Can a guy fancy you but not hang out with you in work?

[Mel2021]

[ZackBan]

Considering how easy it is to get accused of inappropriate misconduct in the work place I'm not surprised guys chose the safe bet of not doing anything

[Mel2021]

That’s a fair statement

[Jaumet]

Not really... There is something about meeting someone that you are truly attracted to that only really happens when they are also attracted to you. You both tend to gravitate towards each other and no matter what... can talk about anything since everything they have to say is damn interesting to you.

[Jaumet]

Yes, a man can facy you and yet not even hang out with you at work or any other place... It is called a crush.

[Jaumet]

*fancy facy, lol yep I so facy her... my face hurts!

[Mel2021]

Ah ok it’s just I find it confusing as if you fancy someone and don’t want to hang out with them you are sending the wrong signals

[Jaumet]

I'm not saying that don't want to hang out with you... just that for some reason or another they just don't.

[MrCommodore]

Yes, absolutely they can.

[Mel2021]

Thank you for your opinion! I just find it really confusing as it would seem if you do that you come across as if you don’t like someone that much

[MrCommodore]

Its a defensive mechanism, guys do it to protect themselves from rejection if they aren't sure how the girls feels or if they think she is maybe not available.
And this can happen despite the girl thinking she is giving him clear signs of interest.

Many guys are cautious now because they fear misreading friendliness as flirting, so it means subtle flirting is usually not detected.

[Mel2021]

Ah that makes sense, what if the girl is trying to be friendly though?

[DaveToo]

Stay professional.