Would you date someone who brings out your worst?

[Anonymous]

Story time or short answers welcome

[ReneD13]

I think it's really easy to hop on and say no way, to a question like this. However I feel that life and love aren't always so black and white. Very rarely do you realize right off the bat that someone is going to bring out the worst in you it's typically something that creeps into the relationship, depending on when the realization sets in will determine how long after the relationship will last. People are complex and will often times put up with a lot if it means avoiding being alone. So I guess my final answer would be I wouldn't date them for long after I realized they were bringing out the worst parts of me.

[WhereIsMyMind]

No thank you. I dated someone for about 4 months, he would bring out the worst in me in some ways. He was incredibly immature and wasn't fulfilling my needs emotionally, and he was very pushy when it came to sex. When we would argue he'd shout as loud as he could for all his housemates to hear, as if he was trying to prove something. So pathetic. 🤦🏻‍♀️

I don't want someone who will bring out the worst side of me and bring out my worst temper. It will only make me feel like a bad person and ultimately resent myself.

Luckily my current boyfriend is very mild mannered and calm, he won't scream in my face during an argument and act like a child. He is also respectful when it comes to boundaries and my feelings. This keeps our relationship level and mature, any disagreements we can have in a proper manner without going off on eachother.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Why tf would anyone want to do that? Lol. I don’t see any benefit to that tbh.

I had a toxic ex and he actually brought out the best in me. He really showed how much patience and kindness I had to put up with shit.

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

Depends on what you mean by your worse and the type of person who's in the relationship. Example sado masochist relationships where bringing out the worst is for the best.

Or do you mean more like risky behavior like hey baby, you know I'd really love to see you walking down the street naked right now... Or suck that dude off I want to watch...

Or just fussing and fighting a lot?

Because depending on each of those some might be fun while others are definitely aren't.

[Desconhecida]

We all say we'd never do that but unfortunately everyone has one toxic relationship in life or will have it. So, I say I would because I did once. But thank God, it's in the past.

[Anonymous]

Hmm, I kind of am dating someone like that right now. I wouldn't say he brings out the worst, but the problem is that we have same flaws. Last year I decided to better my life and be healthier and let go of every addiction I had (fast food, cigarettes, staying indoor, sleeping late, etc. etc.) and it has been VERY, VERY hard. It's the hardest time of my life but I have to do it. I try to eat healthy, to exercise, to sleep normally, quit smoking, and overall be as productive as possible (unlike before just work, eat shit, sleep and play video games). Then I met the currently dating and it turned out he is the same, except that he doesn't want to change. He treats me right but I keep going back to my bad habits around him. Part of me enjoys it because I can say "I can be who I am with him" but that's a problem when you don't really like who you are. I know I sound selfish and it isn't really his responsibility, it's not like he is forcing me to do anything (he is happy about my lifestyle change) but even if his lifestyle didn't affect my conviction, I can't help but resenting him somehow that he doesn't want to change too. It would be much better if we both eat healthier (to prepare same food), if he wasn't smoking in my face, if we went out more to explore new things and people, etc. etc.

[petitedollbabee]

Hookup/friends with benefits, sure. But actually putting time and effort into a relationship with someone who brings out the worst in me? I have enough self respect that I wouldn’t waste my time on that.

[Alwayreckles93]

I was in a toxic marriage, I was very patient looking back now all I did was put a fake smile on my face people always assumed I had the perfect marriage but let's be honest perfect marriage does not exist. I lost it when I found him screwing around with his Amway upline.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Never again. I'm too old for the toxic bullshit. And especially because I try my best to see and bring out the best in everyone. These last few years have been horrible because I continued to deal with a person that brought out the absolute worst in me. And it's no one's fault but mine for not getting the fuck outta dodge. But never again. Ever.

[ohshee]

NO Ilove being happy and I don't care who I'm hanging out with I like to bring the best out of them if somebody makes me miserable all day long I don't even want to be around then that's for sure forever never

[Interstate]

If I were in the dating game, no. Then they will use that against you by saying everything is your fault. That is how it was with my pos baby mamma. Nothing was ever her fault she claimed. Everything was on me.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah I have.

me and a girl often get together, we are really bad for each other.

out friends keep telling us not to and will even physically stop us.

it always always ends badly and has since we were at school.

