Is it bad to be a woman’s ‘rebound’?

[Anonymous]

A guy I was hooking up with asked me if I’d split up with my ex recently, to which I replied ‘yes’.

he then said ‘so I’m your rebound.’
why do you think he felt the need to comment this?

[DaveJord]

Because wants to know if your serious about having a relationship with him, if your really over you last boyfriend or if you are just having fun or in denial about your previous failure.

See I have dated women, and everything seemed to be going well until out of nowhere the women freaks out because she starts to develop feelings or realizes that she still has feelings for her EX... and then her insecurities about her last failed relationship comes out. How her Ex really hurt her and how she thought she was ready to date again, but now she needs time and space to figure it all out.

Yup, no shit has happened about 4 times to me.

[ManOnFire]

It's extremely bad. Who wants to date someone who is using you as something to get over your ex, or using you just to prove to themselves or their ex that they still got game and can attract others?

Rebound relationships always end up hurting the person you're rebounding with. He commented on it because he's either been in that place before, or he's just plain smart enough to know it will only bring him pain in the end.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Why did you feel the need to say yes? could have avoided it or said something general... like not really.

Guys like rebound if they are getting sex but not if you want something more serious. If all your doing is hooking up, leave the details out and be vague.

He perhaps was hoping for something more serious and his comment of "so I'm your rebound" his thought process just changed to, okay she is good for sex nothing more.

[MelonSoda]

If your breakup was really recent and you decide to be in some kind of relationship with this guy, then yes, he is in fact a "rebound". A guy you basically use to get over the feelings of your ex boyfriend. So yes, rebounding is really toxic for both parties involved.

[OlderThanILook]

Yes because it means once you're over your ex, you'll come to your senses and end your relationship with the new guy. Y'all really don't know the amount of emotional damage you can do to men do you? A lot of men already probably hate themselves and don't think they can even get into a relationship in the first place. When a man finally finds a woman that will give him the time of day, the last thing he wants to know is that the relationship will end soon. At least that's how I see it.

[Juxtapose]

Facts!

[ShadezMcgee]

Because most men know being a rebound is short term and not worth it in the end. Being a back up for a woman coming off a relationship on an emotional high is never sustainable and we normally want something genuine. This tells us the woman in question is unavailable for what we seek and we should cut our losses and go.

[Interstate]

It is clear he has been through this in the past, and is avoiding another situation. NOBODY fresh out of a relationship is ready to get involved right away with somebody. Even if they genuinely ARE, it is good to give an ample amount of time before pursuing again, just to give the other person peace-of-mind.

[275153]

He wants you to have sex with him without strings attached so you can get over your ex. The problem is that if you still have strong feelings about your ex when you have sex with another guy, you’ll feel pretty crappy afterwards. Trust me. I’ve done it after my divorce when I was still in love with my ex wife and it felt very strongly like I was cheating.

[NHI2017]

Its. Not a bad thing,

i had sex with one of my friends that’s a girl, after she broke up with her boyfriend after 4 years.
it wasant anything romantic between us. She just wanted to feel close to Sombody.

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and i made out and cuddled with my other female friend. After her boyfriend left her.
we would talk for hours, Cuddle. Make out and eventually fall asleep,
she gor over him in a couple weeks

[libsaretards]

Because we want to know our relationship is genuine and not just a means for you to get over an ex. Personally I will not date a woman who has not been broken up at least 6 months before meeting me. I do not want to waste my time and have my heart broken just because a woman cannot figure out her emotions and how she feels. When you date again, it should be because you are ready and not as a cheap, quick way to forget an ex.

[Jouth]

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[Joker_]

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[Anonymous]

Because women aren’t usually looking seriously at the new guy they are dating if they just split up with their ex. They are most likely trying to get their mind off their ex and “rebound”. But you aren’t ready to catch real feelings for someone else.

He is worried about catching feelings and having you leave quick, ghost or worse option friend zone (this is the bs one girl pulled on me)

[Miristheiss]

If he just wants to get laid and just needs a willing body I guess it doesn't matter.

If he wants a long term relationship chances are being the very next guy means it is short term only in many cases.

[InYourHead]

Rebounds aren't bad. They help restore confidence in people who just recently broke up its a good thing

[Guido]

Most rebound relationships don't last. I had a woman that wanted to date me but wouldn't until after I had a rebound relationship. Once that was over, we started dating and have been together for almost 30 years so I can't fault her logic.

[mark000h]

You were using him. Imagine if a guy did that to you, getting involved as a side attraction. Not good.

[texas_giiirl30]

Because he likes you but just thinks your using him as a rebound cause you and your ex broke up (the guy you just slept with basically don't think your into him and just used him for sex or to make your ex jealous etc,)

[Surely]

If someone is on the rebound. The last thing that you would want to do is to fall for them.
To many times the other one gets the dear John or Jane speech. Like the I need some space or I don’t want to get tied down so soon.

[AviatorTom]

A "rebound" can be great for the sex, but I wouldn't expect it to turn into a long-term relationship.

[FlutteringFeelings]

In reality rebounds never work in anyones favor whether it’s a man or woman.

[melanieeeB]

Confirmation and like him trying to figure out where he stands with you

[Kaneki05]

Not if that just = free sex. To be a rebound and think there is something serious then yeah.

[John_San37]

Yeah, it is definitely bad. I remember that I was a rebound (5 separate times) and I declined them every single time because some of the men that I knew were close to me (likely a brother figure).

[sammy_sammy]

I dunno. My best friend's fiance was a rebound but he ended up being the perfect boyfriend

[jasco]

because most people don't want to be a rebound nor want the drama that comes with it and its toxic asf

[Jintendo18]

No, it’s actually an honor because it means she considers the new guy as better than her ex in some way (for the time being, at least).

[CallmeTheKnight]

It's very bad. You're using him to fill in a temporary void or need. You truly don't want him

[SAMI_DABBAB]

It's bad if you're serious about her and good if you're not serious

[Anonymous]

Of course it’s bad but some men won’t mind because they just want sex and nothing serious. Personally I wouldn’t want to be someone’s rebound.

[Jamie05rhs]

"a guy I was hooking up with"
Yep. He's a rebound!

[Stevefiveo]

Usually being the rebound doesn't work so I guess he doesn't want to get his hopes up.

[Dchrls78104]

For me, yes; it is actually one of my dealbreakers.

[Londi73]

It is bad. Women usually use men to get over their ex.

[007kingifrit]

maybe he was asking if you're looking for more than just hookups

[Luckycharms12]

He doesn't want to be used catch feeling and get hurt

[spartan55]

For the same reason women do

[loveslongnails]

It's not good to be anyone's rebound.

[Anzhus]

The picture made me laugh

[TallAnon]

Doesn't matter, had sex.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Did he still fucked you? Yes? Than he didn't care.

[Joker_]

It's good to be a woman's rebound

[In_Trance]

depends what you mean by bad

[PeterSmith1983]

No difference between men or women on this

[Anonymous]

25-29 and hooking up. What a mess.

[Uptowngirl88]

Yes it is bad