Would You Date or Marry Someone Who is So Called "Out of Your League"?

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Shizunk · Accepted Answer

I was tempted to say no, though I instinctively include much more than just looks. To run with that idea for a sec, I have seen too many cases where people liked a partner, but underestimated how much their deficiencies will annoy them over time and ruined their relationships by not being ambitious enough. Even in terms of looks, I am tempted to make things "easy" by dating down to make the other person indebted to me for accepting them. That's probably the most toxic thing one can do. If someone was a lot more attractive than me, I would be asking "Is she being naive and making a mistake she's going to regret?"
Which is why I like to examine people's worldviews and virtues and if I believe someone is sincere and not just victim of their own biased perception, no amount of good looks is going to stop me! So I ultimately voted yes.

Mossberg500 · Accepted Answer

No one is 'out of my league,' I'm out of theirs. I bet there are some attractive women behind some of these usernames, and yet, every time i visit this site I see a cess pool of brain rot that need be cleansed.

In fact, the first time I 'lurked' here I was thinking.. "Wow another community of leftists towing the line, never come here again."

But then I realized poking the beehive with reality was actually quite enjoyable. In a community full of lemmings, it makes the learned like me feel a bit like a genius.

Yes, I have a lot of Pride, and that can be very dangerous. On the other hand vanity is practically a death sentence.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I mean I've gone for 4 people (Parker, Jesse, Dez #3, and Rob #3) who were out of my league and they surprisingly went for me in return. I mean all i did was compliment them lol. I ain't that brave to just approach someone out of my league. And well all 4 were flattered. Parker however, gave me “just wanna hookup” vibes and i was tempted but i wouldn't stoop that low. Rob flirted but made it obvious he was into girly girls and got mad that i wouldn't dressup more. Dez #3 and i dated until we found out that he got the girl before me pregnant. And Jesse and i were a thing until he started hinting at showing interest in guys too and i was like, yea, hell nawl

tatianamay · Accepted Answer

There's nothing called "leagues"
If you like someone, then you like them, they'd be a 10 in your eyes if you like them a lot. You'd overlook their flaws and learn to love them. On the other hand, if you think "you're out of their league", or too good-looking for them, then that's not love. You're just with them to boost your ego.

horatiohornblower · Answer

That's like turning down a job. Because it pays too much money.

Anyways, if they like you and want to be with you. They aren't out of your league. While some people will cheat no matter what. Most won't if they feel emotionally connected to and fulfilled by their partner.

t-8900 · Answer

In reality I don't believe in an out of your league concept. It's a tactic of the self absorbed or the jealous bullies. Never sell yourself short... ofc I do that to myself all the time so I'd be a hypocrite in giving such advice without sharing that info

TheorionMage · Answer

It NOT what I THINK... what matters is what SHE believes!
EVERYONE is entitled to a companion who recognizes a 'good thing' when they HAVE it.

I have no interest fighting off wanna-be Suitors from a flirty Bitch-in-Heat~
If I'm JUST 'good enough for now' then SHE'S not 'good enough';
the time & resources I devote to her, cannot be gotten back

Lliam · Answer

Sure, as long as THEY didn't think they were out of MY league.
There are gorgeous girls out there who are very nice and not at all conceited or materialistic. They may be looking for something other than shallowness. I've even heard of very beautiful girls who don't get asked out because good guys are too intimidated. And the guys who do approach them are only interested in one thing.

Thinking that some is out of your league says more about you than about them.

Kiss_Me · Answer

"Out of your league" is a teenie bopper phase used by those that mostly value other by their looks. Hopefully, once you hit your Sr. year of high school you stop doing this.

I date people that are fun and interesting. People that share the same values that I do. People that enable us to develop a connection.

Some have been SUPER fine. Some not so much.

I feel that if ALL super good looking tell me no. I am doing something very wrong. It is not my looks.

molonski2 · Answer

No one can answer that , because who is the judge of whos in what league? Its just bullshit to me , I've always had stunning younger girlfriends , but Im not making " declaration of league " and I couldnt care less what some other might think.
Sometimes , I get dirty looks from offended women , its always women who seem to wish to judge.

Miristheiss · Answer

Married already... about the same "league"

If I were still single would I date someone of a lower league? Sure, as long as I liked her and found her cute/pretty is some way and I liked her personality.

Would I date someone above me? Sure, if I had, had the chance. Why not?

Ninani · Answer

Yeah, there must be a reason for them to want to be with me.

Shamiah02 · Answer

There is no leagues. Either y'all like eachother or ya don't.

