What do you think about being yourself instead of being on your best behavior on a first date? (Page 2)
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Depends. If "yourself" isn't a very appealing person then you should probably compromise in areas that you feel are acceptable to you for practicality. So in context, this translates to women typically don't really have to do anything to be acceptable, so women can be themselves more, and men typically have higher expectations so they're forced to adapt more often, and the weirder or less acceptable you are in generally to the regular person then the more you have to adjust.
Results speak for themselves. I am obsessively committed to being genuine and authentic. I cannot stand phoniness, either in myself or others. So I am committed to being as authentic as possible and I am getting nowhere. So I am on track to die alone and forgotten. The fact is that my authentic self isn't very attractive, apparently. So unless you want to end up on the same pathway as myself, fake it, 'til you make it.
The guy usually knows me at least a month or three before i agree to go on a date. So i dont think im worried about not being myself
That is _all_ I ever do,
There is zero point to pretending if you end up projecting a person you are not (I do not date men, but women are notoriously fabricating and then (usually) self rejecting or staging unavailability - when some of those dates would be coffee buddies at least)
It is best to keep in mind we all poo, so to speak
I think I am myself on dates. I might just dress up nicer for a date.
One thing I try to do on first dates to find a place to play pool. That way if I can help her with lining up her shot it helps to break the touch barrier.
I fully support the idea. It's justifiable to put in a bit of extra effort for that first impression, but if it's going to the extent that you are misrepresenting yourself, you're not doing anyone any favors.
There is no way you CANNOT be yourself to a large degree on a first date.
First dates are the time for general discussions. For finding out. If you're faking it, you're never going to make it past dates 2 or 3. Honesty pays off in dating.
I'm always myself on a date. It's the only way to know if they actually like the person I am. Wouldn't want someone to have unrealistic expectations of me because of my own behaviour, that's bound to end badly.
Age old daft assertion.
There is no such thing as "being yourself". You ARE yourself, whether you like it or not. But being courteous, is the minimum behaviour you would expect on a date, unless you want it to be your last...
Both you should be the best version of you. You can show your flaws with time, you don't start with them. But neither should you be someone else. Ie don't fake it.
It shows you are a trustable person and you don't care about rejection which is cool.
You want to strike a good balance of both. Be the best possible version of yourself.
i had my first date in 6 years last weekend. I was so much myself it wasn't even funny. She fell hard. She was seriously ready to hook up if not get serious and get married. You could just tell. Zoop. I was out of there like The Flash
You can be polite and pleasant and not compromise your values. Make an honest effort to be personable, leave the phone in your pocket and make good eye contact. Everything else is on the table.
You should always be yourself. Never try to build on a lie (or deception). However, on a first date, one should maybe tone it down, at least for some people
People can be conditioned to be on their best behavior during a date, but I personally think it’s more authentic and fun to be yourself in dating.
If your natural attitude is rude and dismissive of the feelings of others then not much point in going on a date in the first place.
Guy shouldn't ask me out then lol
Just say no...
What if I don't
Might wanna see how hard I can push it
I should know.
I was completely myself. She knew she could dump me if she didn't like. And likewise she I assumed was herself.
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If they are not even putting in an effort for me (especially since most women expect free meals) then I would just get up and leave.
I think the reason my relationship with my girlfriend is so strong is that we were ourselves 100% of the time. Since we never tried to impress each other we knew what it was going to be like from day 1.