He’s a kind of guy who wants kids and loving family (he said not soon, but maybe in 10 years). I can’t imagine myself being a good mum, I’m scared of getting pregnant, I’m scared of turning into my mum. I don’t think I even like kids in general if they’re not my nieces or nephews. I feel like once you’re a mum you’re just “a mum” it’s like your whole identity is “a mum” and I don’t want that.
I know we’re both still really young (I’m 25 and he’s 23) and this topic is way to soon to worry about. But because I also can see my future with him and we had a talk about it and I know he was worried about me “never want a kid” too. I might change in the future or he might change or we might find a way to compromise, who knows. I guess we both have such a strong feeling with each other that we’re scared of “what if we’ve been together for 10 years and one still wants kids and one doesn’t? Then what?” and it kinda hurts us to think about it.
But as I said, I know it’s too soon to think about it, we might break up within 2 years, we’ll never know😂 but for now I really love him and want to spend my life with him, so that talk was on the back of my mind sometimes.
Has anyone had a similar experience? And how did you deal with it?
*be kind in the comments please*
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