Is it normal for a parent to say you're still too young for a boyfriend if you're like 22-23 years old?

[Anonymous]

My dad said im too young still to think of a boyfriend and im 23 years old. Is that normal?

[btbc92]

It's normal. They are your parents, they know about life before you started yours, and they know you more than you may know yourself. It is very possible that for you personally may be still too young for a boyfriend. There are those who are mature and more ready than you before your age, and some may be at your age and some like myself still wouldn't be ready for one. And trust me, I am almost 30 years old. Still wouldn't be ready for that. So while legally you of age to do whatever you want, especially as an adult. However, as long as you live in your parent's house, your rights may be more limited. But once you have your own place, then you get to decide what you want to do without having to really answer your parents. At that point, they can only be like life advisors to you.

This is how you know you're ready to date:

1. You are fully capable to handle adult situations with little to no advice.
2. You are aware that ANY and EVERYTHING you do you are fully RESPONSIBLE and ACCOUNTABLE for all actions regarding a relationship, that includes with what somebody else has done, knows about, and doesn't. That includes but is not limited to SEXUAL choices, Marital choices, be if somebody is an abuser, a drug dealer, etc. You cannot expect mom and dad to help you with adult decisions you make.
3. You know exactly what you are looking for in a partner, why you dating, and HOW to date.
4. You are aware that people have free will to choose what they are and aren't going to do and you are emotionally, psychologically, mentally, sexually, physically, and spiritually PREPARED. That may include financially, academically, etc.

Again, unless you ask your parent why they believe you are too young, all you can do is prove and challenge that respectfully when talking about it. MEANING, let them know that you believe you are fully capable of handling it if there appears to be no logical reason to do so. While age doesn't always equate to that. Most people even my age and older aren't ready for a relationship let alone too young in away because of their mentality. I say that if you have to rely on your parents basically for everything then no, you are more and likely not ready for a serious relationship because when it gets too tough and you're by yourself, then all you have left are friends maybe and professional counseling if you can afford one financially.

If you are too SENSITIVE and naive, it may be best you do not get involved because some people cannot mentally and psychologically handle it. I know I personally can not. It is not like those days where people were a bit more mentally stable. Nowadays people fool around sexually, have little to no morals, and will play with your heart and mind and still not care if you died tomorrow. So seriously think about WHY you want and need a boyfriend. Because unless you are ready to get married, it may not be a wise decision for you. I suggest weighing the pros and the cons before taking that step and deciding how will you go about finding a partner and where will his place be in your life.

[GhostMochi]

When you're in you're 20's, you're an adult. Your parents don't really have a say in who you date anymore. They can give you advice or give you their opinion, but they can't tell you that you're too young or control your dating life.

[Asker]

I live at home till i can afford an apartment rent is so pricey now days

[Shizunk]

23 is a good time to marry and start having kids. 21 is the perfect time to start working towards that. Any delay after 25 that is imho procrastination, unless you have very specific skills and experience you want to acquire first.
If someone told me that 22 is early, I would immediately ask him what he thinks the right age is. After 30 things start getting difficult, so you don't exactly have forever to figure things out and still have all the options open. If things fail, then you need some time to try again later.
I can think of no reason why you would want to not look for a good guy after the age of 20. You can be discriminating and only accept very good men and make yourself hard to get, but why the hell would that sort of age disqualify you I have no clue.

[Lliam]

Not normal at all.
Most parents would be concerned if their 22-23 yr old daughter DIDN'T have a boyfriend. Like "what's wrong with her?"

Is it a cultural thing? I mean, is your dad/family of a certain ethnicity and have very conservative values, especially when it comes to their views of women?

Did he forbid you from having a boyfriend or did he just "tell you" that you're too young?
Do YOU think you're too young?
What would he do it you went ahead and started dating?

I'd say that it's past time for you to start living life and gaining real world experience.

[KasonBader]

Yes it is, the reason they do this is because they want to feel like you're still a kid and they miss that, yet they still love you now, but they have to accept the fact you are old enough now, and can most likely take care of yourself, and one day take care of them if you have too.

[tomtom05131]

Every dad worries about his daughter. My daughter started dating at 16 and is 23 now. Nothing i can do about it and she has chosen okay so far. I do take the guys aside and tell them how easy it would be for me to kill them and then help look for the killer. 🤣🤣🤣

[slatyb]

No, that's weird. But you are an adult and can do as you please. If you are still living at home, it sounds like you should be making plans to move out.

[SofGFélixBltrn]

He’ll always see you as a child. You’re too young to get married but not to date.

[Asker]

Thank you probably true. Just curious if anyone is able to relate. I also probably won't marry till early 30s tbh but hope to find someone when the time is right:)

[okeydoke]

He’s way out of line. You’re an adult and should be dating if you want to be. It’s absolutely not too young.

[Zlantur2]

No, if you were under 18 then fine. But not at that age.

[jasco]

All good dads are over protective. He knows what's out their better than you do. However he should let you experience life because he doesn't know how much time he or you have left

[dreamstar72]

Just say “hey dad if I listen to your advice I will be to old to have a boyfriend”

[Dchrls78104]

Either he's ultra conservative or he just thinks that you are not mature enough/ready right now to start dating.

[DaveToo]

They're overly protective of you. Dad doesn't want you fucking just anyone.

[888theGreat]

Daddy doesn't want to lose his little girl and he hates the idea of a guy popping your cherries.

[Asker]

Its kind of late for that but true

[Anonymous]

Depend on country but lol you are old enough to even marry. My mother was around you're age when she was pregnant with me. I was her first child

[Adogdog]

Probably not normal LOL

[Asker]

Well why would my parent say that? They dont want me to grow up or maybe not ready for me to?

[Adogdog]

They probably just want you to be careful. Good guys are rare.

[Jerre]

No that is NOT normal. Find a boyfriend.

[Bklynbadboy12]

He's your dad he'll always say that

[PuNishant]

23 is old enough lol

[Asker]

He says im too young to think of all that at the moment

[PuNishant]

Well we don't have to tell him about us ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Kidding dad's are protective because they know how men thinks😂

[anylolone]

Nope.

[disgustingweebtrash]

what do u think