What does a 35 yr old man bring to the table a 18 yr old doesn't?

[RandomGuy1030]

The aura of a leader

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The #1 thing

[Apple1996]

It really depends on the guy and not his age to what he brings to the table.

Like for instance my husband became a dad and husband in his teens. Matured fast and had to be a provider. Then there are men in this world that are 35+ with no family/relationship and even can't hold a decent job so really just depends on the guy.

[LazerBean]

Generally speaking: maturity, experience, an established income and career.

[RandomGuy1030]

So all that does what for you

[LazerBean]

Trying to explain to be pointless as it requires a certain level of maturity to understand, at which point you will not need to have it explained to you anyway.

[RandomGuy1030]

Because you wanna live in a little orphan anne movie not reality where the real man of your dreams is broke and struggling to climb out of the gutter

[LazerBean]

Actually my husband is very well established and we live quite comfortably on his income.

[RandomGuy1030]

Ok but 99% of men are not well established at 18

[LazerBean]

Yeah but all the decent ones are at the very least taking steps towards it, like having a job.

[RandomGuy1030]

I just heard a song today about While My Guitar Gently Wheeps. I've never picked a string but go read the lyrics theyre beautiful, some people like me are so soulful we dont have time for a job

[LazerBean]

I know the song. Soulful does not equal lazy and useless.

[RandomGuy1030]

You dont understand i dont do any drugs like a retarded stoner Im just naturally too creative to be a slave

[LazerBean]

Except you're still a slave to being a lazy loser.

Also here's a nice little verse from the Bible that you supposedly like:

2 Thessalonians 3:10 In fact, when we were with you, this is what we commanded you: “If anyone isn’t willing to work, he should not eat.”

[RandomGuy1030]

Working means expending energy on something with intent. I work ALL the time. 24/7

[LazerBean]

Doing what, exactly?

[LazerBean]

And does either grow or buy you food?

[RandomGuy1030]

Everything I like to do and nothing I hate doing unless its to get something I want like abs

[RandomGuy1030]

Yes I eat. But at the end of the day sex is more important than food

[LazerBean]

Where does your food come from and where does the money from your food come from?

Also I guess you didn't know that God hates whore activities:
4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

[LazerBean]

Also the surrounding verses make it clear that "working" means supporting yourself, not just expending energy.

[Part2603]

So cruel truth here, but even working hard sometimes won't be enough. Girls have options. And you could be the hardest working, most well future looking guy with the meticulously planned out roadmap to be a doctor or a business boss, BUT, if the girl you're chasing after doesn't want to wait for those plans to come to fruition, if she just wants to ride the Alpha dick carousel today, and just just wants to hang out at the finish line and pick the winner, then it might not be enough.

I know, it's demoralizing. You could be making all the right plays in terms of being productive, and still fall short to other already established guys, so why even bother trying, why not just smoke weed and play video games?

And the truth is even if you're working hard and trying to be competitive, you might still not even win in a competition with somebody the same age. He might be more gifted or talented, or he might have the privilege of generational wealth.

The hollywood tropes and the fairy tales are not true. You probably won't get the princess. You probably don't deserve her because one hundred other guys are competing for the same princess.

The best you can do is work for success as it's own virtue and reward. Doing work will make you happy, and it'll enrich your life, (as in give it meaning) and girls WILL be attracted to men that are fulfilled and contented with exercising their ambition.

[LazerBean]

Just an FYI this guy resents the thought of a job, thinks it's beneath him, and survives by prostituting himself out. Talking to him about work isn't relevant to him.

[Part2603]

Hey Lazer. This conversation about maturity and ambition got me thinking. Not hitting on you here. So you're 22 and you're already married and successful? Like, holy shit. Are you an super crazy Asian, tiger mom and all that? The way most people are, they way society is totally in a state of arrested development, where "adulting" is something that most people feel is out of reach, I'm wondering how people like you can exist.

Lately, I've been super down on myself and disappointed with myself because people used to have such high expectations of me.

Anyway, I wouldn't mind hearing your lifestory, getting some tips, hearing your experience of like, getting straight A's graduating on time, getting a white collar job skipping the working class experience, and figuring dating and getting married so quickly...

