i met this guy on a dating app. i haven’t been on a date in so long. well, i don’t think i have ever been on a real date… like, i haven’t been asked out on a serious date. my past boyfriends i have either met in the wrong place or through mutual friends and we just ended up together. i don’t think i have genuinely been on a serious date where we actually sit and get coffee or lunch. i am new to dating apps as well but i narrowed down my searches to people who actually want something genuine and to take it slow. he asked me out to lunch this weekend, but i have work and i told him that my work is on call sometimes so to be patient with me and my schedule. he is in active military and is stationed in my city but lives more up north. im really interested in him and i think he’s super cute and sweet. he seems like the sweetest guy in the world, but i have anxiety and i don’t want to flake on him or keep telling him to wait until i feel ready… what should i do? how do i go about this? what do i say or do on a first date?
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first date was awesome, we connected super well and we talked non stop. we visited a park and got some lunch. we planned a second date. thank you guys 😁
Be yourself first of all. Wear something you think is cute. Check with some friends too if you're unsure about your outfit. (don't wear anything too revealing, especially if you want to take it slow, totally gives guys the wrong ideas. If you're wondering if it's too "sexy" it probably is). Expect things to be a little awkward, especially if you haven't met in person before. Prepare some answers ahead of time for what you expect might be asked (aspirations, how things went with your last relationship, job, family, etc.). In the same vein, feel free to tell him you're not comfortable talking about something if that's the case. Have some things you want to know about him.
And this is just my thoughts, if you're not expecting to have sex or even kiss him, drive yourself. It can get awkward with a drop off.
Best of luck, I hope things go super great.
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you’re so helpful, thank you so so so much. we’ve talked about a lot (school, career, life, some politics, job, family, etc) but haven’t really delved into past relationships. i will try to arrange it at a place where we both can meet and i could drive back home alone. thank you so so much, ill try and update if i can.
Nothin more Artificial just be natural who you are if you are Nervous also then also no problem , just present yourself as you are. It's your first time so neevousness would be there it's good.
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i told him about my nervousness and he’s totally understanding so that is a plus.
Just talk and be natural. You want to have fun and don't give him a false idea of you, none of you have time for the other person being fake. If he likes you, it's better to know from the start than for him to just like what you think will attract him.
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