Wester1967 · Answer

We've done this before. Nobody is out of my league. Boy that set off a couple of women who immediately called me no end of horrible insulting names and then banned me. Because I am out of their league in their minds subconsciously i guess. But...

Really nobody is out of anyone's league.

jamesgoldman · Answer

I've done it before and would definitely do it again

My ex-partners both approached me for frankly reasons I still don't know because I really wasn't in more than let's say a generous 5 compared to their easy 9 and 10 (well I'd say 12 honestly as she's still incredible)

Anonymous · Answer

I have dated some who were above my league physical-wise, and I think that was one of the aspects that made them not want to introduce me to their friends and so.. so I am not going actively for that anymore, but I would not reject if someone actually showed me genuine interest.
I do think I need to find someone below my league, will just suit me better.. and that is also what I see for most women around me.. women are just better looking in my mind, so it is not so weird.

Kaneki05 · Answer

That would be having your cake and eating it too so yeah of course.

Jerry39451 · Answer

Every woman is out of my league... so if I could I would. But since clearly no woman wants me... I guess I will just be alone forever. Better to accept it than to keep fighting for something that won't ever happen.

snowgirl123 · Answer

yes the most important is the love for me and the way he treats me. other things are just accents

NoOneEver · Answer

I think everyone is usually open to that possibility.

but personality comes first.

an attractive person can start to look really ugly if you get to know them but don’t like them anymore. 🤷‍♀️

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on how she feels. If I get the impression from her I'm not good enough, no. I don't know why she would want to be with me if she feels that way. I don't like the feeling that I'm not good enough for them. I couldn't live in a relationship if she feels superior to me.

MCheetah · Answer

Yes. But usually this applies to women not dating men who are on lower social status than them ("hypergamy").

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Absofuckinglutely & I would date her but I wouldn’t marry her.

AviatorTom · Answer

Sure, why not? Why should she not have the ability to experience my outstanding personality just because someone thinks she's "out of my league".

Morgador · Answer

Yes you both will learn a lot about people and have a new understanding

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Answer

Lol.
Women love that stuff, and then complain about feeling unwanted. But getting half the property at divorce, a child to abuse, or the bragging rights is too appealing for the spoilt self entitled brats to pass?

wankiam · Answer

i dont really even bother with worrying about leagues... if i want her im gonna try to be with her

OG956 · Answer

If she would think or say that she's out of league 4 me, than no (cause 4 me physical look isn't the most important - someone who looks good physically can be a bad person and someone who's not can be good person, etc.) so...

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Out of your league is only used by insecure people. If you can date them, you're compatible on some level

Jayplays900 · Answer

That would mean she wants to also marry me, so why not? As long as she actually loves me, then I'd of course do it. But she won't be getting a penny from me. That just seems fishy.

Twalli · Answer

Nobody who believes that they are out of my league will date me. So I wouldn't care if others think she's out of my league because she won't

Pandupillu · Answer

No, cause I feel much secure being in a relationship with someone who has similar attractiveness ratio as mine.

anylolone · Answer

No such thing as marrying someone out of your league, only someone incompatible who is incompatible because they believe you aren't compatible enough.

zagor · Answer

"League's" are BS. I've had some very attractive girls show interest.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I need to feel both physically and emotionally attracted to a person so no.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@melaninqueen21 I would never date or marry a woman who's out of my league because that would be a recipe for utter disaster.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

No. People with huge differences in appearance have never balanced relationships.

EaterPeter · Answer

I was and no. Too out of league no good. Specially people who think they are.

TheAfrikan · Answer

Nothing would stop me from going g for het once I feel the attraction towards her.

Better_off_here · Answer

no one is really out of our league we just think they are.

MrCommodore · Answer

Yeah why not, life is too short

exitseven · Answer

I would not hold that against her.

Starwitch23 · Answer

No one is out of my league.

Andres77 · Answer

My wife wanted me, who was I to complain?

es20490446e · Answer

I don't know anyone who would be out of my league.

boobliker · Answer

you need to be on a level par with your partner.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

If I can... Absolutely! Haha.

ChiPaPa · Answer

Very few people would reject that.

Sketti2021 · Answer

I don't believe in leagues

Malala10 · Answer

Yes é uma consequencia

alexanderdelarge7 · Answer

Are you out of my league?

Goodboystevie · Answer

no one is out of my league

Subarugirl · Answer

I did.

Anonymous · Answer

I get very insecure, so no I will get depress.

clampfan101 · Answer

If they let me.

OddBeMe · Answer

And succeeded.

Slim57 · Answer

Already have

Anonymous · Answer

Of course I would

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