I'm 29 and never had a boyfriend because I was bullied in highschool and now guys still see me as a loser what should I do?

[Anonymous]

[DaveJord]

You're saying your 29 and never found someone because you were bullied in high school... well let me tell you have this translates to most guys.

You had a hard time in high school... you never go over the insecurities it caused you so now your blaming high school bullies for why most guys think your not good to date.

Get over what ever happened to you in high school. Quit making excuses for your insecurities and find some self confidence. Guys like confident women and get out there and find someone. Stop making excuses or looking for someone else to blame... take some responsible for your future and make changes... get over the past.

[Seangreen]

Okay being bullied in high school is not an excuse for why you've never had a boyfriend I'm going to guess there's something wrong with you maybe you're extremely obese which can be a problem maybe you have a mental handicap but I'll guarantee you there's something that makes you not desirable and it's not because you were bullied you were bullied because of the same reason that you're not desirable. And I'm not trying to pick on you because I am also not desirable because I'm a f****** a******

[Asker]

Wrong I'm 5ft 8 at 55kg so

[Seangreen]

I didn't say you were but something's wrong especially when you just said you you weight and your height something's going on

[Asker]

They speak to me for 3 weeks and they end up choosing other girls

[Seangreen]

Okay let me be honest with you I'm telling you the truth are I'm not trying to be an ass while I might come off as an a****** but it's the truth. One I'd like to know what you were bullied about number two usually at your age and even at my age if the dude doesn't get laid in the first 3 weeks especially if it's been like you've seen him you know at least four or five dates maybe let's say if he didn't even get his dick jerk off he's going to assume that he's never going to get anything and he's just going to go to a girl that will and that's the truth

[dustybiker]

Find someone to break the ice with. Once you do you’ll break that HS mentality too. You are an adult now, that school has zero influence over you anymore.

[unknown17550697]

If you think of yourself as being a loser then people will treat you like one. And relationships have no age limits.

[KeepSpreadingLove]

screw the haters, pray to god to help you


focus on what you really should be doing
in life right now what is really important


and know that there is always someone
for everyone


Im sure prince charming will be over the moon for you one day


I was bullied too and I hate it


y'all dont be-little people its sad
be kind, spead love, appreciate your things you have, be grateful


spread love to your fellow neighbor
just be kind to the world
even if daren or karen gets in your face

[SiberFox]

Work on yourself and be confident. Hang out with friends and try and meet guys that way. Don't worry too much about what others think of you and worry about what you think of yourself.

[MCheetah]

You're a female in 2021, the Age of Simps. No woman can be a loser nowadays unless she's woke or tried to falsely accuse someone of something. Stop being so hyperbolic and lower your standards to include men who actually exist.

[Shivraj12s]

Don't prove yourself in front of those foolish people
What you were in highschool is your past
Now focus on future
Be a winner in your own mentality
It will change your time slowly but definitely

[exitseven]

Okay- I was a fat kid that got bulled in high school. Even after I lost weight and got in shape I was still the same kid. Things got better when I went away from college and got out of that environment.
You should move to someplace new.

[zagor]

I don't think it's because you were bullied in HS. Most people are able to get over that at some point. And most people over 20 don't give a shit about what you were like in HS, except for the people who peaked then.

[Kezandme]

The guys that see you as a loser are losers themselves. Mix with a different group. Dye your hair if you want. buy new clothes. Whatever makes you happy will make you look like a happy person which is attractive

[Anonymous]

you're not a loser don't call yourself that. somebody i deeply love was also bullied in school and they're not a loser

[Opinion Owner]

and the person i love is 29 also

[Stevefiveo]

If anyone says that to you, they are showing their true colors to you. They are mean. Find someone that is nice to you.

[jahaims]

It's your mindset. If people treat you like that it's because you act like you are in highschool and let them.

[whosnumber1]

Self confidence and self image. you need these end of story. care to message a pic of yourself?

[Anonymous]

Guys don’t care about your social status... if you are hot you are hot. Girls are hypergamous not men.

[Anonymous]

Date girls, they're cuter and less likely to sexually assault you

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s been 10 years, gotta change it up

[noohair]

Are you still around the losers from high school?

[Neosporin]

Become hit

[Neosporin]

Hot*

[Wise4myage]

Seek a therapist.