I haven’t been in the dating pool for awhile. But some guys on here think girls have their pick of guys. Not, sure. We’re the ones that have to ask you bitches out. :)I’d go gay for Kate McKinnon
No, guys are lined up around the block!
Yes, they’re the same.
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Do girls have just as much trouble finding dates as guys?
No girls have no problem at all other then the fact 80% of women are choosing 20 % of men who turn out to be the dumbasses of the species. They go for the jocks and pretty boys now and skip the regular guys. A large part of the problem is males as well the guys who gave trouble try really hard and are called simps by men and women. These guys are in their inbox hyping them up making them have unrealistic views of what she deserves. Now look at the female comments on your post where they are all saying that it’s because guys just want sex. This is what they’ve been taught is true. (Yes it is true to a certain extent because that’s one of the ways men naturally display emotion and connection and sex bonds us to a woman that treats us well. It seems they have forgotten this part. ) Anyway it’s a deflection they know they’d fuck that pretty boy chads brains out the first night and take his abuse trying to change him. Women are not as proper as they would have men think. They put the average guys they know who really do like them in what’s known as the friend zone in case they need some money , or validation, or just good old fashioned attention but that’s as far as it’s going to go until they are about 28 to 32 and have their share of chads playing in their vagina. All of them screaming “where are all the good guys? The translation of that statement is “oh shit all my friends are married and have a baby but me. “ I better go through my friend zone and see whose best , they’ve aged out because chad isn’t interested in them anymore he’s busy screwing the new bunch that’s just got old enough. Chad also never stopped cheating so he doesn’t bond with women. People say men don’t age as fast and that’s true but I’ve seen those chads grow middle aged and find them selves in the same boat some of them. Anyway good luck man they peed or worse in the dating pool
Keep in mind, women are also competing with other women.
Who pleasures better?
Who has better hair?
Who is kinkier?
Who dressed better?
Who has better breasts? Butt? Face?
Who is more fit?
Who is smarter?
Who has a better job?
Who is popular?
These are just a few things that women compare themselves with other women.
You know why? Because women want to find and/or attract the best men for them.
The less attractive a woman is, less fit, or just less everything on the above list I provided you, the less quality partners she will naturally attract. Now, if she’s okay with that then that’s her.
Most women want to better themselves in all ways because that attracts better men in also equally more ways.
You’re right as well, men ask women out.
If you’re a woman and you see a man you like, you’re hoping he recognizes you and approaches you.
What if he doesn’t? Is the woman going to approach him? Unlikely, sadly.
I believe finding a good partner is difficult for both males and females. Hence why I said "good". Anyone can find a partner, but finding a good one who genuinely cares for you and will stick by you is hard to come by.
Some examples are: - Loyal - Respectful - Willing to make a peaceful compromise (basically, not fighting over every little thing) - Honest - They are uplifting and are happy for you rather than pessimistic and trying to bring you down
Those are just some examples that I think would be considered good traits.
I would guess no. Getting dates is probably easy for many girls... just as having sex is (if they are willing to put out) for most girls.
The "hard" part for girls is getting someone who will stick around and commit and go long term. Getting a guy for a few dates... for a sexual encounter is easy for many.
Getting a long term man... getting a husband is the hard part.
Hopping from guy to guy... hitting 45 and still being single having dated 20-30 guys is probably easy if they want that.
I woman being 45 with 2 to 4 kids, a husband that she married at 23-25 and she has been with for 20 years... that is the hard part.
@Alyssa_11 that’s typical of females when faced with truth they run from the truth and logic every time or get emotional or deflect project and blame. It’s a predictable tool kit that females carry around.
@Alyssa if that true you are a prize and I think that is so awesome. I hope that girls like you become the norm again. However if your a 24 yr old virgin why is you profile picture a nude silhouette? Not that I’m complaining just curious.
@TruthBringer thank you I think we need all men to develop my mind set the world would be much better , and females would be held accountable. This subject touches close to home for me. My brother who was a marine came back from fighting overseas to find his wife was cheating and was going to leave him for another man who wouldn’t have made a pimple on my brothers ass. He could not understand and ate a.38 caliber bullet blew the back of his head off. I have never got over that or the fact when they took his body off I had to clean up his brains and blood. Never will I forget
@WowwGirl Those are indeed the real creeps, but go tell that to your fellow women out there who would put that label on guys who are just shooting their shot, but just so happen to be unattractive to them.
@AncientWisdom thank you lol... I am a virgin yes but I am very proud and I like my body :) I workout etc and I think the female body is beautiful. Anywho I have changed my photo recently.
Alyssa_11 that is awesome. I am a man who values these characteristics in a woman. It’s beautiful to me. Also your new photo is nice. The female body is beautiful to me as well.
