What are the benefits of dating older men?

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

So yes, I know I'm no spring chicken but I typically have always been interested in guys my own age. They have proven to be worth the lint between my toes so there's that. On the off chance that a guy is interested in me (it's rare), he's usually younger than me or like at least 10 years older.
That just always kinda bugs me. Mostly because I LOOK like a child lmao. Like no one else ever even thinks I'm an adult. EXCEPT for older men. But I'm trying to get past it and maybe give one of them a try? Or I could be having a midlife crisis. Ya girl struggling 🤣🤣🤣

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The older guys are really killin it with the replies! So much knowledge and wisdom 🙌🏾

[Shortman70]

You wanna know if an older man would be worth taking him for a spin? Understandable most of us are pretty easy goin. You'll occasionally find a D-bag but for the most part we're ok. We won't be playing any games, so if your into that shit, we've made it this far, there's nothing to gain playing stupid games. We are still horny and still need to release the pressure that builds up. The difference between us and 20yr olds: we might not be able to pound your hole all nite but we're gonna pleasure you all nite. As we get older it's not so much the penetration, it's more about the other things. I don't need to plow the garden all nite but I would rather play in the garden and completely prepare the garden, so when it's time to plant, the garden has already been worked and kneaded and it's been drenched so many times with the indoor sprinkler that just a little plowing makes the garden shutter and quake and she'll enjoy the seeding immensely. Most of us are financially sound, we have most everything we need in life. if we have kids, their usually older and you don't have to help raise them or be a mom. You don't have to keep tabs on us, we've prob been alone for awhile so we're happy to have someone that wants us around but we won't follow you like lost puppies. Probably have our own cars or pickups. A house that seems empty but we call it home. Don't try to make it into some kind of woman's retreat. When you join the party we'll consider it our house, don't disrespect it. Any other questions you would like an answer too? Just ask away!

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Yup. This is it. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I'm sold.

[InquisitiveObserver]

A guy my age just played me and was cheating on his girlfriend with me. Are older guys less likely to cheat?

[DaveJord]

@InquisitiveObserver in general older guys have less options, and are past thier chasing days.

So yes they are less likely to cheat, but are extremely less likely to play or put up with games. They want to relax and chill with a good women. They want transparent honesty, or they walk on drama. Don't try to change them, just love them for what they do do, and respect them. You do that and they wull be therefore you in ways no man has before.

[InquisitiveObserver]

@DaveJord I want to date older men then.

[JohnE_62]

I would like to show you how mature i am over guys your age. I have 3 sisters, and many nieces who taught me how to respect a woman, so I would never abuse you. i would treat you like the queen of my heart, my world. I would remember your birthday, and buy you things you would like. and buy you something for Christmas, and our anniversary of when we first met and our wedding anniversary if we got married. I would open doors for you, feed you breakfast in bed on your birthday, and when you are sick. I would love and respect you as being of equal mind, if not better than I, I would never lie to you, cheat on you, I would eat food that you cooked and love it. I would make love to you whenever you wanted it without a complaint {just try and keep me away from you on that one.} And so much more.

[JohnE_62]

i meant to say this to you ShaTTered.

[InquisitiveObserver]

@JohnE_62 that was harsh lol

[DaveJord]

@InquisitiveObserver At age 26 you should have your pick of litter in older men. But if you're on line dating... chances are you need to contact them first. Don't go with an older man 10 years plus contacting you. He's just looking for ass. Real geniue older
Men will not even consider a 26 year, because they figure she's not interested. I am 45 and honestly anyone under 38 I mostly likely don't bother.

[Shortman70]

@InquisitiveObserver In my opinion yes, but there will always be someone that's looking to take advantage of you. Most of men my age, that have been hurt by women or the system just want piece, I believe. Sometimes things happen that throw us into so much turmoil that our lives are a total shit sandwich we're slowly getting through. Just be careful and honestly communicate with them. They will really appreciate that, sometimes we are not the best at that but I think as a whole, we are getting better. Be safe.

[Shortman70]

@DaveJord Thats a perfect answer.

[DaveJord]

@Shortman70. 👍

[InquisitiveObserver]

@DaveJord can one find older men outside of online dating?

[InquisitiveObserver]

@DaveJord how old is old enough to take advantage?

