Could you date someone who never laughs?

[AmandaYVR]

A new question!!

When you phrase it this way, "Imagine if your partner had everything you were looking for in a relationship, except for being able to laugh"... I mean, wow.

But the reality is that no one has everything. Which you find out with time. Sometimes sooner, sometimes later.

I have to be honest, I don't think I would like a person who never laughs. Humour is a very important coping tool to deal with stress and hardships.

I just had a contractor in my apartment and we had a very tense phone conversation on Friday (today's Tues.) and I'm pretty sure we were both dreading seeing each other face to face today. There were poor communication issues on his part, and I was not happy. Then he wasn't either.
But he's obviously had some time to think, and plan, since then, and he was great today. Much more calm and organized and informative.
He actually, as we were wrapping things up, said, "Oh and by the way, it was great to talk to you the other day." It was so bizarre, (and really, so ludicrously false) that I burst out laughing. I said, "Come on!!" and we all three standing there laughed a bit. But mostly me.
It was his way of addressing the tension head on. Though it was an absolute lie. But when I called him on the lie, he pretended it wasn't a lie.
What we all agreed on was that it was good to clarify some things (about the repair job in question), and things were smoothed out.
I can get pissed off, for sure. And irked pretty easily. But I'm a very reasonable, logical, person. So fix the issue and I'll be direct about it, acknowledge the effort, and move on.

Laughing is important. That's the takeaway.
I don't like people who are stiff. I don't mind reserved at all. And I really get along best with very conscientious people. But sometimes I need to break down that fifth wall, and really get them to talk. Don't be robotic, get off the script. I can disarm anyone, that way. Then they tell me things on the down low, are honest. Honesty is always appreciated. It builds relationships. Then eventually, maybe you can actually enjoy each other, and have a little fun, with whatever the context is.
That's how I like to do life, anyway.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Probably not, that sounds way too depressing and sad. I would want to have a partner I can laugh with.
Life is too short to not laugh.

[Aguysopinion4799]

Well... uhh... I feel like it would be a short lived relationship because I am also a person who does not laugh regularly unless I am provided with the humour and surroundings of funny people, if they are also laughing it makes me want to laugh and makes me happier, but if I was with someone who never laughed regardless of conversation then I feel like... I would one day suspect that I was the only one enjoying her company and even if she or he tried to tell me otherwise I would not be that easily swayed from that mindset...

I would just feel pretty depressed to know I couldn't even bring out a giggle that is genuine from my relationship partner... so I guess even if they looked and behaved like everything I dreamed of in every other way, if that was the thing that was missing, then maybe I would need to break it off... unless when I mentioned about feeling this way they cried for me, if they did that then I would feel like there was indeed a love there they just could not show through the other reactions.

[snowgirl123]

I don't think there's a problem at all. there are much greater concerns in life than dating a serious man. I mean if he loves me he will work hard to be goofy from time to time, but the most important is that he makes me smile, which is different. if I laugh I have fun, if I smile I am happy.

the way he takes care of me is far more important than his sense of humor. also I like serious guys, find them more masculine, more mature. I can also make him laugh a little being feminine and cute.

[Livewire3]

Hmm, then how do they react to others in a group setting who are laughing? Are they enjoying themselves, or are they finding it repugnant? If they are still enjoying themselves, then I'd be okay. If they are annoyed or negatively reacting to every type of playful or jovial type of behavior then I'd be thinking they need to see a counselor.

[MuddyMole]

I thought this was going to be like that character played by Mandy Moore in Scrubs, who would always say "That's so funny!" but never actually laugh. I could live with that (especially if she is anything like Mandy Moore in other respects) - but not someone who literally has no sense of humour.

https://www. youtube. com/watch? v=tQ1B3yQRhXY

[t-8900]

No but sometimes I find it hard to find a girl that likes my humor. I don't typically like stand up or scripted lines. I like spontaneous things. Saying something out of place and random, accidentally farting in a public setting where others end up hearing it, random awkwa moments, clumsiness. These are the types of things that get me laughing.

[Sawyerblu]

Then he wouldn’t be the perfect partner. A good sense of humor is one of my must haves in a relationship. I love to laugh, I love to make people laugh, and the sound of laughter is golden and warms my soul.


If you never laugh, that is a major red flag and would lead me to believe that you are a sociopath lol

[Flower7]

Yes I could. I have no problem with serious people. I would actually prefer that to someone who laughs at everything. I don’t like when people make fun of me or laugh when I’m telling them something serious.

[Miristheiss]

You mean even if something is hilarious she'll just say: "that's funny"?

And she has a beautiful roommate who does laugh often at things I say?

I'd pull the switch... the roommate switch... via the menage a trois.

He who understands... let him understand.

[Shizunk]

If that was literally the only bad trait? I would probably kill to have someone like that. Guaranteed success in relationship in exchange for my own laughing? Also any day. But unrealistic hypotheticals aside, laughing is optional, smiling is not. If I get no positive nonverbal feedback at all, that's a no.

[elizabeth000]

No. Never laughs? Yeah no. I mean I understand if they aren't making jokes and laughing a lot but never that's just no

[hahahmm]

At my age.. no because I'm used to having a woman who likes my humor. If you asked me when I was early 20s, I'd have a different answer.

[dustybiker]

I think Willy Wonka makes a drink for this problem, no?
I can’t be around people that have zero sense of humour. It’s so draining.

[Somegirl408]

yeah i could, if i like them i actually dont mind. serious guys r hotter than guys who laugh anyway, laughing is like a girly thing

[JustinTheGreat]

Nope. Sense of humor is really important to me in a partner. Having a really good laugh with your SO is a great feeling and I can’t stand people who don’t find anything funny

[Anonymous]

No. I’d probably feel insecure since I laugh a lot. Whether it’s with movies, jokes, random nonsense or at literally nothing. I’d probably feel dumb a lot when I’m the only one laughing lol

[Phoenix98]

Ehhh I don't think I could I like being able to goof around and laugh with my partner humor is important to me.

[sensible27]

Everybody laughs, you just have to beat them hard enough.

[cryscrys1]

As an Eastern European we have a sad trait that’s called having a “ poker face “! So I tend to have this cold icy poker face but trust me internally I’m dying from laughing! I do smile though like this :)

[Snsns]

Yes because I'm exactly the same, I fake laugh, but never do a genuine laugh cos I don't find anything in this world funny... I think my iq is too high and mind is too mature to find stuff funny

[corny_cooter581]

It could be kind of awkward bc I tend to laugh a lot at stupid things but it could work