As a girl who's usually "natural" but willing to put an effort here's my take on it - it's not that it'd be necessarily a deal breaker, but you simply won't stand out. Or rather, you stand out in a negative way. If someone cares enough to get to know you he might not care... but it's getting noticed that might be tricky. Even a guy who'd say he likes natural women will have a hard time spotting you among women who simply look better. Also, someone who doesn't put any effort into their looks appears lazy and that's not an attractive trait in anyone. As a side note I think if you'd give it a good try you'd feel super confident embracing your femininity through making yourself look attractive. Some men think women dress up for them... sure to a degree that can be true. But it's mostly about exhalting yourself and making yourself feel confident and desirable. It doesn't have to be make up - it can be hair or clothes. Also clothes don't have to be sexy to be feminine. They can be showing off your figure in a tasteful, modest way. Try fitted tops and long skirts. Ask your close girl friends for help, I'm sure they'll give you some advices.
Oh thank you for your reply lol
Dressing basic has nothing to with not putting any effort in your appearance lol. Doing a lot of skin/hair care, workin out, etc can replace make up to extent. I also dont mean dresssing like a homeless person. Doing minimal make up like wearing only lip gloss, tinted lipbalm, and mascara makes you still basic. I also have a lot of modest dresses and long dresses that i can't wear in winter lol I also agree with some points of you.
I read your post again. I rather be be stand out in a negative way than getting approached by shallow people. The thumbnail is a very bad choice by mods. The girl on the thumbnail kinda looks homeless. I prefere a natural street/casual style minimal make up. In my opinion people are shallow if they think that putting effort means a lot of make up, dressing up etc which is is not an attractive trait in anyone. you completely missed my point. I do wear fitted top and long skirts etc
OMG I would rather die than dress plainly lol a girl needs to feel & look sexy! I seriously wouldn't leave the house without my makeup, hair and lashes in.
Wow cool. it is cool when girls dress sexy and fancy but i suck at it lol
Aww chic you're too hard on yourself x listen i look like a cheap slut most of the time because i keep plastering my makeup on and dress in skimpy outfits etc
Why the hell did you get so many dislikes? You did not offend anyone.
I can understand the girls disliking but what's a guys business in doing this? Lol
Reason for the dislikes is because rather than saying "I need to look.." she said " a girl needs to..". People have preferences.
My girl knows how to cover herself conservatively very well and still look foxy anyways. She wears her hair wavy, and she dresses in all black and it's sexy tbh. I dont like too much skin. it comes off try hard and desperate and kinda... well not classy/lady like. Would you wear something your boyfriend bought you? Maybe tailor your style to his liking? So many people get bent out of shape about this. I dress up for my girl. I have my hair and heard to her liking. I am getting earrings that she thinks are sexy. I used to wear some and liked them actually. Getting a black leather jacket and rugged denim jeans so I can complete my bad boy look for her. I like this look on women:
Due to my strict i end up wearing too modest clothes. I dont like showing any skin except my face. Lol i walk like a nun. This is why i also struggle to find clothes since it is difficult to find very modest clothes that look good. I often wear blouses/thirts. I would wear what my potential boyfriend/husband buy by the way
Due to my strict parents... **
Omg you call that showing cleavage? I don't know where you're from but here that's showing a collarbone and upper chest. You can barely see her cleavage at all. Legs are showing, so what? They're legs, not sexual. If a girl has to wrap herself in cloth fill only slits for the eyes are showing RIP. This is classy dress that all guys love, not just me. If they can't tolerate this then they are hella controlling and afraid of losing her. This comes from total insecurity tbh.
Absolutely not. I like girls like that!
Thanks for the MHO. :)
Huge plus.
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u I prefer feminine women and a girl who is feminine would need to work harder to have me captivated. I want a girl who enjoys being a girl.
There are classes you can take that will teach you how to do your makeup. Maybe that should be your Christmas gift to yourself.
Lol you dont need make up to be feminine. Do you also go to gym and get abs to become masculine?