@OddBeMe I don't even know what that shit your talking about is Dude. I admire females who respect themselves in this day and age not many of them the woman said what she said I answered her. I give credit where it is due. If what she said is true then good on her. She didn't seem to be creeped out by my reply. One thing you will learn about me as you set there lurking on this site , Is I am unapologetic about who and what I am at the end of the day. I answer to me not some random dude on the internet. furthermore I'm not on this site trying to hookup. I date real women that I know that I can take out. I am 55 years old and I have fun with lady friends several times a week. I'm not shopping for them on the internet. You have a good evening. Also I'm very outspoken and stand behind what I say people that know me know better.
I think women have different problems given the different goals they set themselves. Often for women, sex is just a means of achieving a relationship, while for men it is the main goal. Getting a relationship is a lot harder than getting sex. It is much more difficult because the people with whom the woman could get it on average discard them a priori using a risk reduction system that consists in doing what the others do. In this way, instead of reducing the risk, they amplify it. In recent years, I have noticed that women are often looking for a non-existent type of man to be in a relationship with.
You can't always, unfortunately. But not having sex with them too soon helps. If the guy doesn't want to stick around for more than a couple dates without sex, then that's a pretty solid sign.
It depond. is very easy to find the bad apples of guy but very hard to find rare apples. then you can get guy that do not not bothereding with trying to sort things out for to meetup. i already move on to my new guy that is more decont.
The bad apples are traits, fragic big ego, fake nice guys , lying, make all women look bad and will blame all women and talk about past relationships or ex ggirlfriends - the rare ones that make effort to ask questions andmake you both single and have common interest.
Dating operates on something called the pareto principle, that for most girls, most guys are invisible early on when they are in their prime. Basically, it means that about 90% of guys are willing to have sex with 90% of girls but 90% of girls would want to have sex with the same 10% of men. And it has been this way for millions of years where only the alpha male has had breeding rights with every single female of the pack while most men never got a chance to reproduce.
It has always been like this, I am a evolutionary biologist by profession. Now regarding your question, no the 20% are not ruining it for the rest of the 80%. That is how it has always been. Men must become. The entire purpose of a man's life is to become that top 20%, not for the women, but for themseles, the women are just a byproduct.
honestly, I have to disagree. Maybe what you say is true in the beginning, just to get a date or a start. But women imho, tend to be very loyal and "suckers" for the long term. A guy can be totally unattractive but if he is kind, consistent, and earns her trust, a lady will stick by him for a long time. Also, you can see lots of abusive guys (who are also not very attractive) but they keep a girlfriend around them who won't leave even when punched in the face or kicked in the ribs. She just believes in love so if he begs and says he's sorry and loves her, she'll stick around more often than not. It's not that this guy is high quality at all.
@zeitgeist057 - If there is no commitment device in place (societal norms) then as happens in your country, over 50% of marriages end up in divorce with women initiating around 70-80% of them. If one excludes older couples "40+" then I am sure that statistic will be much higher. It's true that women have gotten more rights since the 50s but if that was the case behind divorces then they would be initiating around 50% of the divorces. The female of a species is not loyal by default, they are oppertunistically loyal.
Now coming to the point of abusive male partners and why their partners stay along, the reason can be psycological. By degrading or humiliating their partners they are creating a preception of higher value and dominance. Or the woman has psycological issues that is not allowing her to report the matter to the police and leave that man.
@Kaamraj I don't know if it's just females initiating divorce or about loyalty. Men and women both cheat, and we are not really meant to be monogamous as a species. I think the institution of marriage is just broken to begin with, and the only thing that was holding it together was patriarchy/dependence and subjugation of women.
@zeitgeist057 - What I have said is statistics which you can verify with a simple Google search, women initiate vast majority of the divorces, with financial reasons being the main reasons. And I agree there is no reason for a man to get married now, except for if he wants to raise children, as two parent households give the best outcome for a child. If a man is getting married, than he's basically getting into a deal with someone who is incentivised to break it.
It's objectively true that women have substantially less trouble finding male suitors; that is not a matter of debate to anyone who has studied the data. However, women compensate for this by raising their standards, and thus, likely have an equal amount of trouble in finding dates that meet their standards. Thus, it depends on how you look at the issue.
nicely put. Though I don't necessarily know that "raised standards" is exactly the issue. I would suggest "different values", in that sure it would be easy for most ladies to find a guy on any given night of the week, but they are not as interested in short term hook ups as guys are. So it's not so much a "higher" standard as a "different" one. At least in my perspective.
@OddBeMe I'm saying it's NOT raised standards. But to define it, I would say it means more of whatever metrics you are measuring by. If it is wealth for example, then instead of dating guys who make more than $30K/year, they might only date men who make more than $40K/year. Or if it's strength and physical prowess, instead of dating guys who can (or look like they can) bench press a minimum of 125lbs, they only date guys who who can (or look like they can) bench press a minimum of 165lbs.
That is what I am saying it is NOT. at least in my perspective.
only black guys have approached me outside, maybe because im half white and half black other races find me too different, lol i dont know but I've heard some guys say they dont like slutty girls and i definitely consider myself like that. maybe they can see this in me which is why they dont ask me out
Yes, the amount of matches and replies. I just like to talk to the guys that chat more or are less shy and easy to talk to because I am already shy myself
The reality is no. They have many suitors. They just think they have a hard time because the men that THEY want don't want them. Buf I can guarantee that if you open many DMs of theirs or look at all the guys who they friendzoned, you will see a lot of dudes who are willing to date them.
