What are your rules for dating?

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Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Long list here so bear with me-
In NO particular order:

He must be single!!! Now that sounds silly, but nowadays when I ask someone if they're single, I make sure they're single. Not separated, seeing someone, in between relationships, sorta single, or the infamous, "it's complicated." NO. He has to be fully ready to commit and not seeing anyone else on the side.
Be upfront about what he wants. By that I mean what he's looking for in a relationship. I don't have time for games anymore. If you're just looking for sex and nothing serious? Next. But at least let's respect each others time by saying what we want right away instead of finding out weeks, months down the road he's not looking for a relationship.
Don't be rude. Treat me like you want to be treated, and I'll do the same for you. Have manners and respect.
If at any time while you're getting to know me you lose interest or realize it's not working out: TELL ME. That kind of goes back to point two (see above). The moment you realize there's no connection there, let me know so we can part ways. Sparing my feelings isn't helping either of us.
We're not having sex on the first date. Sorry, not sorry. If I barely know your name, much less anything about you, don't expect sex to happen.
Be able to hold a real conversation! No constant small talk. Tell me about yourself, what makes you tick, happy, things you want others to know about yourself.
Put real effort into getting to know me. I don't just mean asking me cliche crap like, "What's your favorite music/color/book..." etc. Ask about my day, job, things that inspire me. It lets me know you're actively trying to get to know more about me.

I have more, but I have work in the morning so off to bed I go! But most of what I ask for is common sense- or so I would hope. I know nowadays such things might be asking too much.

Abc12356 · Accepted Answer

My rules probably are
1. Frequent dates and always split the bill.
2. Physical and emotional affection is a must.
3. No need to be over possessive and jealous. Just let me know one time and I'll take care of it.
4. Don't talk other people down.
5. Basic human decency and hygiene.
6. No sharing of social media passwords. We both should have our personal space without any restrictions.
7. Treat your partner like an equal and always respect them but not in bed😜

Pasiton5 · Accepted Answer

Ummm well not agreeing to or signing any contract unless she's agazillionair, seriously though it's a no brainer, as a guy oh you know I was already ok my bad, lol, but always show respect be honest and a gentleman, treat her ass a lady open her for pull out her chair make her feel at ease comfortable engage in pleasant conversation paying attention to her these are normal what how every man should behave, no rules needed, no rehearsal should already know this never force her to do anything against her wishes enjoy each other's presence and let the evening take you where it wants to mutually need no rules respect each other year each other as mature adults, or am I no this is how I am when I'm out with a woman on a date and will always be,

loveslongnails · Accepted Answer

Never date a girl who thinks Kayne West did that old guy, Paul McCartney, a favor to help his career by recording that song together.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

The Golden Rule.

Pyrofox · Answer

1. Phones away

2. If I take my date to a fancy nice food place it's okay to just enjoy the food. Ya don't need to talk my ear off.

3. Dress to be comfy together I don't need to see ya half naked and uncomfortable in public.

4. Don't talk about the pandemic. Almost any topic please.

5. Be open to offering to pay or pay for your half. I'll still probably tell you if you do that I'll pay you back in some way. I do know how to cook. And knowing a girl is more than just eye candy is like instant like major wife/mother points. Plus shows an equal investment in the relationship.

5. It's okay to be a part of the family if you get invited to a family gathering.

ARWINGx1 · Answer

I haven't dated a girl before, so I'm not sure what rules I'd have. Except for these 2:

1. (Under no circumstances) Partner shall never "control" me in any shape or form.

2. IF I'd cause my partner to raise a "red flag" over something I've done, BUT! Wasn't "disclosed" before then, any and all "consequences" must be invalidated.
(In other words, IF I'd (inevitably) upset my partner over something that she didn't warn me about before then, then me being at fault oughta be "denied")

Anonymous · Answer

LOW MAINTENANCE.

i need someone who is comfortable being alone.

