Why would a 39 year old physician invite a 24 year old out to coffee?

[Anonymous]

[btbc92]

Asker. In reference to what I said to another user. Do not date the guy. He is only asking you out because he wants sex usually or a booty call. They rarely want a relationship, and it often becomes mostly sexual while he is working long hours. If he is making you uncomfortable and you don't feel anything for the guy, you do not have to date him or get involved. Like I was going to say, They usually don't want marriage or families. If they did, they often try dating and finding a partner to start a family with much earlier because it gets harder as they get older. Most male doctors marry those within their fields anyway or similar. And they often go to you because again, toxic men come up with this narrative that you lose your value by 30 and after 30, which is not true. I am not saying all doctors are bad. But what I am saying is think wisely here, because he is almost 40 and your 24. Does this sound like something you personally want at your young age? You can always date a guy who is pre-med or finishing and still have that kind of relationship if you want. However, since you said a lineman is what you are usually attracted to, then stick to that. Eventually, you may find somebody along that line of work. But never date a person you are not compatible with.

[kyleelyn199723]

Bunch of different reasons. Sex, romantic interest, curiousness, maybe interested in getting to know more people.

[MTC29]

"Why would a 39 year old physician invite a 24 year old out to coffee?"

Because he's interested in her. Keep in mind that by age 39 doctors have long since paid off their student debt and are well off.

They've got money. Whether or not the 24 year old girl wants that money to be her own, or another girls, is up to her.

[Asker]

Honestly, it’s very very tempting but... I just didn’t feel any connection with him so I ignored his message. I don’t know but I just didn’t feel it. I tried making a joke and I feel like he just didn’t get my sense of humor so I was just like... yeah, he’s definitely not the one for me.

[MTC29]

I'm only talking to you as a stranger. Some woman is going to get this guy... this 39 year old doctor who has completed his residency, and who has his student debt is paid off (even without Buckshot Joe Biden forgiving it). Looking at it from my perspective, he seems like quite a catch.

[Asker]

Yeah, he definitely is but I don't know I’m just not feeling it. I usually go for charismatic blue collar workers. I would’ve considered it if he laughed at my joke but he just gave me stiff vibes and I just couldn’t anymore.

[MTC29]

Sometimes you must look past the romance and face hard reality. A doctor... an honest to god doctor, is almost like a unicorn; girls dream about finding these guys, but they seldom do. If you don't grab this guy, then there are 100 other women who will. Do you want some other woman having his children and enjoying the comfortable lifestyle that could be your own? That's up to you to decide, but such opportunities seldom (never) present themselves again. Think about it.

[Asker]

I’ll definitely keep it in mind. Thanks for the advice.

[MTC29]

Doctor... doctor, keep focusing on that. I'm a civil engineer, and while the levels of formal education are nearly the same, being married to a medical doctor verses marriage to an engineer is a whole other world. Honestly, if this man will marry you, you are set for life.

[btbc92]

Dude, will you STOP trying to promote that guys don't want women over 30 nonsense. She just said she is not INTERESTED. When will you men grow up and respect a woman's choice? She is not looking for that kind of guy. You men say don't tell a woman anything because most are Golddiggers, but then if we do, then you start thinking we want your money. She is not interested in that guy. And she has the right. Do you think everything is about a comfortable lifestyle? No. It is about compatibility. And if she is not compatible with him, then another can have him. She desires something else. Let her be free to be happy with who she wants. Romance is very important for women. Plus, he is almost 40 and getting way too old for her. He only asked her out because she is 24 and that is it. I tell you guys all the time. Did you want families and such? Should have done so long ago. There is plenty of women around his age who can give him what he wants. He is looking for benefits from her just because she is 24.

[btbc92]

