uh, how long were you guys friends for? or were you guys ever friends first?
to actually have a partner that we call a boyfriend is to first get to know each other, become friends, and then. if you do find each other interesting enough, or fall in love perhaps, then you start dating... it doesn't happen in the blink of an eye..
"sparks" of what exactly? love or lust? if its just lust, why even spend time with this guy, just be honest to him how you feel like, and tell him maybe you just wanna be friends, and then startover, see where it goes.
you're gonna hurt him even more if you keep this in for more time, what if he actually falls in love with you and you tell him you dont.. so its better to express your feelings first, rather than hurting him more in the future. now's hurt would be much lesser compared
Typically the first few months of the relationship, you feel a spark or a connection, but it’s different for everyone. Sometimes it takes a while to develop, but I think you should tell him. If you don’t want to… just wait it out and see how you feel after another month. No spark? I would tell him and break it off.
Attraction is complicated. Sometimes people who should work on paper and seem well matched in terms of personality, interests, and even values just don’t have physical chemistry. It cannot be forced. It doesn’t mean the relationship cannot work. A lot of couples have made relationships work and grow into love through their commitment and dedication to each other, but if you don’t feel chemistry early on there is no guarantee you will feel it later.
The whole “sparks” thing is such bullshit if you like the person and they are attractive and you want to be with them that’s all that matters. You can spend your whole life chasing some “spark” and never get it or if you do it will be short lived. It’s more about maturity that some stupid spark
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For some people, things get too intense too fast. Others are not so, but with time it might.
You probably did get too serious with him too fast. If you weren't feeling any sparks, you could of just dated and not made anything official. It is okay to date multiple guys at once. It is not okay to have multiple boyfriend's at once.
It takes me around 6 months before I really can feel a strong connection with someone and that is if everything is going great.
You aren't feeling it. The next time he contacts you, say "Sorry, you are very nice but I don't feel that we belong together. Best wishes."
Well do you think the sparkles you described is a reasonable expectation to have? Did you have this for other guys and is it something you should expect to have?
I never been in a relationship but from my own observation it does appear that every couple I know felt a spark by that time
Getting into a relationship with someone before sparks was the bad sign
This does sound like a waste of both of your time. It would be best to end it as soon as possible.
it's a lack of sexual attraction just be honest and cut it off
If your not feeling it then call it off.
were you friends first, and for how long
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