I enjoy being a girl but i dont need make up, high heels for this. I dont understand. Do you also enjoy being a boy? If yes how? You dont have to answere but thanks for the reply anyway
No, you don't need to wear makeup to be feminine. I only mentioned that because you talked about it in your post.
I do enjoy being involved in traditionally male pursuits such as DIY/handyman projects, wodworking, automotive repairs, and watching college football. I enjoy spending time with guys because the conversation is quite different from conversations that I would have with women.
I dress up & wear make-up only on special occasions. And it's not because I want to or feel more feminine that way, it's because society dictates it and there's no way around it. Sometimes we gotta do what we gotta do, even if we don't really like it. Simply to survive. It used to bother me a lot when I was a teenager, and I used rebel about it (I once went to a wedding in jeans and plain t-shirt and my parents gave me hell afterwards, they said I embarrassed them). But now that I'm older I realize some things. Nevertheless, in my day-to-day I wear what I feel most comfortable & sexy in (plain clothes, no make-up). And I never had any problem standing out for guys or being approached. I am told that I am beautiful, and I know it's only because I feel like it! Femininity is not about fashion, it's about how a woman carries herself and her own style. It's about confidence & energy that we project. And it's about natural beauty, too (a naturally beautiful woman will look sexy in anything). I'm not being narcist, but I think I have a pretty face and that make-up just ruins it.
I generally don’t wear makeup but I don’t have issues attracting guys whether I’m wearing it or not. I do wear clothes that flatter me tho and keep myself clean, especially if I’m going out. There is more than one way to be feminine other just doing up your hair or face. Oversized clothes can be cute if done right. I wouldn’t want to date/marry someone that would expect me to wear makeup all of the time or have the perfect hair and nails. Or act like a stereotypical girl. Cause even tho I am pretty girly about a lot of things I do still want to play video games and roll around in the dirt
Massive deal breaker for me. I would never even consider a girl that dresses basic or never wears fancier clothing. I put a lot of effort into what I wear every single day. Rarely do I dress "casual" so the person I am with has to be the same. A girl is just simply not on my level if she only wears sweatpants, ripped jeans, crop tops, sneakers etc. I've only ever been into girls that wear vintage dresses, gowns, blouses, and other lovely feminine wear.
Luckily, I am with a woman right now that never dresses casually. Her and I dress to the nines all the time. I wear my vintage suits, 1950s overcoats, and trousers. She wears her 50s skirts, blouses, and full length dresses. Proper gentleman and lady.
Since you put a lot into what you wear it is fair? Vintage clothes? Interesting
She should have enough confidence in herself to not care what others are trying to dictate how she should look. Other than that I could careless how she dresses. A woman's beauty is a projection of her inner self, or should be. Not what society has tried to force as accepted. If she dresses fancy all the time then chances are we're not going to have much in common. IE anything outdoors. I have seen some that looked fantastic just rolling out of the bed, throwing on a t-shirt and sweats and look better than some that have spent a thousand dollars on make-up, hair and clothes.
I don't think of it as 'not putting in the effort'. Everyone defines that differently, but for me I put in effort where it counts, which is to say into the relationship itself. I'm not big on 'dolling myself up' to this day, I was tomboyish as a kid and had a mother that tried to force femininity on me and it ended up just turning me off. It didn't feel natural. I have a pretty androgynous style. The men I've dated see it as a positive, they like that it doesn't take me an hour to get ready and that I am confident in my skin as I am.
Femininity isn't the clothes you wear or that you know how to apply make-up. It's your attitude toward life, empathy, compassion and sensitivity just to name a few the thing that makes women more or less feminine is estrogen among a few other chemicals.
That being said I prefer no make-up or a light amount, my wife isn't a pro at applying make-up but I do hers fairly well, the quality of the makeup and brushes absolutely matters.
I'm an HSP and although I'm 100% straight I have a lot of feminine traits and I love it personally. I just have to learn to regulate my thoughts to not drive my wife crazy lol
Tldr; feminity isn't measured by the amount of makeup you wear, it makes me think you are insecure.
I don't date women who wear make up. I think make up looks fake and I want to date someone genuine, not someone who's putting on a mask for me. The heavier the make up, the less attractive a woman looks.