[DaveJord]

@InquisitiveObserver To be honest I want say yes you can find them off line... but honestly you sound like the type of girl that wouldn't be interested in the type of older guy that hangs out at the same places as 26 year old.

The trick is not o adverse you're looking for older men... or every swinging dick regardless of age will like you on line and it will be impossible to sort through.

How old is too old... hell I can't really say. Age is honestly just a number, depending on the individual. If I had to guess... my sister is married to a guy who is 20 years older... but they been together for over 12 years. Its been the best 12 years of her life. But she's come to terms that she'll be widowed by the age of 60. So 10 to 15 year difference I guess if had to give a number.

My uncle married a girl 30 years younger, but he had money. But she was super nice and treated him really well. She was widowed by the age of 40... buy she was well provided for.

[DaveJord]

I mean I 45 and your 26, for example 19 year gap. When I am 80 you will be 61.

But a vibrant health guy can stay pretty vigorous through his 60s. But when you reach you're sexual peak in your 40s... his age will work against him. Just think about that to.

[Shortman70]

@InquisitiveObserver If I were you that's where I would look. It seems that online dating sites attract the undesirable. It's more anonymous for them to keep their intentions secret. If you do look online, just be very careful and check them out, other sites, Facebook and other social media, maybe even pay for a background check. Being safe is always better than being sorry!!

[Shortman70]

@DaveJord Dam Dave you got some really good answers. I'm betting you are married and have been for a long time? Am I close? I've been married for a few years, I found a wonderful woman in (wait for it) high school. It hasn't always been smooth, ok there was some big ass mountains we climbed, but we did it together.

[DaveJord]

@shortman70I had a 20 year marriage but I am divorced now. The mountains just got steeper and steeper. Got married at 20 years old. Maybe if waited until I was a little older and wiser. But I worked way too hard, for way too long... but I did really love her, just glad to be rid of her now.

[Shortman70]

@DaveJord I will admit I got lucky. We've been through some really tough times, the last one was the worst. I got addicted to pills then other drugs, she stuck with me through rehab and helped me into recovery, now I think only death will separate us. I hope anyway.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. Ask a question and I'll give you an honest answer.

2. I have a track record of 50 years of dating and relationships and I've never been unfaithful, not once.

3. I think your happiness is as important as my own happiness because I want you not just for today and tomorrow but forever. I'm not looking for ONS or casual.

4. In bed, I'll tell you what is of limits for me. No thirds person, no pictures or video, no whips and chains. Outside of that, I will do whatever it takes to satisfy you sexually because of I make you happy, you'll want to satisfy me, too.

5. If I love you, I'll tell you. Not every 5 minutes but a few times per week

6. I'm glad if you have a life separate from me. I understand how important that is and I'm not insecure

7. If you decide we are not meant to be, just tell me. I won't hate you, won't throw things, won't call you names, won't slash your tires.

8. I'll be proud of you and want to introduce you to friends and family.

[RayBeam]

Thank you my age fellow you gave ansyclopedic answer as damn right and thats why our young partner choose us becouse we are completly peace of mind for them

[Anonymous]

i see this post has been answered by a lot of people, so i just want to add that they seem to have a lot of benefits on average, but what i'm worried about is that he can't accompany me for a long time, his strength is also not comparable to mine so i definitely don't dare often take him wherever i want.


its pretty sad but that's what i think according to reality. and i'd be lying if i said i don't care what other people think. perhaps others could say that it would be fine if i had been blinded by love, lust, or greed. but still i woke up by the reality around me, bcs i have high sensitivity and insecure.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Thank you for being honest

[RayBeam]

Oh dear i think you wouldn't be able to camp where i camp realy requires serious strenght and courage more over for sure we are not you pet that you gonna take me whereever you want we both talk and we both decide that what we call relation i sure ain't coming with you down to pub where you gonna makee show of your ex how reacher Man you have than him

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

An older man will be less likely to play games, will have more value and appreciation for the things that really matter in life. Also an older man will have been raised in a different time where values, morals, respect, manners were taught that seem to be lacking these days... On a side note, you're too young for a mid life crisis lol that'll come in your 40's lolol

[KieranByrne]

Agreed, I am 30 and currently getting 'anxious' about being 40 with expectations and reality!

