My ex girlfriend is messaging me but I already have a new girlfriend. What do I do if she’s threatening me with videos we made in the past?

[Anonymous]

[WonderBell99]

Calm down, do not fret. Be cool as a cucumber. First off, show this conversation to your girlfriend. Do NOT hide this from her at all. Show and explain this to her.

You have two options:
1. You ignore her. If you tell this to your girlfriend before that psycho ex of yours does anything, everything would be kind of okay. The worst thing she could do is post it on social media, which is a felony. Revenge porn is a serious offense and it will not be taken lightly. Besides, I don’t think she would seriously post it.. her reputation and future would be seriously jeopardized. It’s at stake.

2) You inform this to the cops immediately. They’ll take action against her and make her delete it.

I went through the comments and I see that you’ve mentioned your girlfriend is religious and she’d not be okay with your past. We are humans, nobody is perfect. We make mistakes, and we realize how stupid we were, and make sure not to repeat it again. If your girlfriend cannot accept your past mistakes (you’ve changed and matured now) then she is absolutely not worth it.

[lilyanony1]

Tell her to fuck off!
That what she is doing is a criminal offence and if she continue you will have to. Report her to. The police for harassment.
Ask her to delete the videos. And let her know this is final.
Tell your new girlfriend what is happening calmly and clearly and let her know that if it persists you will do everything to protect her and go to the police.

[Interstate]

She is jealous and still angry & hurt about the breakup. But you DO have to ask yourself something; How long has it been from the time you two split and the time you met this new girl? I will say this... if one of my exes picked up with somebody else just a breath's distance after we split, I would get bitter as well. Usually people who pick up another like picking up a pencil almost immediately after the breakup had little to no meaning for the recent ex in the first place. I guarantee that is what your ex is thinking. Because you met somebody else this soon and got involved with them after your breakup, it throws red flags that she didn't mean that much to you in the first place. And there are those who got so attached to the togetherness with the ex, that they go after the first opportunity because they don't want to feel being alone. In other words, rebounding just like your ex made mention of.

And as far as the videos go, it isn't as though you made them while you were with the new girl. The tapes are from the past, and the new girl wasn't even in the picture yet.

[virtue2332]

I'd say I don't have a problem with that. She night even give you some pointers or tips on techniques you could improve on. The truthof the matter is most states have laws that make this a crime. Look up revenge porn laws for your State. Just the threat could be enough. If you were under the age of 18 maybe even child pornography charges.

[FlutteringFeelings]

Block button. Read, swipe, and delete. Easy as 1,2,3. Entertaining the conversation is disrespectful to your relationship and is a motivation to your Ex to text you more often. If you’re not concerned or interested then the message would’ve been ignored or deleted.

[SnakeBoop]

that would be taking to the cops for threatening for revenge porn.
plus, so what? tell your girlfriend whats going on. If she can't handle your (pretty stupid, or in my opinion stupid) sex videos, then she isn't someone to stay with anyway?

[Asker]

I can’t because she would find out about the sex videos. She’s a Christian girl and my ex knows that because she stalks our stuff

[SnakeBoop]

so why date a christian who would take issue with your past? c'mon, thats another stupid choice you've made.

[Asker]

It’s way too soon to tell her about the mistakes I made in the past but I really like her. I dated my ex for four years and we got together, we were young and dumb

[Anonymous]

I’m a Christian girl and I got married over again. He had a crazy ex or whoever she was continuously stalking to me. Bullied me and humiliated me so bad that I had to tell his family. I’m getting baptized again and I’m spending a year out of law enforcement. Take it from experience, go to the police. She even had people taking pictures of me

[Opinion Owner]

To clarify I married the same person 3 times lol 3 is my lucky number

[sophiejo]

Do not reply, just contact the police she has already broken the law by threatening to share them

[WhiplashMonkey]

Threatening to share a sex video involving you in it without your consent is considered “revenge porn” and is highly illegal! Contact the police and since it’s a threat you could find a good lawyer too and maybe sue her. You already have evidence of the threat.

[ShadezMcgee]

Keep the message as evidence for the police. At least that way when if and when she does it, you got incriminating proof right there.

If you want to get under her skin, just ignore her. Also, you better give your new girl the heads up about this before it blows up in your face and paints you in a bad light.

[kumaradit]

I hope you have told your current girl about your past one.
Also you have told that it was a sexual relationship.
Also why you broke up with her.
Also that your ex has revengeful mindset.
Then don't worry, she is only putting a pressure on you.
Say your ex, O' Cum' on Babe! Let's have a big family show. Invite her family and friends too.
Have the full on blast! Bang on!

[Gwenhwyfar]

Ignore her. If she actually does it, report her to the police. Revenge porn is a crime in most states.