I also don't want a woman who wears expensive designer clothing. Again, she's hiding her true self behind brands and an appearance. A simple blouse or t-shirt and jeans is fine; dresses are great too, with longer dresses being more elegant than the short stuff.
So I answered "other" because not only do I not mind a girl dressing "basic" and "not wearing makeup", I actually insist on it. I don't want a player, I want a loyal and genuine woman who wants to be my life partner and takes her life seriously.
Nah I prefer that in a female. It’s quicker usually means you got one who will go hiking , hunting , fishing whatever. To be honest having a gal like that by your side is way more fun then one of the fellas. Also like I said quicker getting ready for stuff and don’t taste like makeup if you get her in your mouth.
I’m more on the girly side and enjoy dressing up and girly but I would love to be with a guy who hikes and fishes. I’m not into hunting but there’s a lot I like to do and would like to do and would love an adventurous partner. Just said that to say a girl and can be more on the high maintenance side wnd still like to get dirty 🤪
Dress for yourself. If you want to stop wearing make up and dress causal all the time do it. I have wearing band t-shirts and jeans since midway through middle school and I'm not going to stop. Simply because it's how I want to. Also when it comes to how people to dresses they can dress like they just fell off a assembly line. Because they get wrapped up in how others expect them to dress.
My wife was pretty basic when I met her. Not any more. She has a closet full of beautiful clothes, mostly bought at resale shops. For her birthday I got her two pairs of designer boots, $300 each pair. One is Gucci, knee high, the others are YSL over the knee. New each pair was around $1800.
I am not into that anymore. I am not a high maintenance guy, I preferred tomboyish girls before, who would be low maintenance. I tried dating one, who wasn't into makeup dresses. But somehow suddenly she started taking care of herself way more. Makeup, clothes, and all other stuff, and she went for an older high maintenance guy, she did all the things with that guy that she never did with me. I never cared whether she had to look prettiest, wear makeup but just be comfortable. Now I have realized if girls are actually into you they put way more effort into how they look otherwise they are just time passing, and it's good to know that your girl is putting effort to look sexy.
i found that as long as i came across as Sexy to guys, they did not really care if i wore make up or jeans.
i hung out with the skateboarding crowd a lot.
tbh, most guys like a girl with a good body that they can see sometimes when she is dressed basic. Dresses that show off her boobs and ass. Especially if she does not wear a slip or spandex shorts under it so her panties show through some times.
Guys like the Gift inside the Wrapping Paper.
Guys overwhelmingly say they don't care but the question still exists?
Also it's a peace of mind thing. I don't like entrenched idea that you must exhaustively do yourself up to meet a partner. They would be attracted to the version of you always running at 100% and that's just not possible to maintain.
I wouldn't say it is a dealbreaker, but as someone who is big on hygiene and looking presentable then I would want them to be the same, I think everyone has those days and they have the right to have those days where they dress bummy, we have all been there. Some people are able to still look good when they do not dress up and are able to pull it off, so if that's the case then I wouldn't mind, but I would want them to at least put some effort when it comes to looking presentable.
Make up doesn't make you feminine lol.
It's in your genes and attributes.
Feminity is displayed in the way you act or do things the way you carry yourself
The emotion you convey
Who doesn't like cultural dresses it's nice to see sometime in them but it's not a mandate to be always in them just ocassionaly
No make up is required just take off the moustaches (just kidding 😂).
Lol thank you for the nice replies. I agree with both of you
These gals are my preference. Easygoing, low maintenance, nothing to prove. Problem is, I start mentioning my hobbies and lifestyle goals, and they run away scared. As if my wanting to write and sell 50 novels and a few dozen comics, live debt-free, maybe help run a small crafting shop, befriend some doomsday preppers, and live in a small house in South Dakota somewhere made me Hannibal Lecter or something.
Ever? or most of the time? Day to day is no big deal. But feminine is very hot. One of my best memories was I was dating a woman who got dressed up like we were going to some fancy restaurant, but we only had plans to stay home and watch movies. That kind of floored me.
my girlfriend dresses basic and low to no makeup and I like it. I like that she is ready to go out the door quickly, like 5 minutes notice, look good in basic clothes like jeans and top but dress up and put on makeup when she wants to do something extra special.