I take others advice, then see what I want to do, if I lose 'Friends' I no longer care!

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Yeah different upbringing means different things are important to them. Makes sense.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@KieranByrne you definitely realize what and who are really important in life as you get older and willing to waste less time on those that aren't..
And if you're 30, you still got 10 years for you hit 40..,😊

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@ShaTTeredMasterpeace I hope you find a good man that treats you the way you deserve to be treated. Noone should have to settle for less💛🙏

[KieranByrne]

Thank you! I hope to how you say 'Find myself' within a good time!

And all the best at finding a good person 'Shatteredmasterpiece' 🙌

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

@KieranByrne thanks Kieran

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Thanks.

[KieranByrne]

You're welcome!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Per your update.. All the more reason to date older,.. For the wisdom they bring to the table

[DaveJord]

I am not sure how old you are, so its kind of relevant to the question.

In general after the age of 40 to 50 older men, are more established professionally and personally in a better place to invest in a relationship emotionally. Older men tend to provide more Security to a women, and want to make them more centered in their lives.

But I would say older men up until about the age of 35 are only interested in the physical aspects of beauty... thats a very general assumption. Obviously every person is different.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

I'm 33.

[DaveJord]

So I'd it depends at 33, your kinda in the middle zone. I am 45, usually 36 is youngest I'd consider. Bit at 45 I would invest in her more than I would of at 33 or 40.

[Slithers]

I just turned 40 so I'd consider myself older.

We aren't insecure, we are a lot more charming, and we will likely have you second guessing yourself instead of vice versa. Older confident guys are going to be a challenge for any girl significantly younger.

Sexually we are way more experienced than you are or anyone your age. We are probably more adventurous and have fewer hangups.

We have been through plenty of relationships and at this point we can predict what you are going to do next at every turn. That puts you at a disadvantage that you may like, or you may not like. It's intimidating for some women.

The disadvantages is you might find an older guy who's not secure with dating someone younger and gets jealous easy. You might be at loss on trying to keep up with someone older in conversation. You're at an age where you are going to be changing rapidly and he isn't.

[ohshee]

No relax you're not having a midlife crisis we get to a certain age and the world becomes different to us we have gone through all the bulshit all the games we know there's a better way. And that better way is, the world does not evolve around us.
We become more honest with ourselves so it's transfers do everything else in our lives.
We become one with ourselves which makes it easier to become one with somebody else
Whether I grab a hold of your hand and pull you close.
Or if I'm standing behind you with my arms wrapped around you my lips on your neck there is an intense beautiful sensation the transfers into the other a calm a peacefulness with every look with every touch it's just more real it's just one hundred times more beautiful

[AviatorTom]

According to your profile, you're 33. There should be plenty men around your age to date.

One of the advantages of dating older men (your age and higher) is that they generally are more settled, mature and experienced in the ways of love and sex. They've gotten the wildness of being younger out of their systems and are looking to settle down.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Like I said, they aren't worth the lint between my toes lol.

[AviatorTom]

@ShaTTeredMasterpeace Since you dislike men so much, maybe you should try dating a woman your age.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

I don't dislike men lol.

[DaveToo]

Patience, we older guys have learned that it's better to satisfy the lady. If we do that properly, we get rewarded.
Honor, when a lady gives us the honor of their presence, we older guys return that honor. We know a good gal when we see her.
Stability, we older guys are far more stable in our lives. We don't run around. When ya got a good thing, you don't screw it up.

Unfortunately, when we're 43 years older than you, we're just not the kind of catch you were looking for.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

43 years might be a tad too old lol, but I love everything you said

[DaveToo]

Now see? All that experience just going to waste.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Lmao awwww not to waste. Still helping the lost like myself

[magiusX26]

we have a better idea of what to realistically expect from dating

usually more stable (finacially and otherwise)

usually we know how to keep the good suprises (think surprise party) and keep away many of the bad suprises (think things like how to deal with something major going wrong)

there are a few drawbacks many dont think of though like when someone does try playing games (saddly many younger folks try this) we are more likely to know it immediately or near immediately. so in turn we are often less likely to be manipulated.