[NamerOfStars]

You tell her to stop contacting you or you'll go to the cops and report her for revenge porn, showing her the text conversation as evidence. THAT kind of crazy needs to stopped and stopped cold.

[Mangospacho]

I wouldn’t go to the police at this point but if she releases the videos then you can get her charged with blackmail. She seems very manipulative and you don’t even have to respond to her texts, much less answer her accusations on what your motivation was for finding someone else. Don’t even answer her accusations. She’s just trying to manipulate you.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Well I dont see how the videos could do any harm. Making sex videos isn't that unusual for couples. Their relationship is over and leaking that video only shows something thats over.
If the new girlfriend is quitting you becausr of that video, she is pretty short minded.

[Anonymous]

Pretty simple - show your girlfriend these texts so that if she sends them she knows not to look, and that your ex is a bit of a weirdo. She might even be able to block her before she does it.

You even told her not to speak to you again so it’s not as if you’re texting and flirting with your ex behind her back either. You’ve done nothing wrong here so there’s no reason to hide this from your new one.

[TwinkleLily5]

If she does post it, report it to the police. I don't know if they’ll do much until she actually post it. Until then block all of her contacts. Explain the situation to your girlfriend but do not get her involved.

[Twalli]

Does your current girlfriend know your ex? Does she know you made sex videos with her? Would she break up with you if she found out? You want to stay with your current girlfriend. If you think your current girlfriend will be okay with what you did with your ex before her tell her. Tell her what your ex is threatening and that you don't want to break up with her.

[mattissebfan5]

Well it's illegal to post it also contact the police and ask for advice

[MelonSoda]

She does know she can get arrested for that, right? You didn't consent to her sending those to anyone but you and her.

[AviatorTom]

Talk to your current girlfriend and tell her about the existence of the videos and explain why you made them. Then, if your ex shows her the videos, she won't be surprised.

[foxrider77]

I’d ask if she would be open to ffm than everyone wins. If not than post the video where she sucks the D.

[SiberFox]

Show this to your now girlfriend, be honest, communicate and work on your new relationship. Good luck.

[bamesjond0069]

I wouldn't be concerned about the sex videos. No matter what she does you will win her... unless you freak out and act like a whiny bitch. Just say "haha cool, i deleted them and wouldn't mind them back to post on pornhub"

[Anonymous]

I'd simply say "I expected better from you. Apparently you haven't learned anything from us breaking up. Consider this our last conversation."

And just move on with your life.

[Moose304]

Show those messages to the cops. File a report and press charges. Then make sure your new girl knows everything!

[hi_it_is_me123]

Why would she do that? Is she crazy? You should go to police if she is serious about spreading these videos.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Now i read the chat. Meet up with her, act like you broke up with your girlfriend, take her phone and delete the videos or you can go to police. But talk with your girlfriend before doing this

[Anonymous]

That hypocrite evil girl. She said just wanted to ask then surprise she brought the videos up. Run from that bitch if your new girl mean a lot to you tell her your ex doesn't want you to be happy and she's trying to ruin your life. Tell your ex you will report her to police if she won't stop this shit this women is pure evil

[Fuentes]

Give her a thumbs up & nothing else after lol she' not gonna post herself getting smashed unless she wants to end up in porn sites and embarress her self.

[Subarugirl]

well that's illegal and called black mail. File a police report.

[Dreadlight8]

Man that's just crazy, that just a violation of privacy. If she threatens you too much you can always tell the police, if she eventually sends the video to your girlfriend explain everything to her and maybe she'll understand.

[andreasderjuengere]

Post the videos first. After all, she's on them as well :D

[MysteriousDarkness]

You need to go to the police because that is a form of blackmail which is illegal. You also should tell your girlfriend what is going on.

[noohair]

Tell your new girlfriend so the news comes from you. The ex is evil and I think the new girl will understand that.

[hafinjun]

Does your current girlfriend believe you were a virgin before her?

[hafinjun]

If you have copies show em to the new girl and then quit worrying

[hafinjun]

Or better still make another tape with new girl something really hot (especially if there's some position old girlfriend really got into and send her a copy

[boobliker]

tell the new one bloody quick about the videos and it may be ok

[Caunsos]

Block her and tell you you current girlfriend about your ex and the videos.

[emperor90]

Well i would say i woulr never video it does not end well i would tell the police

[FunkyMonkee]

Do the same to her or post them first!

[Asker]

I would end my current relationship by doing that

[FunkyMonkee]

One must think of these things before one does them, doesn't one?

[slatyb]

Remind her that is illegal. Then block her.

[DaveToo]

Quit doing videos. They make great evidence.

[Subarugirl]

Maybe don't blame the victim of the crime. Blackmail is illgal

[DaveToo]

@Subarugirl I was being facetious, of course.

[jahaims]

Take legal action

[LegendaryIcon]

Sue her