If your not happy by your self you never will be happy with anyone

I enjoy my alone time, and crave it, But know il always be there if you need me. You dont need to be up my ass 24/7.

you can live your life i live mine, and il see you when i get home,

not into, dates. Holding hands. None of that,

go live your life, Freely and know im there when you wanna come home.

lucas262 · Answer

No sex till I put a ring on it
We start at the bottom and go up, I mean dollar menu and up. You earn better and better.

Don't lie to me.
Don't cheat on me.
There are no do overs
No being friends after the fact
No just friends, no work husband.
No mind games
No single moms
No one over 32 no one under 18
No liberals/feminist

I don't mean casual dating I mean serious dating.

I am not the hook up type and Iv seen this relationship game people play today and want nothing to do with it, you either want me or you don't. Your either invested in our relationship or your just fucking around and no one has time to be played with not me and not her.

MCheetah · Answer

Any one of these that are not met are automatic irreconcilable dealbreakers.

Don't be a feminist/far-left/woke.
Don't be a bisexual/queer/a lesbian.
Don't be a polyamorous/isn't single/the "open relationship" type (an adulterer; unfaithful).
Don't be a abusive in any way, physical or verbally.
Don't be trans.
Don't have an OnlyFans or lewd content on the internet.

Any one of these are big turn-offs, but I'd be willing to make it work if she improves these habits.

Don't be closed-minded/stupid.
Don't be arrogant/conceited/entitled.
Don't be high maintenance/gold-digging.
Don't be shallow/superficial.
Don't be lazy.
Don't be a single mother.
Don't be smoke/do drugs.
Don't be too skinny.
Don't be look or dress too masculine/butch.
Don't have any body/face piercings.

ArchivalMars2 · Answer

No blackmailing for anything (attention, dates, gifts, sex, etc.).
Take time to earn trust, and above all keep earning it every day.
No doing anything that makes the other uncomfortable (there's a list).

Anonymous · Answer

Rule No. :

1. You have to be attractive enough to your partner. ( If you're below average looking may be dating is not your thing. )

2. You should have realistic expectations about your partner.

3. You must be immune heart breaks/break up coz they're are inevitable. If can't take it then may be dating is not your cup of tea. ( In war world collides and in love heart gets broken 💔 )

4. You have to be financially independent. ( Applies to both the sexes/genders )

5. You must date within your league.

Nik1hil · Answer

Have gym fit and biologically healthy body.. Her brains should have common sense.. Even if she is Hella dumb.. I am okay as long as she isn't fighting against scientific facts

attackgrrrl · Answer

- he can’t be racist - he has to be a feminist - he has to be positive - he has to be open minded

bamesjond0069 · Answer

21 or under
Homemaker type
Conservative
Attractive conventional model looks
Virgin or willing to consider very inexperienced on case by case basis
Bisexual

Every girl I've ever been in a relationship with has met at least most of these requirements.

thatonearies · Answer

DON'T LIE TO ME! If you lie once about anything, it's automatically over.

awkward_author · Answer

Shared values, general compatibility, physical/romantic attraction, sexual compatibility and mental/physical stability.

whosnumber1 · Answer

that she puts in an effort to be engaged that she cares about how she presents herself that she is not superficial that she is honest that she is willing to try something new

LordOfThePines · Answer

Show respect and consideration for your partner, be honest and don't betray their trust in you. If you aren't happy, it is your duty to leave the relationship or try to work it out.

cookiecrusher · Answer

Be kind and be yourself. And be on time, plus minus 10 minutes. That's all i need really.

boobliker · Answer

none of that a date is what ever you both want to happen just enjoy...

Anonymous · Answer

True love, love at first sight, forever love is what all I crave for

devoygf · Answer

be tall be athletic overprotective caring kind

Anonymous · Answer

What happen between us we enjoy it to the best  be open to tell want you want or need like I need you to eat my pussy now  it all stays between us good or bad

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