If looks don't matter, then why do 99.998% of women not respond to me on dating websites?

[brain21]

[ronaldo75]

Women use dating sites for quick fast easy to get attention on tap. Not for dates. I worked for OKCupid's parent company years ago and women respond to about 0.01% percent of responses BUT they read almost all of them, and around 85% of their responses go to the top 10% of men. Don't ever waste your time on dating sites.

[brain21]

My dad keeps pushing me to be on dating sites and thinks the only way to date is on there.

[ronaldo75]

Don't do it. You're going to waste and hours like an idiot when you could be doing something else. "Dating" is old-fashion and antiquated. Just live life and a woman will run into you. It'll just happen. Don't look for it.

[brain21]

I married two women from overseas and they both just wanted citizenship. American women are nearly impossible to be with.

[Anonymous]

See my question here...

This came across my feed, if women need more evidence that men have it harder on dating apps here it is, what do you think?

[brain21]

I liked that, thank you for the link. But problem is, it doesn't solve nothing :P

[Opinion Owner]

you're not wrong, its just the reality we have to deal with.

[BonnieBoo]

Some girls like myself are extremely shy. That’s all I can think of if I’m honest. I’m the type that’ll speak to you then panick if you ask me for my number. I don’t know why I panick maybe it’s a confidence thing. I’m not very good at talking over the phone. That’s the only reason I’d not reply 😊😊

[brain21]

Well actually some have responded on a dating site, but no real date actually happened. Seems utterly useless.

[BonnieBoo]

Don’t worry you’ll get a date soon. I’d date you & I don’t even know you lol it’s all about personality for me I don’t care what you look like it’s what’s in your heart that matters.

[brain21]

Wow! Appreciate the comment.

[Aurora1010]

Many or most women are picky on dating sites, statistically even a handsome guy gets as many responses as an average looking woman gets on dating apps like tinder.

[brain21]

Then what's the point?

[Aurora1010]

Try adding friends near you on Facebook or Instagram instead and then see if it leads to something, my friend does this and it might be better

[FictionalCharacter]

Because on dating apps, women get 20 matches a day. Everyday. With no man being serious towards them.

[brain21]

How, exactly, am I supposed to look serious or not serious?

[neuroendocrinology]

You're picking a format that is entirely based on Appearance and Extremely Short Attention Spans. Unplug & try real people. Take a Public Speaking Course
GL

[Jfranco12]

Dating apps/sites are trash most women don’t ever reply on those because they are entitled and want you to entertain them with some ridiculous lines or whatever even if they message you first.

[Juan_Curious]

From the question I understand that you have contacted 50,000 women and 1 of them replied. Consider yourself lucky.

[brain21]

Some have replied and we've talked but no actual date happened.

[Anonymous]

Looks do matter, but they aren't everything.

Maybe you are a dumb, boring, broke, unsavory, rude, desperate, low life, asshole in addition to being ugly?

[brain21]

Maybe that’s what you are, and you are just projecting.

[Opinion Owner]

Whatever I am, Im not the one here whining about it.

[brain21]

I am not whining, I am trying to get answers.

[Opinion Owner]

and yet when you are given answers you dont listen, you just rage about it instead.

[brain21]

You said I might be a rude, desperate, lowlife asshole.

[Opinion Owner]

and do you understand what words mean?

[Anonymous]

dating sites are tougher than people realise , in terms of actually getting quality replies and dates , most men have low reply rates and can struggle making contact through them

[brain21]

True

[brain21]

Seems nearly impossible.

[Opinion Owner]

its still possible to get replies , less sure about dates but is people who do get them , although it seems certain people do better , it also helps to keep track of who your contacting and what you talked to them about

[PatrickFusion]

As long as there's a fraction of one percent interested, then you've got a chance.

[brain21]

Actually I don't even think that fraction are interested, if they were I wouldn't have married women from other countries.

[PatrickFusion]

Other countries have lots of beautiful women too. Enjoy. 🙂

[brain21]

Yeah, beautiful women that just want to get citizenship. I went through it twice. Never again.

[PatrickFusion]

That's definitely possible. It might be better to go there?

[brain21]

I brought from another country twice and they were both awful. They just wanted to become legal.

[PatrickFusion]

I'm sorry to hear that man. I hope you have better luck in the future.

[Aquariusmystery]

Maybe your conversation is boring? Instead of just saying hi, try starting with something fun or interesting! Even a compliment would help

[brain21]

I have tried every type of conversation. Even got lines from google on what to say with no success.

[Aquariusmystery]

Do you ask questions or just talk about yourself?

[Anonymous]

enough with the black pill shit

YES LOOKS MATTER
WHO CARES

LADIES WHY DO YOU THINK YOU CAN GET AWAY WITH IT?

[Hangry06]

At this age, i think you should have already known that looks matter

[brain21]

Then maybe people shouldn’t spread false hope that dating has to do with confidence and intelligence.

[Shihab91]

Women have unrealistic standers online... My advice is to meet someone in real life

[brain21]

How and where?

[Shihab91]

Work place?, Or if you do outdoor hobbies. I don't know what's your daily routine

[brain21]

It's not as easy as you think.

[Shihab91]

It's not but trust me women online are so different

[brain21]

Thanks, but unfortunately you are just repeating the same online talking point any average person gives. If it was that easy, I would not have married women from other countries. Americans are the toughest.

[Shihab91]

It's just my experience , sure it worked for some people but the chance is very low... Good luck 🤙

[Zygum]

You do not know the art of writing to attend you. Get instructions from some coach on Google

[kqueen]

What's your opening line?

[brain21]

Huh?

[kqueen]

What do you say to try and get their attention? There's a lot of factors here

[TheSpaceGnome]

Looks do matter, but are subjective.

[brain21]

Are you sure?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yes, all preferences are subjective, and subjective preferences always matter to those who have them.

[ChiPaPa]

Because they do matter. Good luck.

[brain21]

And how exactly am I suppose to look for them to be interested?

[brain21]

I hate when people spread false hope that looks don't matter

[ChiPaPa]

No idea. I gave up.

[brain21]

Those are the same people that say a healthy diet and exercise cure everything, sure they do

[KrakenAttackin]

Who said looks don't matter?

[brain21]

The same ignorant people on blogs that think dieting and exercise cure everything.