The majority of men are invicible to them in terms of dating
I would say both guys and girls can have it hard, the only difference is that men can't find someone because they literally have no one and women can't find someone because everyone wants them
The way I see it is like this, both men and women are starving to death the difference is that men have no food, while women have all the food, they just can't decide on what to eat.
I agree you are working from logic which is not common any more. I actually feel bad for young people and dating someone peed in the dating pool. And thank you for that too I’m new at this app. I’ll learn fast though
Bro, you know that since we're men, many of us are openly thirsty for sex, and in layman's terms, that means even ugly women can have dudes lined up in their DMs. Basically, they have it much easier than men and they know it. This is why you see women like Lizzo.
1) contemporary dating interests me, as I’ve been married 15 years 2) why does 4 sentences matter? I’ve seen diatribes longer than novels that were dumber than the avengers movies. 3) why do you think you know me? 4) and how do you know reincarnation exists?
It’s Lways easier for girls to get dates, if they want to. Most are picky though, but they have the options. I can’t believe 70% of girls disagree. I challenge each of them to get tinder and see how many matches they can get in an hour and how many a man could.
hell no!!! if a girl is upset at her man and wants to go sleep with a dude that night for revenge 99.99% of the time she can go get her some side dick but for men its like a 25% chance if that.
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Guys that routiely call girls "bitches" seem to have great difficultyy finding women who want to date them.
A guy need quality sex to survive and he can get it any time he wants. A woman need quality relationship to survive but it's very difficult for her to get a quality relationship..
@Juxtapose By saying that it seems your assuming a girl will date any guy. Just because a female account may get more messages doesn't mean sh#t. 99% are F head knobs jockeys that think an offer to come and play with their dick on a rainy day is a great opening line.
@Juxtapose you are so very wrong there. But a straight up proposition for sex can be a turn off. Most women need abit of conversation and banter before getting into check dirty talk. But believe me alittle bit of effort goes a long way.
@Juxtapose your welcome. Feel out her boundaries with the banter first too. References and implications can be subtly made through conversation without it getting graphic. This method can be very effective in creating a sexual tensions. Clean but dirty works well. Add a cheeky emoji can help.
@OddBeMe to jump in here with my own take on the "creep" thing, I agree with @TruthBringer. A guy winks at a girl, if she thinks he's cute, he's cute. If she doesn't, he's a creep. Same actions, but if he's cute he gets a LOT more leeway in what he can say and do. A really attractive guy can also cross that line and get labeled a "creep", but it's going to take a LOT more actual creepy behavior.
Creepy behavior (for unattractive guys): 1. Stalking (which is okay if you are an attractive guy, to some extent, because then the woman LIKES the attention and the fact that you started coming to her work once a day to try and flirt with her. But if you are not attractive, then she is going to start thinking about a restraining order, etc.)
2. Oogling, eye contact, suggestive comments. Again, it's just part of flirting if you're attractive and she's into it. She'll be oogling you right back, and giggling at your clever double entendres.
etc, etc. So basically a creep is when you don't get the message that your advances aren't welcome, often before you even make them, but if you do make them and they are not well received, then you get creepier every time you continue. This is kind of a tough game for men since many women are not very confrontational or direct and a woman who wants to be pursued and a woman who doesn't want to be pursued often both exhibit similar lack of action. One would be not engaging due to "playing hard to get" or wanting to be seen as demure and not too eager or "slutty", the other out of sheer disgust and hoping the guy will just go away if they are demure and don't engage.
@OddBeMe if you want to know what I myself would consider to be creepy, I advise you to check out wowwgirl's comments under that f Alyssa_11. Other than that @zeitgeist057 and @Juxtapose Hit the nail right on the head to explain how the term "creep" has been twisted by women and has lost its meaning at this point
@OddBeMe re: "kidnapping vs. giving a ride" what you are identifying is consent. Which is a fabulous way to identify whether or not it's cool to proceed. But again, the issue is the vague and non-confrontational/indirect behavior of women. Ask for her number and if she says no, then great. But women don't say no if you ask for their number. They give you their number, but then don't answer. Or they give you a wrong number, or say they have a boyfriend. This is how they tell you they aren't into you. By not telling you.
Of course if they were into you, they could also have a boyfriend and tell you but the underlying (unknown) feeling would be "but I kind of wish I didn't". Which they will also act out with a guy they are trying to be "kind" to, "awww shucks, you're really cute but I have a boyfriend" vibe. Or they could accidentally give a guy the wrong number, even if they are into him. I've actually had this happen, and the girl found me later and was freaking out she had given me a number that she didn't have anymore. Or she can also give you her real number but then not be around when you call.
So it's not as simple as "Do you want a ride? No? Okay, then I won't give you a ride."
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