[Eeyore18]

Sure. It'd give me more practice on concealing what anger or sadness I have left inside of myself. Also, I could try my best to keep them happy and perhaps change them in a way.

[Somoneelse]

its easier said than done.
I would say no. But in reality I think i would find out someone brings out the worst of me, when I'm already "stuck" into that date/relationship...

[bean2k21]

Well it depends, if you find yourself disagreeing
with everything they say it could be a good opportunity
to learn new things about yourself
challenge your views

[dustybiker]

When it comes to stirring there is passion and toxicity. If they made me angry and mean, no. Passionate about life, yes.

[Belgie]

Never have, never will. I respect myself more than that.

[MCheetah]

Nah. That sounds like a recipe for disaster. Why would anyone even want to?

[SunnyCaliGirl]

No. Someone one who brings out the worst in people is most likely to be a person who has toxic traits. And toxic people make other people toxic wither they like it or not

[BeMuse]

Ideally she'd bring out my best and my worst would be put on pause...

[Jamie05rhs]

You mean my weaknesses? Only she's okay with it. And only if she supports me and encourages me.

But that's probably the best person to date anyway, isn't it?

[saraxx]

No. Because someone who loves you won't bring out your worst rather they will help you to grow and glow

[DCooper]

Been there, done that. Would I again? Yeah maybe... just as a hookup though, not seriously.

[Better_off_here]

i would only want a person who has the ability to make me a better person.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, thats a really stupid idea and the exact opposite of what people should do.

[Phoenix98]

No why would I want that? That'd not only make me miserable but her as well.

[adidas0169]

Unfortunately i married her didn't start out like that but over the past 7yrs i become more and more miserable with life in general

[donnny2367764]

Yes.. imagine that.. if they can bring out the worse, just imagine how good they can bring out the best in me as well

[HelpMeeeeeeee]

No. Just bye it's toxic when it's time only worst nothing positive funny or cute

[HelpMeeeeeeee]

İt's telling*

[Uptowngirl88]

Read you question and think about what you just asked.

[RoccoJones]

I already did. I had to involve the cops in order to reverse that decision

[Wise4myage]

No, that seems rather pointless to me, and a waste of time.

[OddBeMe]

My wife knows how to push my buttons. Is that the same thing?

[Waldoe]

no, my worst is very bad... I need to be on my best behavior

[TsAubreyKate]

I did and it was the most stressful thing I ever did in my life

[emmaaylalover19]

no emma brings out my best 😁😀😀😁😁😀😀😀╰(*°▽°*)╯

[raaz222]

I prefer that girl only if she still loves me after knowing my worst.

[Heartache0405]

Why... would... anyone... want to? 😂

[jasco]

nope lol my worst it toxic asf

[Honesttguy]

No, they can go f themselves

[Anonymous]

Why not.. It'll show yourself how much self control you actually have.

[AncientWisdom]

Kinda counter productive

[Citizenkirk]

No, life is too short.

[sammyyyyasdfghjkl]

Been there, done that. No thanks lmao

[loveslongnails]

Not for very long! Why would I?

[VikingWarLord]

If she was hot in the sack

[annabananna]

I’d like to say no but I have before.

[MJtheCoach]

I don’t think people date anymore.

[Heartache0405]

I sure don’t

[MJtheCoach]

Date yourself doesn't count

[LightOfTruth]

Women do this all the time.

[DiegoO]

I would breakup inmediately.

[FadoraTheExplorer]

I have and it ended horribly

[msc545]

Probably not since it seems really stressful

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Lol no.. I need to be at peace in my life.

[john9491]

Yes as long as it was the naughty side LOL

[xJayleenx]

Nope I like being with someone that is kind

[Oh-canada]

Don’t all women bring out mens worst. Lol

[Heartache0405]

Lol, you’re not wrong. They are also masters at using your worst against you too for their own gain

[Kingofkings1992]

I don’t think anyone wants that.

[hahahmm]

What's the upside?

[hsshannah96]

Nope lmao

[tessarae29]

Absolutely not.

[Slim57]

I guess so my ex sure did

[Blackcupcake]

hell no

[275153]

No. I would not.

[exitseven]

Yes, if she was hot.