I think putting anyone into a box like that greatly limits your opportunities.
You could view someone as a burner so never give them a real chance but in an alternate reality if you had given him a real chance he could've been your ultimate love.
But you'd never know because you restrict people into categories.
I give everyone a chance, a completely blank slate and open mind. But not only people, it's the you should approach everything in life. Being bias or making decisions before you even try something only ever restricts your own happiness.
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No I wouldn't , I don't even have a back burner person. I've been used as a contingency plan before myself and I know how much it hurts especially when your in love with that person it's like a knife being stabbed straight into your heart. Everything you thought about that person all being a lie hitting you all at once and realising you were just being used and you mean nothing to person is on of the most heart breaking feelings I've ever felt and it left me with crippling depression for a year, it ruined my self worth and I believed I was nothing and didn't deserve to be loved by anyone. I wouldn't wish that on anyone else , it's a extremely cruel thing to do.
I don't believe in putting people like that. Either you seriously consider a person or you don't. If you two mutually agree to wait then that is different. But if a person is just another option, tell them the TRUTH instead of acting and pretending your serious because you scared to not have more opportunities in the future. There isn't wrong to know you're a possible option, it's another to be used like one. But if the person may be right for you, WHY oh WHY would you be dating other people!
The fact that you have a name for this shows what type a person you are!
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I don't have "backburner" people lol. I would rather be alone at that point.
Yes, I would date. I would not have one to start with. It's hard to identify the situation and label someone as backup.
Most women marry a back burner man whether they will admit it to themselves or not.
If you are using someone as a back burner you shouldn’t be dating period. You are a conceited piece of shit.
What kind of disgusting and cowardly person has a "back burner"?
Yikes. That's like advertising you're gonna be unfaithful and non-committal.I don't keep people on the back burner, but if I was rude enough to do it, I suspect that I would also be rude enough to not date them seriously.
I've tried to date multiple women at once and it's exhausting.
Messaging I love you back to 2 different women makes me feel guilty.
I just date one at a time now.What is a backburner?
Someone who ate too much chili?If she was cute and was willing to have sex then yes.
Back hair burner* - yes, I would
Tried it before, never again. Huuuge waste of time
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