You must be focused like a LazerBean huh?

[Part2603]

Well, there's the reader who might be lurking who might appreciate some wisdom. He does sound like a dumbass, but maybe we're misunderstanding the nuace over text. It could be that he's disdainful of a job because, he's an intellectual type of guy, and consumerism is bullshit, and yada yada yada. Or he could just be fed up with his bosses bullshit, slaving away just to get shit on by girls that will always think they're better than you even if you're working the same shift with them!

There is a kernel of truth to the idea that "jobs are a ticket to serfdom" that the only way to truly be successful in life is to forge your own path.

Bruh, it's true, but only in a philosophical sense. Working a job teaches you how to be responsible, and being responsible and conscientious is how to achieve your best self, and make it as a rapper or entrepreneur or whatever crazy off the beaten path to make it you might imagine.

Eminem wasn't born a lyrical genius. He had to put his nose to the grindstone. And like I said, work in itself might not be the only necessary ingredient. You have to pick something you have talent at, and to be the best of the best, you have to manage yourself so you're always working efficiently.

The cool thing about a job is that they will teach you how to work at the same time everyday. That's an invaluable lesson.

[LazerBean]

Thanks. I definitely am not the perfectly all together woman I would like to be one day, but I'm still "working" at it lol. I'm all for doing things you like, building in your talents, and putting in the practice to become skilled in what you want even if you don't necessarily have a talent for them. What I dislike is when able bodied adults choose to mooch off the government/people, and then demand the same respect as a person who supports themselves. I don't give respect to leeches. Adults who claim to be successful gurus at whatever when they are literally only getting fed because another person is feeding them is pathetic. I am what I am today because I did my best to be as efficient as possible in every path I took. Same for my husband.

[AviatorTom]

In general, financial and emotional stability, and more life experience.

[RandomGuy1030]

Why are those positives

[Anonymous]

Maturity. The male brain doesn't fully develop until 32.

[RandomGuy1030]

Who gives a fuck when its fully matured

[RandomGuy1030]

Next thing you'll say a girls ass isn't mature until 25🤦‍♂️

[Opinion Owner]

Women do.

[RandomGuy1030]

No they dont. Thats way too abstract. Nobody gives a shit. They care about results. Hence alexander the great... was known as great by the time he died at 33.

[andreasderjuengere]

17 extra years of life experience?

[RandomGuy1030]

Ok so why isn't the 75 yr old more attractive

[andreasderjuengere]

Look: a young dick out of control is all YOU know right now.
And as the former U. S. president shows, an OLD dick can be attractive as well as long as the woman will agree to it.
Each age has 'strengths' and 'weaknesses' - I will admit that.
But face it: with merely 18 a guy has just so escaped childhood, but hasn't proven much yet. Unless you believe that some ''Kyle Rittenhouse'' loser type is something a Dad will be proud about.
Your time will come.
...
Maybe.

[RandomGuy1030]

What age female is hottest to you

[andreasderjuengere]

Whoah! ... I like girls :D
By body, I could be interested in anyone above - say - 30. Below: the ''hotness'' is less due to lack of common interests (unless she's really a (intellectual) exception)
I was with girls who were into their 50's - and they could blow my mind (and else) very well.
From there onwards the ''interesting'' ladies become less... but here and there they are ''hot'' as well; depending on their inner self.

[RandomGuy1030]

Just say you like 20 yr old bitches with no brains

[andreasderjuengere]

Why would I do that

[RandomGuy1030]

Cus you do

[andreasderjuengere]

You see. Your words and thoughts are those of an 18 year old :D
That's what I had tried to explain initially.
I was similar, by the way.

[RandomGuy1030]

I understand being attracted to intellect. Every man likes to see some masculinity and intelligence in a female. That is 10%, 25% MAXIMUM. The most is how hot her body is

[Jessica405]

Experience and sometimes knowledge.

[FunkyMonkee]

Experience, possibly money.

[AsaKyo]

They probably have more money

[MrTaboo]

Baggage