I talk to her maybe about 70-80% of the time first, And i dont want 1) To get use to it so much 2) Want to make sure she has interest in me by talking first.
Should I wait a bit longer and see if she texts me first? Like i just want to confirm she likes me enough to talk first also. Thanks for your advice.
Should I always talk to her first OR wait for her to talk to me first?
I think you might be overthinking this. Or at least I think you're going about this the wrong way. You DO need to be sure that your interest in reciprocated, but I would not do it by waiting for her to text first.
I guess what I don't like about this is the 'playing games' aspect of it. The calculated decision to not message her first as a 'test' of her interest... is just the type of bullshit I'm constantly telling girls not to do. It's just unnecessary, silly, and is more likely to cause confusion/create drama.
Now, like I said, you DO need to feel confident that she reciprocates your interest. I would suggest going about that in one of two ways.
1) Ideally, you'd be looking for anything and everything to indicate her interest (or lack of interest) in you, ASIDE from the fact that you are usually the one texting first. In other words, really try and step back and put it in context. There HAS to be other things which you can take as little signs that she's interested (or that she's not). That's harder to do if this girl is super new (which she very well might be). Just think about it, and make sure you aren't "making something out of nothing".
2) If that doesn't work: You should straight-up mention it. I would definitely recommend just talking about this minor concern (which may be nothing at all) of yours. I would not recommend any methods of "testing" people's interest/affection. It's just not as likely to get you past this in a way that's helpful. More likely than not... she's going to notice a change in your behavior and wonder "what's wrong" between the two of you. It causes unnecessary misunderstandings more than it gives you the results you want.
Often relationship bullshit comes down to people not just being straight-forward with each other. Then both people start guessing and shit goes sideways. You can even bring it up in a "half-joking" way. But don't do this "waiting" (testing) her thing. Talk to her about it if it's bothering you enough to want to "do something."
You should spark up interesting conversation, as the conversation is hitting the peak, ask her on a date, with a specific time and plan. Like Saturday at 7 P. M. want to grab dinner?
Make the texting conversation short and to the point and then just ask.
If she says no, or she is busy, or doesn't respond for a bit then comes up with some lame excuse that she was busy and didn't see your text, she is not interested. At this point, just stop texting her and don't waste your time.
If she says yes, or she says she is busy but offers another time or day that she is free, then she is interested.
Also, do it sooner rather than later. Do not waste your time with a maybe, just rip it off like a band aid and ask. I do suggest asking for a date, when you are going in to work, or about to do something where you can't really check your phone because you are busy doing other things, so your anxiety of asking the question isn't eating you alive
It’s so easy to get used to the fact that you always text first. And girls tend to expect it if it continues that way and will actually find that they like it because then they know they aren’t bothering you and that you haven’t lost interest. It’s possible if you stop texting her one day that she will take that as he lost interest or he needs space and she won’t say anything. But it’s also possible she will say something. Maybe try to slowly stop initiating it like do every other time instead of every time. And when you text her make sure she knows that she is wanted so that she is comfortable to initiate it next time.
I know it’s not fair to you and it’s hard to get a balance with that unless you’re a lot more comfortable with each other. So keep showing her attention but give her some opportunity to initiate it as well.
There are a couple of ways to look at this… One is if you really like her and want to know if she feels the same talk to her! Ask her if she like you! the other is for you to pull back a bit maybe not text hr for a few days maybe a smile and a nod your head slightly as you pass her. If she like you shell text and ask you why you haven’t texted her? This last one im NOTin favor of.. It’s a mind game, I figgin hate mind games! No matter if its the guy, or the girl doing it… mind gamed=s truly SUCK! Jut ask her how she feels, you literally have nothing to loose! If she doesn’t like you now, another week of texts won’t change that!
To check out her interest... Yes, waiting a little to see if she initiates the conversation could be a nice one.
But if you're always texting first maybe she can get used to it as well, and then you'll always end up being the first initiating the convo.
But I'd say to be yourself either way (cliché ik 😅). Don't try too hard to always be the first initiating the chat but don't try to always be the last either.
If you're chatting with someone, both parties need to balance the conversion in order to avoid putting too much pressure onto the other.
You can't look at it as if it's a game you have to follow your heart if you were into her if you like her then you have to tell her either verbally or show her by the things you do and say. You asking this question because you're not sure where you both stand if I was you I'd stand right in front of her and asked her to her face to her eyes to her heart where do we stand I like you. Get a hold of that confidence in the own it do what you know you have to do
I’m assuming this is over texting? If so, don’t wait — text to setup a date and limit texts until the date. She could be waiting for you to lead. In my experience, the less you text the better. I’ve had women barely text and go out on dates and others who text all day and never want to meet up.
It might help answer your question by pulling back for a while. Make her start wondering what happened to you. Then she will probably be the one to text you text. It will cause her to be curious about what happened to you. Then the two of you will be more on the same level. Good luck to you 🙋♀️
Considering that you initiate the conversation most of the times I would say that you should wait to see if she texts you first. Then if she doesn't show any interest in you you'll have to move on. Good luck! 😊👍🏾🍀
In text format, you MIGHT have to chat her up, first. In bar room format, you still MIGHT have to but, if you just go up next to her for a mo and she starts talking to YOU first, half your work is done for you. She's probably interested. Either that or, she's just a very out-going person.
Girls have a tendency to avoid approaching those interested in them. You probably have to make the first move if you want to go anywhere. Personal (on the initiation of conversation):A while ago I realised that nobody ever initiates conversation with me... I deduced that nobody liked me enough for that to be the case and became depressed lol...
engage in casual conversation. Her voice, eyes and body will eventually tell you if she's interested in anything more. If she's not really enthusiastic or she's not turned all the way towards you to listen to what you have to say just move on.
When in doubt, do the traditional manly man approach. You should make the first move, always. A lot of women expect it, and it won't hurt to be rejected once in awhile if you're wrong.
A relationship/friendship goes both ways, if they're never initiating conversation then you need to wonder do they value you the same way you value them
