Guys, is it a deal breaker when a girl dresses basic and does not dress up/does not wear make up etc?

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She is not a tomboy but she is not ultra "feminine". She just wear jeans, t-shirts, blouses, sweatshirts, (rarely) long dresses etc. Just basic. Is it unfeminine when you dont wear make up, or dress up? I tried wearing make up but i suck at it. I dont know how some women know how to apply make up so perfect.

Seinna · Accepted Answer

As a girl who's usually "natural" but willing to put an effort here's my take on it - it's not that it'd be necessarily a deal breaker, but you simply won't stand out. Or rather, you stand out in a negative way. If someone cares enough to get to know you he might not care... but it's getting noticed that might be tricky. Even a guy who'd say he likes natural women will have a hard time spotting you among women who simply look better. Also, someone who doesn't put any effort into their looks appears lazy and that's not an attractive trait in anyone. As a side note I think if you'd give it a good try you'd feel super confident embracing your femininity through making yourself look attractive. Some men think women dress up for them... sure to a degree that can be true. But it's mostly about exhalting yourself and making yourself feel confident and desirable. It doesn't have to be make up - it can be hair or clothes. Also clothes don't have to be sexy to be feminine. They can be showing off your figure in a tasteful, modest way. Try fitted tops and long skirts. Ask your close girl friends for help, I'm sure they'll give you some advices.

Tiffanyrosebarbie · Accepted Answer

OMG I would rather die than dress plainly lol a girl needs to feel & look sexy! I seriously wouldn't leave the house without my makeup, hair and lashes in.

t-8900 · Accepted Answer

My girl knows how to cover herself conservatively very well and still look foxy anyways. She wears her hair wavy, and she dresses in all black and it's sexy tbh. I dont like too much skin. it comes off try hard and desperate and kinda... well not classy/lady like. Would you wear something your boyfriend bought you? Maybe tailor your style to his liking? So many people get bent out of shape about this. I dress up for my girl. I have my hair and heard to her liking. I am getting earrings that she thinks are sexy. I used to wear some and liked them actually. Getting a black leather jacket and rugged denim jeans so I can complete my bad boy look for her. I like this look on women:  I always keep this pic on hand for when girls as for opinions like these. I love this style.

Jamie05rhs · Accepted Answer

Absolutely not. I like girls like that!

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I prefer feminine women and a girl who is feminine would need to work harder to have me captivated. I want a girl who enjoys being a girl.

There are classes you can take that will teach you how to do your makeup. Maybe that should be your Christmas gift to yourself.

little_bird1 · Answer

I dress up & wear make-up only on special occasions. And it's not because I want to or feel more feminine that way, it's because society dictates it and there's no way around it. Sometimes we gotta do what we gotta do, even if we don't really like it. Simply to survive. It used to bother me a lot when I was a teenager, and I used rebel about it (I once went to a wedding in jeans and plain t-shirt and my parents gave me hell afterwards, they said I embarrassed them). But now that I'm older I realize some things. Nevertheless, in my day-to-day I wear what I feel most comfortable & sexy in (plain clothes, no make-up). And I never had any problem standing out for guys or being approached. I am told that I am beautiful, and I know it's only because I feel like it! Femininity is not about fashion, it's about how a woman carries herself and her own style. It's about confidence & energy that we project. And it's about natural beauty, too (a naturally beautiful woman will look sexy in anything). I'm not being narcist, but I think I have a pretty face and that make-up just ruins it.

raven6933 · Answer

She should have enough confidence in herself to not care what others are trying to dictate how she should look. Other than that I could careless how she dresses. A woman's beauty is a projection of her inner self, or should be. Not what society has tried to force as accepted. If she dresses fancy all the time then chances are we're not going to have much in common. IE anything outdoors. I have seen some that looked fantastic just rolling out of the bed, throwing on a t-shirt and sweats and look better than some that have spent a thousand dollars on make-up, hair and clothes.

CuddlyCarla · Answer

I don't think of it as 'not putting in the effort'. Everyone defines that differently, but for me I put in effort where it counts, which is to say into the relationship itself. I'm not big on 'dolling myself up' to this day, I was tomboyish as a kid and had a mother that tried to force femininity on me and it ended up just turning me off. It didn't feel natural. I have a pretty androgynous style. The men I've dated see it as a positive, they like that it doesn't take me an hour to get ready and that I am confident in my skin as I am.

zr0bytz · Answer

Femininity isn't the clothes you wear or that you know how to apply make-up. It's your attitude toward life, empathy, compassion and sensitivity just to name a few the thing that makes women more or less feminine is estrogen among a few other chemicals.

That being said I prefer no make-up or a light amount, my wife isn't a pro at applying make-up but I do hers fairly well, the quality of the makeup and brushes absolutely matters.

I'm an HSP and although I'm 100% straight I have a lot of feminine traits and I love it personally. I just have to learn to regulate my thoughts to not drive my wife crazy lol

Tldr; feminity isn't measured by the amount of makeup you wear, it makes me think you are insecure.

Canuck37 · Answer

I don't date women who wear make up. I think make up looks fake and I want to date someone genuine, not someone who's putting on a mask for me. The heavier the make up, the less attractive a woman looks.

I also don't want a woman who wears expensive designer clothing. Again, she's hiding her true self behind brands and an appearance. A simple blouse or t-shirt and jeans is fine; dresses are great too, with longer dresses being more elegant than the short stuff.

So I answered "other" because not only do I not mind a girl dressing "basic" and "not wearing makeup", I actually insist on it. I don't want a player, I want a loyal and genuine woman who wants to be my life partner and takes her life seriously.

