomorrow. Each day is a chance to start fresh with the way we approach these things.

[Asker]

I don't do it anymore, i think i'm more afraid of how people will see me or if it's right or okay or getting cancelled. I don't wanna feel ashamed of myself

[GoldenAxer]

Then maybe just move on! Past is past. We don't have to be condemned to repeat the past. That way, cancel culture sucks balls.

[GoldenAxer]

* that said

[Kas19]

Pretty fucked but as long as you know it's wrong now. And you didn't hookup with them so that's good. Genuinely don't understand what men find attractive in teenagers.

[es20490446e]

As long as it is legal, it is okay.

[Asker]

even if it is, in this day age id get shit by everyone. i wish i could go back and do it all over again and be smarter. i hate myself so much

[es20490446e]

Once done is over, the question is that you can fix it for next time.

[Asker]

maybe I'll stop caring over time. but right now I'm really hating myself. from the majority of people who have answered from previous questions. no one cares and thinks it's fine but I'm just really struggling. like I have to keep this secret or something at least now I'll be smarter

[es20490446e]

It's irrelevant.

[Asker]

what do you mean

[es20490446e]

You are tormenting yourself for an irrelevant topic.

[Asker]

it doesn't feel so irrelevant, i feel like everyone will hate me

[es20490446e]

Some, not everyone.

[Asker]

i just feel like it's something i need to hide, I don't know why I'm obsessing so much, you always so youtubers getting cancelled for this shit

[es20490446e]

You are giving too much intelligence to people that don't have it.

You only have to worry to real criticisms, not to that bullshit!

[Asker]

I guess I should say nothing happened, the girls that I sexted are now 18 and 17 and were 17 and 16 when it happened so i don't think the age gap if we did anything is weird now, but something about how she was 16 makes me feel bad or a creep. but like my ex started dating until we were 20 and 17 and she's turning 18 in a couple weeks to this is only 3-4 year differences

[es20490446e]

Exactly, it's nothing.

[Asker]

but how is it nothing, i feel like a creep

[es20490446e]

When would you say a girl is ready to have sex biologically speaking?

[Asker]

i have no idea, the age of consent is weird where i am from

[es20490446e]

Usually you can find it on Wikipedia.

[Anonymous]

i used to fuck them silly

[Asker]

when you were 20, aren't you afraid of how people would see you or getting judged or something or cancelled I don't know

[Opinion Owner]

i didn't care and we all fucking loved it