[normalice]

Older men tend to realize the difference between appearance and substance is irrelevant most of the time. So simply appearing not to be "toe lint" is enough to convince most people that they aren't. And they've had more time to learn what people >look< for when trying to figure out if someone is toe lint.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

I don't know if it's too early or if I'm slow, but I'm confused 😭

[KieranByrne]

Personally I look for a woman, more my age or can be slightly younger, (21 or above) and as long a they act 'adult' I am fine, and can understand! I use to like older women!

It is hard to find the 'Inbetween' and the speaking to each other is sometimes not enough!

It all depends on how much you both are willing to commit to the relationship, and what age the person acts!

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

This is true. Because sometimes age and maturity levels don't match up

[wearehere2002]

For one their maturity should be about the same as the younger women as females mature faster than males and also they will have more experience in life however they are less likely to be into the things you are though you may have a few things in common

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Well I'm not into a lot of the other things people my age are lol. I'm an old ass lady already.

[bones_20]

I mean I wouldn’t mind a sugar daddy lol




Jokes

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Lmao they're out there

[Levin]

Defo not a joke 🙂

[bones_20]

Maybe, maybe not. 😏

[alleon]

I’ve always dated and been attracted to older men. I’ve attempted guys closer to my age and quickly realized why I date men older than me. I’m 29 and like men mid to late 40’s

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Lol yeahhhh I've had zero luck with our age bracket

[whatsupbri]

Same here I want to date younger but they play around never really serious

[alleon]

Yeah I mean I’m sure there’s the rare ones that are mature for their age that like a woman older but I’d have a hard time taking them seriously

[mk200195]

There is no right answer, everyone has different preferences and of course depending on the womans age she will want different things, for example its unlikely a teenage girl will prefer a younger manI think typically women are more attracted to slightly older men as men tend to mature slightly later than girls and hence want someone with the same mental maturity. However, this is such a broad question and is honestly so different for every woman. Some prefer younger, and actually many prefer someone close to their own age, but again it depends on whether the woman wants someone she can grow with, someone who will make her feel more grown up, or someone who will make her feel younger

[DizzyDesii]

they ain't much different from what I've experienced. A lot are still immature and still just tryna get laid. Only difference is they dont freak out as much if the girl gets pregnant cause theyre usually childless and want a kid

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Girl your older is my age, bye 😂😂😂

[DizzyDesii]

I prefer my age. But I've had my fair share of 10 year olders

[FatherJack]

Life experience , less impulsive than younger guys ( I was at times when younger ) , no fluff & BS , straight to the point. However , I'm a single dad , as well as FT working & own ventures , I cannot compete in the ultra male heavy dating market , & I don't want to anyway , after the marriage I endured & ended. Peace & focusing on my personal growth are the important things to me now , apart from the most important , my teen daughter.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

Older men pretty much don't want kids, so we're really good at NOT knocking up girls we date. We're also financially secure (generally), and wiser than most younger men. We've learned how to mitigate risk instead of crashing head-first into it.

[whatsupbri]

Facts totally true I have dated older men and what you said is accurate

[Yourfriend2021]

Older guys are less likely to play mind games and be a player because they value a relationship more.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

That's definitely a good thing. I am very much over games.

[Yourfriend2021]

Yes, when people are younger they are just looking for a good time :)

[Anonymous]

There is no benefit regardless of age because the root problem still remains. An overall spiritually dead collective / society. But if you find the one that isn't, then the age won't really matter, because they will take you to depths you didn't even know existed. Most people think they have been in love, when they really were just tricked by the ego.

[JanJan38]

No games, they are not afraid to tell you what they want, and it seems more secure when I am with an older guy.

[koolbrz]

You are 46. SMH

[JanJan38]

And?

[robin134]

You are in older side too.

[JohnE_62]

Since no one else mentioned it, not sure if I should, but what the hell, here it goes.

Older people will leave you something in their will; IF you are nice to them.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Lol ahhh that's a good one

[TheSpaceGnome]

Most people look at me and think I'm a child, but the older a person is the more likely they are to look at me that way.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'm not sure what the benefits would be, anything I can think of is also applicable to a younger person.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

I don't think so

[TheSpaceGnome]

You don't think do about what?

[TheSpaceGnome]

think so*

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

It being applicable to the younger.

[TheSpaceGnome]

well what benefits wouldn't be?