Should I express my feelings to my ex boyfriend who dumped me?

[Walnudpj]

I know you might laugh and say no, but I can't deny this feeling. It's drives me nuts, I have already tried to forget him and tried to date other guys but I couldn't i feel so strong about him. Everyday passes it gets stronger, and I get the sense and vibe that he still lives me too and he is coming back to me. We had a on/off relationship, it isn't our first break up. Every break up was initiated by him and same was the make up. However, this time he took him longer to get back to me, every single day passes like a year. I keep being busy but yet hard to forget, he is there in everything I do... The cause of break was somehow me, I just scared him of having his freedom, doubting him, I know I did wrong. we were deciding to get married and talk to my parents just before the breakup ;(. I just miss him so bad and want him back in my life... I live once and I want to live with the one whom I love. Yet, I am too afraid to talk to him, I am too scared of that if he turn to take me just as a friend, scared if he really has forgotten me... On the other hand, Im afraid of the time I don't have time for another couple of years to date and know other guys... Im 28 and reaching 30, I want to have a family! really don't know what to do, plzzz help me!!! Thanks.

Should I go and express my feelings to my ex?

Should I instead wait for him?

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Should I meet and talk to my ex in ceremony that we both are invited? Or just ignore him?

[AnayaWilliams]

You have to move on. Expressing your feelings to him won't change anything. You have to learn to accept what is and wasn't meant to be. Feelings change and life goes on it doesn't stop. You expressing your feelings to him won't really do anything it'll just make you look bad and make him look good. Try to move on the quickest way possible. The more you chase them the more they walk away. I know it is difficult moving on from someone you once loved or had tough feelings for. But if you give it time you will forget them, well not forget them but lose feelings for them is what I mean. Don't be someone's doormat who just wipes there feet on you. You know you deserve so much better. Why waste your time with someone who won't even take the time to be with you? That's just taking that's not giving anything. You have to learn how to move on when you are being treated with respect. If you know you deserve better and you weren't happy in your relationship, then why stay with someone who sway maybe made you feel like crap or treated you like dirt? Why be head over heels for someone who isn't even head over heels for you? Why, its just a waste of time. Don't save a spot for someone in your heart that doesn't make an effort to stay. He obviously maybe lost feelings for you or something who knows. If someone truly cares about you and loves you for you they will make an effort. Not excuses but an effort to be with you. Try to move on someway, if you two work together or something etc act like he doesn't exist. That's what I do with my ex and it works like a charm. And you can do it too, it just takes time.

[ekc8295]

Stop wasting your effort on someone who is not making an effort to be with you. Reading this I thought you were in your teens, not nearing 30. You need to work on moving on from him. Someone who really cares about you and wants to be with you won't do that stupid on/off shit. When things get hard you either decide to work it out because you love the person or you end it and move on. It seriously sounds like this guy may be emotionally abusive. Either way, stop always chasing after him with your tail between your legs.

[Walnudpj]

I do agree with what you said, but hard to convince my heart and forget what he did to me. He was crying while breaking up... He wanted me to be his friend in case not to lose me. Then he made his mom to initiate
Friendship when I rejected his friendship
offer. I know this is weird yet I feel he loves me. He hadn't have any deep relationship with any girl as he had with me, very shy guy. As he is a military so he has been in move... honestly i am lost my way... :(

[ekc8295]

Loving someone is not a good enough reason to stick around in an unhealthy relationship. You are far too dependent on him for your happiness and well being. You need to find what makes you happy without him in your life.

[TheFangirl]

I say tell him how you feel, and even if you don't get back together at least you got it off your chest. If you tell him and he rejects you getting it out there could be what it takes for you to move on.

[YoureBeautiful]

You can tell him how you feel butttt, why do it. You'd just be wasting your time. HE'S YOUR EX

[TheWiseOwl]

You need to move on pal. It's over and the sooner you accept this the better.

[MysteriousChick93]

Exactly so move on. He clearly has! Things change and feelings fade. Stop holding on to the past, look forward. It didn't work not easy to accept but life must go on

[Hayley96]

Honestly you should move on, its probably the hardest decision/choice to make but you'll find someone better. By the way how old was he? Maybe he's scared of the age gap you have between which i dont think so... but maybe thats the reason.

[Walnudpj]

He was 2 years younger than me. It could be the matter of age, you might be right...

[Hayley96]

Its only 2 years thats actually pretty good nothing bad. If he dosent have a proper reason then don't even bother. You need someone who will treat you the way you want to be treated and love you the way you want to be loved, there's plenty of fish in the sea you'll meet someone again, leave it to time the worse and best thing is time. trust me you'll feel happier when you move on it will hard but you'll get there. Best of luck :)

[Virulent]

How long ago was this?

[Walnudpj]

A couple of months ago :(

[Virulent]

How long were you two together?

How long did you typically break up for?

[Walnudpj]

Were together for 4 years but during this had several break ups of different timings. From 3 days to 4 months, the longest one is this one that took a year... ;(

[Virulent]

The instability suggests that you cannot actually do yourself greater harm either way. Confessing and getting closure that it is indeed over and then deciding that this is the absolute truth is likely in your best interest.

[Walnudpj]

What if a day he comes back with tears and promises as always? I'm sure he will...

[Virulent]

So am I.