Do you have a bad attitude about dating?

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Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Oh absolutely, and I have no shame in admitting it.

Years of being rejected, ghosted, friendzoned, and lied to tends to make one bitter and a wary to bother dating or trusting others again. Especially when you have "friends" or peers that got dates with minimal to no effort. That's not exactly great for one's self esteem and confidence.

Obviously that's not the case for everyone. For those of you that are brave enough to deal with the dating scene: kudos to you! You're more patient than I am!

But I'm learning to be happy alone, and focus on fixing my self esteem before even considering dating again.

Do you have a bad attitude about dating?

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't say "bad".. maybe indifferent🤔 or too old to put up with bullshit people call "dating"🤔

RawIronhide · Accepted Answer

Yeah kinda. Girls these days have attitudes too. I'm kinda supposed to do everything and if I don't you'll just dump me and onto the next guy. Don't get me wrong there's still great girls out there but the majority of the time I'm weeding through people who expect me to say all the right things, pay for their meals buy them gifts. Be taller than 6 foot and give them D1 babies. Like what am I really getting for all this? How do I know you won't just use me for a date? Or divorce me and leave me broke in my 40s like I see happening all to often.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

I do not have a bad attitude about dating. Just bad experiences with modern-day single women, especially the gross part-time lesbians ("bi") claiming to look for men, so they can exploit them or abuse them. Just, stop! Stay in your own lane.

And no, this isn't me just being cynical. I spent my entire twenties looking for love. Even wrote a MyTake or two about it. For all men under a 7 in looks, dating SUCKS!

OlderAndWiser · Answer

No, I have a great attitude and it has translated into success when I was dating. Now, I'm settled down into a relationship with the girl I started dating last December.

dragoblack · Answer

Yes and no. Yes, i get frustrated with the amount of people who match then ghost, can't hold a conversation or give me any content about themselves to work off of, don't even answer at all, the scammers, hookup people, solicitors, and offline dating where all i run into is, "sorry, i don't find you attractive", "I'm already with someone", "ew, no", "I'm not into men", they walk off mid-conversation (quite literally ghosting me irl), they are only looking for a hookup, or they are just trying to use me for free stuff... who wouldn't get frustrated, if not mad at all of that on a near constant?
No, in terms of getting mad at the woman for rejecting me. I try to take rejection in stride as it is super common for me.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

My view is more cynical than anything when I was on the market. Everything is just a power and frame control game of whoever cares less. No one has accountability and can't communicate clearly or be upfront about how they are feeling or what they are looking for. Just emotionally and mentally draining that paints a bad light on it which is a shame because it shouldn't be like this.

DaveJord · Answer

I try to be optimistic, but I'd say yes. I have a bad additute. It was a lot easier when I was young, nieve and dumb. In today's world of instant gratification, you think when meet someone its supposed to rainbows and unicorns. But turns out to be costly work, with little return on investment.

Shark_61695 · Answer

I'd say I've more given up on the idea. I am barely out there, stuck miles from the nearest village and little activity on the dating sites.

Part of me thinks a partner would help complete my life and give me something to look forward to every day. The other part can't see any benefit to me and only a big drain on them.

Browneye57 · Answer

I don't, but unrealistic expectations is common. And people date and marry for the wrong reasons, which leads to a lot of unmet expectations, and then failure.
The current lot of date-ables in the pool are not well connected to reality. There's still an awful lot of puppy dogs rainbows and pink unicorns. :)

ChiTown33 · Answer

I don't think so. I think I'm very realistic about it. I've lived my entire life single. Ergo there is nothing a woman can do to entice me. I see women's games a mile away. If she wants me she has to make an effort. She has to get to know me. But I'm totally fine if I never see her again. This offends most women the feel they should be catered to. And I say I do that with people I love and care about. Not some strange woman that walks up on me.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I don't think so. I've had a bunch of negative experiences though. I assume I'm doing something to attract the wrong people. I'm not too sure what that would be, but I'm open to critique.

Anonymous · Answer

No, but I have a bad attitude about people and the dating pool.
Everyone my age is either sleeping around or not looking for anything serious. They’re all stuck up or assholes… There’s a small minority of people who are genuinely sweet and want a real serious relationship.

Spiderarecool · Answer

only has bad attidude about having very bad expecice with some guys. that did cheat and blame on myself or their own learning disabities. i see both men and women complaining about dating and same thing with user with learning disabilitieshas more hard sicne only have limted about men but there more men with learning disability. Do not bother with talking to ask for sex if online i will always rejected these type of players.

Jayplays900 · Answer

I have a major caution whenever I'm dating. I'll put up a face and show my more exciting side, but underneath, I'm analyzing my patterns, her patterns, and probably am stressing out to see if I'm doing a good job.

So beneath it all, I have a fairly stressed attitude. Sad though, as I kinda wanna just be myself, but 'myself' is an excited sub boi who just wants cuddles. Girls don't like that shit.

Subarugirl · Answer

No, but I see lots of men who do, especially here, not even to mention MGOTOW

DonRollins · Answer

I have a terrible opinion on what it is for most people. Most women in the west are repulsive to me and the good women here are all married, which is expected. I was basically on course already to marry the women I did when she wasn't even 18 yet

420Rachel · Answer

Nah. Not really. I used to be pretty discouraged before I met my partner I'm with now. But I really believe I've met the person I'm going to be with the rest of my life. It's hard out there, that's for sure, sometimes you gotta wade through the mud to find the gold.

Alyssa11 · Answer

My experiences have been shit over the past year or so, so yes. I am not actively dating anyone and neither am I trying to. I am just waiting for the right person to walk into my life.

Spookydood · Answer

I think you're going to find the reported answer to be no but the actual answer to be yes more often than not.

Wester1967 · Answer

Yes. Very very bad.

Lucy68 · Answer

I might've been burnt a few times but I'm still positive and hopeful

sage2021 · Answer

Yes!! It's the same old 🐎 horse, just a different merry-go-round.

exitseven · Answer

THe last girl I dated made me want to give it up for a while, maybe for good. Ironically I met my future wife the very next day.

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