1. If the other person is not there 10 minutes after the time agreed to cancel & bail. 99% chance someone who is late will not respect you OR after they see that you waited they won’t.
2. Never do dinner/movies on a first date. Should be something that’s easy to walk away from if you don’t like how it’s going.
3. Never change anything about yourself for a date... for example if you never wore your hair a certain way but your date mentions he likes it this other way... don’t change for him.
3b. Never dress at a lower level than you were dressed when you were asked out. It should be that level or better.
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I choose not to date in the formal sense of the act. I will "hang-out" or chill... but I'm not going to play dress up, put on a song and dance for entertainment, and pay for all the party favors as well as tip the waiter well just to guilt trip or "impress" a woman into sleeping with me... or at least giving me another chance to get her to sleep with me.
Phuck all that mess. No, we can hang out, go hiking, swimming, shoot guns, etc... if she gets horny, she'll make a move. Products that sell themselves don't need a salesman to convince you to buy the product.
Drive myself. Have a code word with my best friend in case the date is going south lol. Dress nice but not too much (I aim for girl-next-door look). Offer to split the bill. Come prepared with questions and conversation topics. Don't ask anything too personal on a first date. No sex until exclusivity is established.
-no talk about sex
-no talk about exes
-not being on their phone constantly
-letting him know at the end of the date whether or not there’s potential. Because i don’t want to waste his time nor mine
-well mannered/polite
- don’t be gross
- be polite
- offer to split the bill
- pay attention to him
- order nothing with garlic, onion, or fish
- phone stays in the bag unless for an emergency
- talk and ask questions
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Not to get too excited about her no matter what- remember that its purpose is to have a good time and to get to know each other a bit better.
Plan it well, and do not expect perfection. Dress up. Both of those show that you've taken it very seriously.
Do not have sex with her on the first date. Kiss her only if the chemistry is really good and her body language indicates that she wants me to.Be on time. Turn your phone off (unless you have a child, totally understand the child minder may need to get hold of you). Dont answer every quesrion with an invalidating response ie "that's a bit personal " / "I don't think you should be asking me that" and at the end of the date tell me straight if you want to see me again or not. I've got a life to live; I don't like wasting my time trying to impress someone who isn't interested but likes sitting back and revelling in the attention. And when you ask me to arrange a date that needs booking... when i get the details and send them over, answer your phone. Reply to the text. Don't go all quiet then throw a hissy fit when I cancel it.
-the date is not a test
-date is getting to know each other
-some slight sexual tension has to be built in in a date or it will end up in friendship
-don't mention how awesome you are let him/her figure out (hehe, only I do this shit)
MOST IMPORTANT
-if you can't go on the date or late excuse before
-be early
-even if it doesn't go well survive till the end of it (or call an end if you both know this ain't going nowhere)Smile a lot, have an upbeat mentality, stay optimistic, get her to talk about herself and compliment her on looks once and compliment everything else (her hobbies, interests) , find similarities and express them, always seem friendly.
1 ) Be yourself.
2 ) Don't let the person you are dating make you do anything you'd regret.
3 ) Rule 2 but in reverse.
4 ) Don't use your cellphone unless there is an emergency.
5 ) Have an out. (a friend/event/thing you "need" to do if it doesn't go well)
6 ) Have fun.Split the bill
Let the girl get nervous or make her nervous so that you are able to impress easily
Give her a kiss on cheeks if date ends well, in some places such kisses are given in the beginning of date.
Listen to her and pay attention to each word that she says unless she's whining about her fight with some other girl.1.) Communication is big thing on a date
2.) Stay away from texting that is a red flag
3.) Always respect your date that is important
4.) Before the date both couples should agree
on whom should pay for the date.That I have fun. I've never been on a date because everyone where I go is something I would do with her or without her. So I always make sure I have a good time.
I never did. But if i do,
I'll ask to be Blunt.
I'll ask, "How will you react when I cutoff your call or just don't answer or i don’t call you for bo reason".
Everything I want in a girl is dependent on that single answer.
Secrets & Lies are worst breaker.
I learned that from moviesDon't talk too much about myself
Listen
Ask questions
Make eye contact
Flirt
Be myself
Try not to talk about politicsThere are so many but, at my age they're as second nature as what I do in everyday life. For me its don't allow the woman to do something on her own that I can help her with, for instance the door, her coat, chair, calling the waiter...
Don't go into it with any expectations. Go to enjoy yourself and see where the date takes you, and focus on the important things about the other person
1. does she expect him to pay or not
2. did I catch her lying about anything
the rest is dependant on the person...Don't say 'I love you' or get stare-ie and too keen. Do not under value or change your own opinion to agree with your date constantly. Do not worry about being judged negatively just enjoy the date and have good conversation as if it's a friend.
(1) 50/50 on first date
(2) No phones
(3) No entitlement
(4) Don't ask about my past relationships (happens all too often)
Otherwise I'm pretty flexiblePhones away and off or I will throw it XD JK nah but I won't be very happy. And I tend to stare my SO down to get her to realize that its a date XD.
Also dont play with your food if done eating.Is her phone the most important thing in her life?
Is she giving effort to actually take her of herself?
Good Hygiene?
No ex mentions
Is she desperate or looking for a bond?
How she treats othersMy only rule is to enjoy myself. I don't go out to look like the perfect woman, I go out to fuck shit up and have a great time.
Be myself. Keep it light. Have fun. I've never been on a date come to think of it. But that's what i'd do. And don't get involved with someone who i genuinly don't feel great about.
You gotta always be ready. Stay calm and don't show that you're excited. Sec is always on 3 rd date. Not before
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