They guy I’m seeing wants to have 11 children?

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I asked him how many children he’d want, and he said 11. I thought he was joking. Then I realised he was being serious. Why would someone want so many children? I don’t think I’ll continue to see him after this😅

Carolus · Accepted Answer

If it’s true and not a ploy to push you away, so you can break up, there is nothing wrong with that, I know of a successful modern career woman who have 8 children. A healthy woman can have even 30 children (most women want less than 3 children because it’s trendy or they feel their fine bodies will get out of shape). It’s a question of a woman’s health, her love for children and a mans financial stability. Is he financially stable? If he is, you can have a co-wife to help with the remainder of what you can bear. (There are cultures or religions that allow polygamy), Though not what you really wanna hear on sharing.

TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

FINE! See how he feels about ADOPTING!
PLENTY kids could use loving parents.

And... there's a certain cachet to knowing YOU WERE SPECIFICALLY 'CHOSEN',
not 'luck of the draw' biology~ A 'genuinely WANTED' son or daughter~

Let him do a 'dry run' as a fostering parent home ('give back' privileges!)

Ez-Bri-Z · Accepted Answer

Some guys are into that large family thing and my advice to them is for them to be willing to carry and give birth themselves at a number that high.

CindyRuns · Accepted Answer

I love kids, but, he doesn't want a wife, he wants a baby vending machine !!! Run for the hills !!!

GreenLanternI0I · Answer

If he is a multi millionaire, I see no problem with that whatsoever at all, he can successfully raise all of his kids, but if he is making an average salary 1 to 3 is Good, but if his salary is below average and he is bouncing from one job to another like a tennis ball, he shouldn't even be allowed to have children.

Northernlights25 · Answer

Some people really crave a big family and I can partially understand the appeal of the idea. But I had an ex too who said that *at least* we should have 8 children. Lol, I told I don't know if I have that kind of seed in me. Our family tree have consistently been that of three-four kids at most.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Have you ever known a family like that well? Many of them do it because its easier and the kids are more adjusted as adults. Its harder in some ways but once the first kid is old enough to be a help it then gets easier. My ex was the oldest of 11 and 20 years old and they had a 1 yr old, the parents could take a day off and the kids did all the cooking cleaning chores babysitting you name it. It was shocking and amazing the first time i saw it.

Legendofdon · Answer

Some people just want a big family. My girlfriend and I both come from big families and I already told her I'm going to keep her pregnant. She's not going to get a break from pregnancy. It's like how before birth control we kept you girls pregnant your entire fertile lives and had like 16 babies. It's not your choice it's ours. We get you pregnant on a whim whenever we're horny.

LoveEatingAss · Answer

Don't do it, all he wants to do is tie you down, as in ya can't go nowhere, almost like a control thing, if relationship goes sour, you won't be able to leave, for as you have 11 kids an no job or money, this way he can beat you if he wants an your never leave, because your be depended on him for money

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

The good news is you can start your own football team with all those kids & when you are giving birth to your first child have the doctors install a zipper for next time.

Avicenna · Answer

Nonn no one has the same number they plan to before a relationship, so I wouldn’t take it too seriously. Besides, you’d have to agree to it, which means you can tell him when you want to stop.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I mean really up until recently that was pretty normal historically speaking. But yeah that's to much unless he's super rich that's kind of out of normal people with normal jobs reach.

Interstate · Answer

Does he come from a large family? If so, that is most likely the reason why. Then there are people who just like the idea of a large family.

LightOfTruth · Answer

Probably was abused. Many men and women that have had issues tend to want large families. Good luck with that. I knew a woman that was raped by her stepfather and ended up 8 children. They take back control or so they feel.

slatyb · Answer

Good thing to get these things out early so you don't waste time with someone that has incompatible goals.

dustybiker · Answer

He could just be like a lot of men and find eleven woman.

ohshee · Answer

Lmao I think your a very smart girl dont walk away.. RUNNNN AWAY FAST. FASTERRRR. LOL

Caunsos · Answer

Not a good father. Good father will not have as many children his time for. And noone has time for 12 people ( that also counting the wife) and a job. Clearly he selfish.

jahaims · Answer

Unless you spaced those kids out over 20 years there is no way to raise that many children and give them the care they need. Plus that would be very expensive.

awkward_author · Answer

Is he religious and/or raised in a religious home? It’s also possible he has a large family and wants one of his own?

VikingWarLord · Answer

Do you have mother bearin' hips?  What's your ratio of curves? He may see you as a chic who could pop them out

exitseven · Answer

My ex girlfriend wanted to have ten kids. I thought she was nuts. I wonder if she ever did?

zagor · Answer

A lot of people say that but change their minds when the reality of raising children comes around.

Cubus · Answer

I would say he wants to fight upcoming demographic crisis.

Anonymous · Answer

Does he come from a large family? Some people are just like that... crazy! LOL!

nawtee_me · Answer

I told my wife I wanted a football team (9 kids) she told me I needed another wife...

Tim-S · Answer

RUN!!! Don't walk. I like children, but this sounds like you will be barefoot and pregnant all of the time. :-(

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yeah that’s a huge no way and byee thing lol.

TrueConfection · Answer

Sounds like he has a lot of love to give.

spartan55 · Answer

You couldn't ask him that? Does it really matter?

bones_20 · Answer

Well shit. Good luck to him looking after 11 kids.

EmmaMary · Answer

Personally I can't say I blame you.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Next time, ask him who the lucky woman will be.

CoolGuy7532 · Answer

Run! Run to the hills!

Anonymous · Answer

He wants a football team

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Wow…. Imagine wanting your planet to die

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Has he ever heard of overpopulation

Guardian45 · Answer

Ask someone who has NO SIBLINGS!

OddBeMe · Answer

Let him pay for artificial insem. Dick.

In_Trance · Answer

I bet he's the buggy bitch at Walmart

Naughtyboy71 · Answer

Nope bye bye good luck

Vivaldi · Answer

11 isn't enough. The reasonable amount is 21.

fireforeffect · Answer

They are NOT cheaper by the Dozen!!

888theGreat · Answer

must be a joke

Mavie123 · Answer

I think he is joking

Wise4myage · Answer

Tell him he's nuts.

TsAubreyKate · Answer

He is a family man

emmaaylalover19 · Answer

nice

Anonymous · Answer

Is he muslim?

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