Look. Unlike your time, most of us are not concerned about a doctor. Sorry to say. That is just how we Millinalials are. We are not like you Baby Boomers who put such importance on that. You people work hard, etc. But again, we focus on connection if anything, and work ethic afterward. These are not those times when most women were at home. Most of us are college graduates or in college with careers of our own. So she will be fine. And that depends on the field of study and residency. You're not going to just make instant 6'figures or he actually paid off all student debt. She never said that. Surgeons tend to make a lot more than doctors. And no, most may be paid off by 42-45 at the latest. That depends on where he works, how many years of experience he has, and what he is getting from prescription meds and referrals. If she wanted luxury, she would have got it much better than a doctor. Plus there is no guarantee he wants marriage because mostly for these doctors today, is basically sex and that's it. It rarely goes anyway unless they have known each other for a long time and they tend to marry people around their age anyway. Women who are serious are looking for more than being set for life, that is usually those who are golddiggers to families pushing for financial gain. It is always about money, and less to do about love. She wants to love a man who she is with. And if a funny guy is what she is attracted to, then unless she meets a doctor who is funny, 9/10x this guy is not it. As I said, we millennials are not always money-hungry. I respect you baby boomers for your strong work ethics and loyalty to one or two jobs. However, those are not those days anymore. Especially for women. They want a man they can feel. Not a guy who has all the money but brings no warmth. He is way too old for her and probably too serious. 24-year-olds tend to like fun-loving guys who still behave youthfully. There is simply no compatibility.

[Anonymous]

A 39 year-old doctor would ask out a 24 year old girl because he wants to examine your 24 year old pussy. He may want more than just sex, but if he is a normal dude, he is definitely thinking about doing the in-and-out with you.

[anykayd]

Chances are such a guy is chasing after her for her looks, not that he actually likes her. Typically 39 yr olds do not have much in common with 24 yr olds. And usually 24 yr olds have no interest in 39 yr olds. But in this case, she might say yes because this guy might be rich.

[Asker]

True hahah He tried asking about my job and studies but I just wasn’t feeling the vibe so I ignored him. He’s always telling me I’m beautiful but I ignore that too 😂😂.

[anykayd]

Enjoy the attention. It won't last forever.

[Asker]

Highly doubtful 😂 He’s been there for a while and he’s not the first or he last doctor trying to hit on me. He’s just not my type at all. I’d rather take a lineman over a doctor but that’s just my preference.

[anykayd]

so a 39 yr old isn't too old for u?

[Surely]

Depending on the type of doctor he is. He already knows what he would be getting into if you would hook up with him!
Age is a number and maybe he would be returning early. Being able to afford traveling and anything else that money can buy.
Your life, your choice!

[anylolone]

Maybe just for coffee and a chat?
Maybe it's a sex invitation, who knows, you only know when you get there.

I always thought the "netflix and chill" idea that supposedly means sex was bullshit, but then I noticed all the chicks that fucked me when I invited them to watch a movie.

[ohshee]

Because it's too early in the morning to drink beer or maybe it's because you're beautiful and you're smart and you're intelligent and you find you very interesting so he wants to get to know you a little bit better

[Notstr8]

To either take advanbtahe or cause the 24 year old seems older and the physcian was not to know or a sleazy porn or devilish reason

[Miristheiss]

Sexual interest.
Is this a single physician or married?

[Avicenna]

Certainly not to discuss the effect of vitamins on the human body. He wants to date her.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

It's hard to say now if he's single or divorce maybe

[Anonymous]

He’s almost 2 decades older than you. Stay away from him.

[raw_is_war99]

Wants a date and get to know her and go on more dats and etc.

[noohair]

To drink coffer and talk. If he is single, no problem. If he just wants friendship, no problem. If he is married, well that could be an issue.

[Den1971]

He likes her and never forget the age is just a number

[KrakenAttackin]

Use that coconut you call a head and answer your own question.

[Guardian45]

Maybe cuz he likes coffee and is attracted to a 24yo?

[Guardian45]

Or she.🤣

[EaterPeter]

Really? Really? 🙂 And then women claims they are the smarter ones of the sexes.

[Anonymous]

He may be interested. I think other countries don't look at age difference at all, not like in the US.

[Anonymous]

Because white men in power are dirty and would do anything to get in a young girls pants. Old perverts

[Anonymous]

probably to find out if you have an attractive younger sister to date

[Soulyear]

Because he wanna smash

[Crazybeeguy]

He wants in your pants

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Did the 24 year old say YES?

[IncognitoBandito]

He thought you looked cute

[ewok737]

He wants to get laid !!!

[_Troian_]

Maybe cause he likes it young?

[Wise4myage]

He's obviously interested in you.

[Cowboy6666]

He might have evil designs for her

[Luckycharms12]

Interested in you or wants to fuck you

[Jmmmfi4]

I don't see anything wrong

[Cleo00]

Their possibly into you.

[Aurora1010]

Why not?

[jim009]

Sexy time

[CuriousMufuxka]

For a date perhaps.

[In_Trance]

Duh...

[jimmy2]

He finds you hot

[Evan97]

He likes you?