Is it a bad idea if a guy asks me to give him space and I wait a day and send him sexy nudes just for fun?

[Anonymous]

I am seeing a guy and I pushed a little hard and he said he needed some space to see if it’s in our best interest to see each other... he doesn’t know if he can give me time currently because his work is demanding and I’m a distraction. He wants to see me but he can’t handle a new relationship yet. So he asked if we could be chill for a bit and I agreed but then I pushed. Anyways, I feel bad for pushing and I have apologized multiple times yesterday but he said to give him space. Is it a bad idea to send a few sexy nudes in lingerie (I’ve never sent him nudes before) and say please?

Updates

+1 y

I’m not gonna send him nudes until he gets back to me and wants to see me again. Thanks all!

[cookiecrusher]

Firstly why go for a guy who doesn't want a relationship. Mostly friends with benefits is all you get, or a messy short term relationship.

There is a chance to have something serious. But don't bother him, tell him you would be happy to tag along when he gets some off time and wants to hit the gym or etc. Just be there for him and be supportive/understanding.

Try to add value into his life, does he he benefit if you cook him lunch and take it to his work. Without a hassle/scene. As a friend. Can you help with editing, writing email, marketing etc. Try to add value.

The internet is full with hot naked women and you probably aren't that hot. Besides you want him to see you as a good mate not as a good time.

[Asker]

Actually I am hot and I have a beautiful face, thank you

[cookiecrusher]

Well, that's good. The hotter you are the more important is to show that you are more than just a pretty face. Hope it works out, take care.

[AviatorTom]

Your nudes probably pushed him farther away. He asked for space and your nudes didn't respect that. You night want to move on and find another guy. Or, if you really want this guy, go to his place, rip off your clothes, and take him to the bedroom.

[Asker]

I didn’t send them yet

[AviatorTom]

Sorry, I misread your text. Per your update, very good idea to not send the nudes ,,. yet.

[Anonymous]

Taking a day apart then sending him nudes is not giving him space. In fact, it sounds like a desperate attempt to keep and/or spark his interest, and I mean no offense when I say that. You need to look at the broader picture: between him being too busy for you because of work, him telling you he’s trying to focus on his job and not dating, him telling you he needs space, etc. This man is giving you sign after sign, but you’re pushing for a different outcome than he is willing to give. You have to respect what’s going on in his life and actually listen to what he’s telling you. When he’s ready to talk, he will reach out, but I don’t even think you should wait too long for that.

[Asker]

Yes you’re very right.

[Asker]

I don't know how long until I lose hope. But yeah I won’t send him nudes until he confirms he wants to continue.

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly it doesn’t sound like something you should be investing your hopes in. All the uncertainty surrounding this situation should be a deterrent to you. Especially since he keeps saying right now isn’t good for him to date you, without him saying it. You can do so much better than that.

[Asker]

One minute he says he’s ready and the next (when his new work gets too much and he gets stressed) he backs out. So I don’t know really what to do because I still am hanging on to when he has said he wants to start:/

[Opinion Owner]

Honey, he is completely dragging his feet. You should not allow this guy to pick and choose when you are going to matter. He’s showing you who he is, and that’s a inconsistent, noncommittal guy, stringing you along and you’re way better than that. If sex is involved as well, that is another catalyst for him to keep you around and use what you really want from him as some kind of token. It’s just messed up.

[Sirenboobzilla]

I would wait till he contacts you again and lets you know he still wants to pursue you. Thebes you can pull out the pictures and tell him you were thinking about him.

If you do it too soon it might give him the message that you don't particularly care about his space and want it to be about you, even though that's not your intent

[Asker]

Trueeee I’ll do that

[Anonymous]

What do you not understand about space he has clearly asked you to give him space and you are wanting to disrespect his wishes stop trying to force him to be in a relationship with you what is wrong with you

[Laciandmaci]

I agree

[Asker]

Yeah you’re right I need to sit on my hands

[dankstranger]

I wouldn't do it. It seems kinda manipulative. Like your trying to get him to think with his dick and not his mind. Maybe you just need to respect that now is not a good time for him to be in a relationship and just give him space.

[MzAsh]

Bad idea. I hate to tell you but that reeks of desperation. Not only that, it says you can’t respect his boundaries. Let him come to you when he’s ready.

[CuriousMufuxka]

You are evil, like description wise sexy evil. Yet you post anon, completely canceling any spank bank material. You're not going to send any nudes.

[Asker]

No I decided to wait until he messages me and then send them

[BarryLiverstone]

Depends on what the pics are. Some can be a better idea than others in that circumstance

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s safer. Less chance of him seeing your nudes and not being attracted to you

[Asker]

I have really nice nudes lol

[BarryLiverstone]

Lol if I had a dollar for everyone who claims that

[funtime_01]

Don't do it. You'll regret it. More importantly, once you send him pictures of you like that, what are you going to do then? He's in full control of them and can do with them as he wishes.

[Asker]

I don’t care, I have a beautiful body

[Laciandmaci]

It shows you are disrespecting his wants, and shows you are desperate.

[Rafanrog]

Then you'll look desperate and easy and not very mysterious. Men like to chase a little too

[sweet_k_marie06]

First you push and now you want to push further by responding in the complete opposite of what he’s asking for. Sounds like a great plan to lose him.

[melanieeeB]

Uhm NO, thats such a stupid idea... unless you just want something casual and fuck

[spartan55]

Yes, very bad idea. What part of 'space' aren't you getting?

[Yourfriend2021]

Sounds like a good idea :)

[Asker]

Maybe I could send them to you instead 😉

[Yourfriend2021]

Ok that would be nice :)

[najekim]

If one is saying they need space, they're actually they don't want to continue.

[Asker]

No that’s not the case here

[In_Trance]

yes it is. Don't bother