Girls, have you ever reconnected with a guy you rejected earlier and felt you missed your chance?

[mobiusforniner]

For context, I had a friend from years ago reconnect with me recently. When we first met, I was new to my career, dorky, didn't know how to talk with girls. She wasn't into relationships, wanting to travel and explore. We flirted a lot. I was crazy about her and I felt she really liked me. Then 10 years later I'm now a high ranking manager. She chance encounters me and asks me out to lunch. I started talking about my wife and kids. My friend then told me my wife is very lucky and that my wife doesn't know "what she has". The resentment was so sad.

[jennifer_bloom]

I had a friend who was accessible to me that I did not appreciate or value and now he has a PhD and an MD from two of the best universities in the world and he’s super selfless and humanitarian minded now. But he is married and we no longer talk.

[Anonymous]

That’s no way to live. What’s meant to be will be and that’s the way I see it. It sounds like your old friend was actually happy for you and that she appreciates you as a person, saying how your wife is lucky, so why put a negative spin on it? Are you sure she was resentful?

[mobiusforniner]

Yes. She told me later she was hoping to "rekindle" things but we were out of touch for so long that she didn't know I was married.

[Opinion Owner]

In that case, it is what it is. She might be resentful if she felt the need to tell you she wanted to reconnect after you told her you were married with children. I wouldn’t waste time with her if I were you.. she could try to seduce you and break up your happy home 👎

[mobiusforniner]

True. She commented on what things we would do or have if we had married, so obviously she's thought about it.

[Anonymous]

If it was meant to be to reconnect with each other, it would have happened way earlier. It sounds like she is happy for you.

[Dinklex3]

Nope.