I'd been around women who wear a lot of makeup and as well were "difficult" getting dressed up and the drama of getting dressed was stressful and excess makeup was plasticky looking. too much is bad.
No as long as she´s not trying to look like a guy I´d prefer that. I think the amount of make-up is her choice.
Besides I spend much time outside going for walks, workouting or going to theatre/cinema or something else so girly clothes or ultra-feminine clothes like high-heels etc. wouldn´t be the best choices to wear in most of those occasions.
For me what you describe is a deal MAKER, not a deal breaker. Women who dress for comfort and activity without makeup are people I am most comfortable with.
It's a more honest presentation.
Make-up hides 'imperfections' of body and sometimes of character. I'll take sparkling eyes and toothy smiles over almost anything that can be gotten through Max Factor, Maybelline, and the host of cosmetics available in store and online.
Sorry folks, maybe you won't like my opinion about this, but I don't like at all sofisticated makeup and dresses. I prefer to see and smell the ladies as they really are, without the lies of artificial means, notwithstanding at a high level, well performed on the right person, those means may be beautiful and enticing. No offense meant ;0)
No, I just want a bitch who isn't crazy at this point lol.
What lol
Some women can get away with it. Other women need every advantage that makeup can provide lol.
My attitude is I either am attracted to a woman or I'm not. It's more her demeanor that cinches it. No amount of makeup in the world can make up for a frown and a bad attitude.
So you are ok with women who dress basic, wear no make up etc?
It's not a big deal, I also love dressing modestly. I'm comfortable with it and for the makeup, it's only when I have events to attend. everyday makeup damage your face. It's normal to suck at dolling your face but if u love make-up, you can take classes or watch videos, you don't have to be professional
As long as basic hygiene is taken care of and she takes minimal care of her appearance, than it isn't an issue. Though if I were to go out with her, I would like her to go the extra mile every blue moon, so she can show me her true power, lol.
Obviously if she dresses very ugly then it is less appealing. If she wears... I dunno... Flamingo costume. Or has a shirt with jzz on it.
But I don't know many women who do.
Most women dress fine n just normal clothes and I can't put too much focus on her clothes.
Who would say deal breaker? I would definitely date a girl who dressed basic, because underneath might be the most beautiful nipples, the most beautiful vagina, the most beautiful butthole so If you would miss out on that because somebody doesn't dress fancy enough then that's fine. More fine women for me!
I like a natural look. Maybe not 100% of the time but there are a lot of women who probably think they need makeup, and it does often look good, but they look damn good without it too.
A couple of times a coworker would not wear makeup for a specific reason, and she would notice that people would look at her differently, obviously because she looked different. But I think she assumed that was bad…at least in my case it wasn’t. I’m sure I wasn’t the only one.
Guys don't care. As for the topic, they care that you look pretty and that you act like a girl. That's it. How you obtain those two things they don't care about. In fact, many would rather you not get there by using make up.
I think it makes her respectful to dress plain or modest. That's not the name as being frumpy or dressing ugly. Society is hypersexualized.
I like that the girl I'm seeing now is more traditional and does not dress like a slut in public, so that not every guy gets to see what I get to see. Makes it feel really exclusive and special, and that is a huge turn on to me.
She's the type of woman that is wife material and that I wouldn't mind introducing to my parents.
Here’s thing I’m not gonna get with a chick because of how she dresses and if it’s an insecurities type thing then it’s my job to make her feel confident and help her to see in herself what I see
I doubt it.
It's a bigger deal breaker if all she ever does is dress nice and wear make up. If her main thing is looking nice and maintaining her appearance, after the lust wears off, what is there to keep him interested?
Honestly, I've never found dresses, heels, and all the fancy crap women wear for nice photos, to be attractive. T-shirts and jeans all the way! 🤘😎
I'd rather have someone who's always basic than always fishing for compliments...
With that said do as you please. I'm assuming you dress up a bit for special occasions but you don't always need makeup, dresses and this season's fashion style to be a good mate
Being féminine is hard work. It requires experience and practice.
