I feel like as an average looking girl, I’d rather work on my career to be rich than end up with an average career. Am I right to feel this way?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I won’t ever end up with someone I’m deeply attracted to, or someone who will provide me with resources. I’m intelligent and hard working and would rather build my own success and fortune rather than end up with an average man.

Does my reasoning make sense?

[Anonymous]

I’m trying to find the correlation here, because this feels like a scattered statement. It sounds like you’re saying you’d only be deeply attracted to a rich man, but since you feel average, you don’t feel like you’d get that sort of guy so you want to find success on your own. But you’d never be attracted to an average man. Like why not? What does an average guy have to do with you being successful?

[Asker]

I feel like as a general rule, good looking men won’t marry a woman who’s average looking. Good looking men will marry men who are average looking if they are ambitious/successful.

I can’t be attracted to someone I outrank socially. It puts me in the masculine role in the relationship, I don’t like feeling like the provider.

A man that outranks me socially or even in terms of looks can get any pretty women he wants.

I don’t want to lower my potential career wise just to feel like the man I marry is the provider.

[Opinion Owner]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, therefore what you deem average may be a knockout for the next person. I’ve seen well-established men with average women, especially living in Los Angeles and the social group I hang out with. But she has a great personality and keeps him happy. On another note, if you associate having a successful man with having a successful career, you may not be able to achieve that standard, simply because it’s quite shallow. Outranking someone career wise does not mean you do so socially, and would not put you in the “masculine” role unless you’re specifically taking care of him. Otherwise, why would you be providing for him? What if he doesn’t seek the same luxuries or whatever that you seek?

[Livewire3]

Yes it makes sense.. But don't worry about who you "end up with" you get to decide that as much as they do.. meaning you never have to pick that guy.. that sounds like settling... ugh. I promise you will not make yourself or them happy if you feel like that is what you are doing. Of course work on career, success is West and can boost your attractive level... if that's what you want.. or just take that career and love your life in that!