Rei13 · Answer

I generally don’t wear makeup but I don’t have issues attracting guys whether I’m wearing it or not. I do wear clothes that flatter me tho and keep myself clean, especially if I’m going out. There is more than one way to be feminine other just doing up your hair or face. Oversized clothes can be cute if done right. I wouldn’t want to date/marry someone that would expect me to wear makeup all of the time or have the perfect hair and nails. Or act like a stereotypical girl. Cause even tho I am pretty girly about a lot of things I do still want to play video games and roll around in the dirt

Wraith_Cemetery · Answer

Massive deal breaker for me. I would never even consider a girl that dresses basic or never wears fancier clothing. I put a lot of effort into what I wear every single day. Rarely do I dress "casual" so the person I am with has to be the same. A girl is just simply not on my level if she only wears sweatpants, ripped jeans, crop tops, sneakers etc. I've only ever been into girls that wear vintage dresses, gowns, blouses, and other lovely feminine wear.

Luckily, I am with a woman right now that never dresses casually. Her and I dress to the nines all the time. I wear my vintage suits, 1950s overcoats, and trousers. She wears her 50s skirts, blouses, and full length dresses. Proper gentleman and lady.

Manab · Answer

I am not into that anymore. I am not a high maintenance guy, I preferred tomboyish girls before, who would be low maintenance. I tried dating one, who wasn't into makeup dresses. But somehow suddenly she started taking care of herself way more. Makeup, clothes, and all other stuff, and she went for an older high maintenance guy, she did all the things with that guy that she never did with me. I never cared whether she had to look prettiest, wear makeup but just be comfortable. Now I have realized if girls are actually into you they put way more effort into how they look otherwise they are just time passing, and it's good to know that your girl is putting effort to look sexy.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

i found that as long as i came across as Sexy to guys, they did not really care if i wore make up or jeans.

i hung out with the skateboarding crowd a lot.

tbh, most guys like a girl with a good body that they can see sometimes when she is dressed basic. Dresses that show off her boobs and ass. Especially if she does not wear a slip or spandex shorts under it so her panties show through some times.

Guys like the Gift inside the Wrapping Paper.

TwinTonyz · Answer

Guys overwhelmingly say they don't care but the question still exists?

Also it's a peace of mind thing. I don't like entrenched idea that you must exhaustively do yourself up to meet a partner. They would be attracted to the version of you always running at 100% and that's just not possible to maintain.

Novacane · Answer

I wouldn't say it is a dealbreaker, but as someone who is big on hygiene and looking presentable then I would want them to be the same, I think everyone has those days and they have the right to have those days where they dress bummy, we have all been there. Some people are able to still look good when they do not dress up and are able to pull it off, so if that's the case then I wouldn't mind, but I would want them to at least put some effort when it comes to looking presentable.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

These gals are my preference. Easygoing, low maintenance, nothing to prove. Problem is, I start mentioning my hobbies and lifestyle goals, and they run away scared. As if my wanting to write and sell 50 novels and a few dozen comics, live debt-free, maybe help run a small crafting shop, befriend some doomsday preppers, and live in a small house in South Dakota somewhere made me Hannibal Lecter or something.

godfatherfan · Answer

Ever? or most of the time? Day to day is no big deal. But feminine is very hot. One of my best memories was I was dating a woman who got dressed up like we were going to some fancy restaurant, but we only had plans to stay home and watch movies. That kind of floored me.

lightbulb27 · Answer

my girlfriend dresses basic and low to no makeup and I like it. I like that she is ready to go out the door quickly, like 5 minutes notice, look good in basic clothes like jeans and top but dress up and put on makeup when she wants to do something extra special.

I'd been around women who wear a lot of makeup and as well were "difficult" getting dressed up and the drama of getting dressed was stressful and excess makeup was plasticky looking. too much is bad.

Lionman95 · Answer

No as long as she´s not trying to look like a guy I´d prefer that. I think the amount of make-up is her choice.
Besides I spend much time outside going for walks, workouting or going to theatre/cinema or something else so girly clothes or ultra-feminine clothes like high-heels etc. wouldn´t be the best choices to wear in most of those occasions.

Craftsman · Answer

For me what you describe is a deal MAKER, not a deal breaker. Women who dress for comfort and activity without makeup are people I am most comfortable with.
It's a more honest presentation.
Make-up hides 'imperfections' of body and sometimes of character. I'll take sparkling eyes and toothy smiles over almost anything that can be gotten through Max Factor, Maybelline, and the host of cosmetics available in store and online.

mstbooblover · Answer

Sorry folks, maybe you won't like my opinion about this, but I don't like at all sofisticated makeup and dresses. I prefer to see and smell the ladies as they really are, without the lies of artificial means, notwithstanding at a high level, well performed on the right person, those means may be beautiful and enticing. No offense meant ;0)

AncientWisdom · Answer

Nah I prefer that in a female. It’s quicker usually means you got one who will go hiking , hunting , fishing whatever. To be honest having a gal like that by your side is way more fun then one of the fellas. Also like I said quicker getting ready for stuff and don’t taste like makeup if you get her in your mouth.

slatyb · Answer

My wife was pretty basic when I met her. Not any more. She has a closet full of beautiful clothes, mostly bought at resale shops. For her birthday I got her two pairs of designer boots, $300 each pair. One is Gucci, knee high, the others are YSL over the knee. New each pair was around $1800.

Guys, is it a deal breaker when a girl dresses basic and does not dress up/does not wear make up etc?

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