You will suck at first. The key is to keep trying, fixing the mistakes little by little
There is a lot of tutorials on the internet about that, and you can always ask others girls for advice
I'd just make it a point that she has to dress to impress for my parents and extended family.
Any other time go ahead wear whatever you want if we are in the comfort of our own place or in public. So long as its comfy
I actually prefer women that don't dress up and slather on the make up, its definitely a turn off if they are over done and fake looking. I'd rather see the real person in their normal clothes and minimal or bo make up.
No, I think those girls are more attractive. My best female friend I have never seen in a dress, only jeans or jean shorts and a t-shirt or sweatshirt. She's a bit of tomboy and a little bit Redneck. She's also one of the prettiest girls I know.
if that was the case, then he wouldn't talk to her in the first place.
just wear what you want to wear. there's nothing worse than being uncomfortable just to please other people.
Hell no.
That’s the kinda woman that I would be more interested in. I don’t like makeup. I don’t like flashy clothes etc.
Lots of guys don’t think like me and that’s fine. I don’t really care.
No. For my husband it was the opposite. He loves that I am low maintenance.
I honestly think it’s about how you carry yourself. There’s girls that I know that will wear a cute shirt and jeans for an everyday look with very little to no makeup and look very feminine. I think it just depends on your confidence.
Modesty is always a plus. But too drab and baggy is unattractive. Baggy hoodies, for example, are 0% attractive. (Which is okay sometimes. Sometimes you're just cleaning the garage.)
You don't need do dress up and wear makeup to look attractive. As long as you take good care of yourself and look presentable and confident that should be enough and it is so much more elegant in my opinion. Less is more.
Depends on the occasion. Obviously, you don’t want to go to a formal ball wearing jeans and a T-Shirt. But in my opinion a woman should dress to her comfort level.
Of course. I dont think anyone dress basic at a ball or at wedding e. g
I agree and thanks for your nice post.
Make up is an additional art to present yourself better based on modern culture.
A person who is beautiful is beautiful even without any makeup.
I like natural taste of skin... No makeup please!
Personally I find women more attractive the less makeup and all natural. Women who wear a lot of makeup are usually not attractive without it. So less is more and a women thats beautiful with no make up is not false advertising by covering up blemishes. Just mascara and eye shadow is enough besides I dont like makeup on my collars and lipstick stains
I've never been bothered if the girl I'm dating wears more makeup or less makeup. So long as I feel attracted to her period the basic thing doesn't bother me in the slightest.
She herself should be feminine in behavior and in bodyshape. Other than that, no problems.
Would even be more interesting to get to know a woman who isn't like your generic NPC.
No, I find it somewhat foolish for me to consider that a deal breaker
I personally prefer a feminine girl. As I'm a more dominant kind of guy.
My sister though, contradicts many typical female norms, but was able to get a boyfriend; so it can work for some people.
My older daughter typically goes natural or nearly so and looks great.
My younger daughter needs a bit of help in that department.
Depends on the person- AND the one doing the looking/evaluating.
It depends if you’re naturally pretty and have a good body it’s fine like I don’t wear makeup most days and still get noticed. It depends on the girl.
So like phoebe from friends? And is that what you actually like or would you rather dress sexy but hate how people would judge you?
I like tomboys is that picture of you you are very beautiful girl no that's not a deal-breaker with whoever
No, of course not! Why would it be a deal breaker? I'm interested in the girl, not her makeup. If she is young and pretty, she will be pretty with or without makeup and if she is not, makeup will not make her pretty.
It's not a deal-breaker except for the beach or swimming.
If she dressed modest and basic most of the time, but come the beach or swimming she shows off wearing a revealing (but not too much) bikini, that is more hot.
Not really? Dress up for me everyonce and a while, surprise me, but i wouldn't mind you wearing something... eh. Normal? Beyond that when you do get dressy, its more notable and noticable.
(Maybe dress down a bit too :P)
No. It's a major deal maker. How did humans manage before makeup companies and ridiculous corporate beauty standards? Figure some stuff out.
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