Would You Date or Marry Someone Who is So Called "Out of Your League"?

[Shizunk]

I was tempted to say no, though I instinctively include much more than just looks. To run with that idea for a sec, I have seen too many cases where people liked a partner, but underestimated how much their deficiencies will annoy them over time and ruined their relationships by not being ambitious enough. Even in terms of looks, I am tempted to make things "easy" by dating down to make the other person indebted to me for accepting them. That's probably the most toxic thing one can do. If someone was a lot more attractive than me, I would be asking "Is she being naive and making a mistake she's going to regret?"
Which is why I like to examine people's worldviews and virtues and if I believe someone is sincere and not just victim of their own biased perception, no amount of good looks is going to stop me! So I ultimately voted yes.

[Mossberg500]

No one is 'out of my league,' I'm out of theirs. I bet there are some attractive women behind some of these usernames, and yet, every time i visit this site I see a cess pool of brain rot that need be cleansed.

In fact, the first time I 'lurked' here I was thinking.. "Wow another community of leftists towing the line, never come here again."

But then I realized poking the beehive with reality was actually quite enjoyable. In a community full of lemmings, it makes the learned like me feel a bit like a genius.

Yes, I have a lot of Pride, and that can be very dangerous. On the other hand vanity is practically a death sentence.

[DizzyDesii]

I mean I've gone for 4 people (Parker, Jesse, Dez #3, and Rob #3) who were out of my league and they surprisingly went for me in return. I mean all i did was compliment them lol. I ain't that brave to just approach someone out of my league. And well all 4 were flattered. Parker however, gave me “just wanna hookup” vibes and i was tempted but i wouldn't stoop that low. Rob flirted but made it obvious he was into girly girls and got mad that i wouldn't dressup more. Dez #3 and i dated until we found out that he got the girl before me pregnant. And Jesse and i were a thing until he started hinting at showing interest in guys too and i was like, yea, hell nawl

[tatianamay]

There's nothing called "leagues"
If you like someone, then you like them, they'd be a 10 in your eyes if you like them a lot. You'd overlook their flaws and learn to love them. On the other hand, if you think "you're out of their league", or too good-looking for them, then that's not love. You're just with them to boost your ego.

[TheorionMage]

It NOT what I THINK... what matters is what SHE believes!
EVERYONE is entitled to a companion who recognizes a 'good thing' when they HAVE it.

I have no interest fighting off wanna-be Suitors from a flirty Bitch-in-Heat~
If I'm JUST 'good enough for now' then SHE'S not 'good enough';
the time & resources I devote to her, cannot be gotten back

[Lliam]

Sure, as long as THEY didn't think they were out of MY league.
There are gorgeous girls out there who are very nice and not at all conceited or materialistic. They may be looking for something other than shallowness. I've even heard of very beautiful girls who don't get asked out because good guys are too intimidated. And the guys who do approach them are only interested in one thing.

Thinking that some is out of your league says more about you than about them.

[Kiss_Me]

"Out of your league" is a teenie bopper phase used by those that mostly value other by their looks. Hopefully, once you hit your Sr. year of high school you stop doing this.

I date people that are fun and interesting. People that share the same values that I do. People that enable us to develop a connection.

Some have been SUPER fine. Some not so much.

I feel that if ALL super good looking tell me no. I am doing something very wrong. It is not my looks.

[Miristheiss]

Married already... about the same "league"

If I were still single would I date someone of a lower league? Sure, as long as I liked her and found her cute/pretty is some way and I liked her personality.

Would I date someone above me? Sure, if I had, had the chance. Why not?

[molonski2]

No one can answer that , because who is the judge of whos in what league? Its just bullshit to me , I've always had stunning younger girlfriends , but Im not making " declaration of league " and I couldnt care less what some other might think.
Sometimes , I get dirty looks from offended women , its always women who seem to wish to judge.

[jamesgoldman]

I've done it before and would definitely do it again

My ex-partners both approached me for frankly reasons I still don't know because I really wasn't in more than let's say a generous 5 compared to their easy 9 and 10 (well I'd say 12 honestly as she's still incredible)

[Wester1967]

We've done this before. Nobody is out of my league. Boy that set off a couple of women who immediately called me no end of horrible insulting names and then banned me. Because I am out of their league in their minds subconsciously i guess. But...

Really nobody is out of anyone's league.

[horatiohornblower]

That's like turning down a job. Because it pays too much money.

Anyways, if they like you and want to be with you. They aren't out of your league. While some people will cheat no matter what. Most won't if they feel emotionally connected to and fulfilled by their partner.

[t-8900]

In reality I don't believe in an out of your league concept. It's a tactic of the self absorbed or the jealous bullies. Never sell yourself short... ofc I do that to myself all the time so I'd be a hypocrite in giving such advice without sharing that info

[Anonymous]

I have dated some who were above my league physical-wise, and I think that was one of the aspects that made them not want to introduce me to their friends and so.. so I am not going actively for that anymore, but I would not reject if someone actually showed me genuine interest.
I do think I need to find someone below my league, will just suit me better.. and that is also what I see for most women around me.. women are just better looking in my mind, so it is not so weird.

[Jerry39451]

Every woman is out of my league... so if I could I would. But since clearly no woman wants me... I guess I will just be alone forever. Better to accept it than to keep fighting for something that won't ever happen.

[Ninani]

Yeah, there must be a reason for them to want to be with me.

[NoOneEver]

I think everyone is usually open to that possibility.

but personality comes first.

an attractive person can start to look really ugly if you get to know them but don’t like them anymore. 🤷‍♀️

[Anonymous]

It depends on how she feels. If I get the impression from her I'm not good enough, no. I don't know why she would want to be with me if she feels that way. I don't like the feeling that I'm not good enough for them. I couldn't live in a relationship if she feels superior to me.

[AviatorTom]

Sure, why not? Why should she not have the ability to experience my outstanding personality just because someone thinks she's "out of my league".

[MCheetah]

Yes. But usually this applies to women not dating men who are on lower social status than them ("hypergamy").

[Shamiah02]

There is no leagues.
Either y'all like eachother or ya don't.

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

Lol.
Women love that stuff, and then complain about feeling unwanted. But getting half the property at divorce, a child to abuse, or the bragging rights is too appealing for the spoilt self entitled brats to pass?

[wankiam]

i dont really even bother with worrying about leagues... if i want her im gonna try to be with her

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Absofuckinglutely & I would date her but I wouldn’t marry her.