My (ex) boyfriend dumped me two days ago. then he sent this message to my friend this morning on discord. does it sound like he regrets dumping me?

[Anonymous]

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+1 y

He’s been posting subliminal statuses all day, when normally he NEVER posts anything online. He made 1 status saying “I’ll be better soon”, and another saying “you have GOT to be kidding me” after a friend and I made a sexual joke together. What could this signify?

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+1 y

Like what is his point of contacting my friend that he does not know AND posting those subliminal statuses?

[lilyanony1]

I personally think, he loves and cares for you. But something that was causing you two to argue meant that it became to much to deal with. A person that isn't used to confrontation or doesn't express themselves well, or even considers an argument over at some stage won't be able to cope with the situation being readdressed. Arguing is unhealthy, it raises blood pressure and eventually can actually cause a stroke.

He did the most respectful thing and ended it.
He ended something that was obviously causing him more pain than good.

Respect that work on express your point of view in a less destructive manner and move on. This is a good skill to learn and one you can develop and use in other areas in your life.

I'm not placing blame on you but like others said he's trying to remove responsibility from himself, noone will know the truth that occurred between you too. But it's important that you work on simmering your anger, because it only reflects poorly on you.

[Asker]

Thanks for your answer. Good points were made and taken into consideration. We ended up getting back together yesterday. He called me yesterday and said after thinking about it, he accepted the fact that his heart wasn’t ready to move on and that he did that (dumped me) because he was, in fact, very hurt in that moment. And there are things that we will proactively be working on regarding healthy communication to avoid repeating the same mistakes.❤️

[lilyanony1]

Aww I'm glad to hear that, that's really good news. Please don't mess up... If you feel heated count to 10 before you shoot your mouth off.
It's important to remember that the relationship is to benefit the both of you.
All the best 😊

[lilyanony1]

And thank you for mho x

[Jessica405]

Sure he regrets it! The thing to ask yourself is why did he dump you? It sounds like there was an issue between you both. Did you talk it through? Could you compromise on an answer?

[Jessica405]

In the mean time, DON'T sleep with another guy! That would kill your chances of a reconcilliation instantly!

[yofuknutz]

No doubt!

[Asker]

He dumped me bc i deal with bpd and he realized he can’t headle it

[yofuknutz]

^^^^ can you guys have a Friends with Benefits relationship live separately kind of thing?

[Asker]

No, he’s not that type of person…. I, on the other hand could.

[yofuknutz]

I don't know what to tell you mental illness is tough it's a long road it broke up my marriage so I don't know what to tell you

[Asker]

It’s ok I’m taking it one day at a time

[yofuknutz]

Ain't we all?

[Asker]

guess the real answer to this question is he most likely regretted it. He called me yesterday and told me that after thinking about everything, he accepted the fact that his heart wasn’t ready to move on and that he did not want to lose me. He only made this decision out of being hurt and feeling like he didn’t have another option left in that moment. We agreed to proactively work on healthier communication to avoid repeating the past situation.

[yofuknutz]

You know somebody pulls the trigger like that in life you always have to wonder about them

[Mango-man]

Sounds more like self-assurance.

Though, maybe he told you friend so your friend can be there to support you if you need it. While he broke with you he still could respect you as another human being and didn't want you to do anything bad/stupid due to being heartbroken and thought you friend can look after you?

Or maybe I am just projecting why I would write something like that.

[magiusX26]

pretty good possibility here

[magiusX26]

the "subliminal messages" seems to me to be you projecting something like hopes of getting back together.

[Asker]

As of today (4 days later) we are back together. He said his heart wasn’t ready to move on, he was just hurting.

[magiusX26]

good for you both. good luck

[doe9de]

It sounds like maybe he's upset about it regrets it tho I don't think so.

[Anonymous]

It seems like he does regret it but also wants to take some time to heal before getting back.

[Asker]

Based off the screenshot you’re getting the idea he will eventually want to get back together?

[Asker]

Update: guess the real answer to this question is he most likely regretted it. He called me yesterday and told me that after thinking about everything, he accepted the fact that his heart wasn’t ready to move on and that he did not want to lose me. He only made this decision out of being hurt and feeling like he didn’t have another option left in that moment. We agreed to proactively work on healthier communication to avoid repeating the past situation.

[Jonny59]

doesn't matter he dumped you
say this to him I swear it to you it will work

ROSES ARE RED,
VIOLETS ARE BLUE,
I'VE GOT FIVE FINGERS,
THE MIDDLE ONE IS FOR YOU
of course of dumping you :D

[Asker]

If I were a bitter person sure. But there’s no hard feelings on my end.

[JosyJosy]

He doesn't regret it. He just felt like it needed to be done

[Asker]

Why would he send this to my friend when they don’t even know each other well?

[JosyJosy]

to keep him updated

[Asker]

guess the real answer to this question is he most likely regretted it. He called me yesterday and told me that after thinking about everything, he accepted the fact that his heart wasn’t ready to move on and that he did not want to lose me. He only made this decision out of being hurt and feeling like he didn’t have another option left in that moment. We agreed to proactively work on healthier communication to avoid repeating the past situation.

[girlygirl2034]

I really don’t know but I’m really sorry about all that

[noohair]

He is positioning himself as the person not at fault.
Arguing does not bake for a good relationship.
I think social media has ruined dating and courtship.

[Asker]

So, you think he was trying to “beat me to the punch”? Just odd bc he doesn’t know my friend yet he sought her out and messaged her that. I can’t understand why.

[noohair]

This thing sounds planned out by him.

[Asker]

What would he have to gain out of planning this out?

[noohair]

It is a male ego thing, men don't like to be dumped. There fragile ego is like an egg. Once broken, they don't fix well. And it makes you look like the one with the issue that he could not deal with.

[Asker]

Yeah. Which is odd because he called me yesterday wanting to get back together. He said that his “heart wasn’t ready, he was just hurting” and that “he was struggling without me and didn’t want to lose me” . I was like then why tf did you write me paragraphs about how this breakup was for the best smh…

[noohair]

Do you want an unstable man? I am not his shrink but he might need one.

[Asker]

Tbh he’s not unstable (if anything I am more than he would ever be). He’s never shown any signs to be unstable. I do have a belief that people are allowed to change their mind. At any given point in life in regard to whatever. However, if he shows a constant pattern of breaking up and making up then that would be different, that was his first time dumping me.

[noohair]

If you feel that he is worth a second chance, ok. Be happy.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you were too argumentative with him, He regrets needing to leave but does not regret leaving. Perhaps you should take this as a lesson.

[Wise4myage]

No it doesn’t sound like that at all.

[Wise4myage]

He doesn’t regret his decision.

[Asker]

What does his message sound like? And why would he tell my friend this he barley knows her

[Wise4myage]

He’s moving ion from you, and you do the same with thing.

[Asker]

Moving on my reaching out to MY friend that he doesn’t know and never met, and making subliminal status about me…doesn’t sound like moving on if you ask me

[Asker]

Update: guess the real answer to this question is he most likely regretted it. He called me yesterday and told me that after thinking about everything, he accepted the fact that his heart wasn’t ready to move on and that he did not want to lose me. He only made this decision out of being hurt and feeling like he didn’t have another option left in that moment.

[scooogy]

So seven no's make a yes?