my rules are:
1: show up on time. if you're gonna be late you let me know as soon as you know and you better have a really good excuse. if you're late without a good excuse, that's the last date we're gonna have. cause you show yourself from "your best side" on a date right? so that means if it's not a date, you're gonna be even worse. that's not acceptable.
2: you don't look at your phone. we're here to get to know each other. i made the time just for you, i expect you to have made the time just for me. so nothing else should be more important at that point (unless you have a family member that might need urgent care).
3: i won't pay for your food unless i explicitly tell you before the date. i will probably still pay your food (if i thought the date was good) but i do expect you to make the effort to pay yourself so i can see that you're a responsible, accountable person who can be a partner for me.
4: no sex on the first date. if you're trying to have sex at the first date, i can't consider you to be a serious partner. that just looks like you're a sluit trying to get laid, which i have no issue with. you're free to do that but not with me. i don't accept partners who behave that way. being a bit touchy/feely is fine as long as it doesn't get sexual.
5: personal hygiene and appropriate attire. it's a date. something special right? so i don't expect you to come in a formal business meeting attire but i do expect that you made some effort to look good and not look like a hobo... unwashed, stinky or unkept is not acceptable on a date.
6: if you treat the staff of the place we're going inappropirately, being bossy or mean, i will not see you again.
i didn't have a catalogue of rules xD it's just what came up when i thought about what's important to me and listed it in no particular order.
to not have rules but have standards and stick to them.
I never wear clothes or show pictures that show off my body until I am ready to sleep with him, which is ALWAYS after we are both sure that we like each other as people and find each other generally attractive. So I purposely choose clothes that downplay my bust especially because I have a large chest and worry about guys being into me for the wrong reasons.
I like variety! Not only is it just because it's boring to do the same things again and again but also because I get to see his behavior in different environments and his response to different stimuli. So instead of always going to dinner dates maybe go to a carnival/market/event together, go do some fun activities, all that.
And I never fake pleasure/orgasms. I keep it very real and make him do the work. I talk about my sexual preferences very early on including the "weird stuff" (aka kinks) and if he is judgmental or dismissive or anything like that then yeah he already failed and I don't wanna sleep with this guy again.
In the very early stages of dating, these are mine:
1. Arrive in separate vehicles, so going home isn't awkward.
2. Go somewhere public. Split the bill / keep the costs down.
3. Don't get drunk. Don't do drugs.
4. Don't talk about sex or share intimate details
5. Always text or call after to let them know you're home, and thank them for the date.
If at anytime a guy pushes me into more for points 1-4, my alarm bells go off. If for point 5, if he contacts me first, great. If he doesn't, yet I do, and he doesn't answer me, alarm bells go off.
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I have some “rules” I guess. If you walk out on me and don’t pay… I’m paying my half and you can have fun with the police.
I don’t like a girl who feels entitled demanding I do this or that. If she has different standards then me. Then I respect that we aren’t compatible, we simply don’t have to see each other anymore.
Separate vehicles unless I know the girl. If the date doesn’t work it’s easy to get home.
If she’s intentionally late I assume she’s not interested.
If she tries sleeping with me especially too soon. Bye. I don’t want a whore
Be normal? I guess. There's a lot of strange women out there. It is the norm that they act like that.
But when I meet that rare normal one who isn't obsessed with expressing as much femininity as possible, I feel like I finally found a real person.
Treat your date with respect and dignity.
Don't play games, just be direct.
Focus on your date, never your phone.
End the date with a plan or end the relationship. (Say let's do it again, and set up a time to discuss it or say it isn't going to work for you.)
Don't just ghost. Dick move.
Lastly...
Don't date when you're married. (My current rule.)
1. Never spend more than $10 on a 1st date.
2. If I'm paying I'm asking. I want to know if this women is worthy of my investment.
3. Always send did u make it home ok text after.
4. If we haven't had sex by the 3rd date there's no 4th.
5. Once we've set a place and time I never text after to confirm.
She has to have a job or at least be willing to work ( she won’t need it anymore if we get married but while we are dating I need you to be an adult pay your own bills )
as your boyfriend I should only be paying for getting your hair done , nails , outfits , lunch/dinner dates , Trips and birth control
that’s all that comes in the girlfriend bundle but you can upgrade to wife package
and receive Top priority Goddess treatment
I tell my friends where I'm going, the time, who I'm going with, I'll text when I'm leaving the date and when I get back in.
I'll only date guys who know how to clean up after themselves. I don't like slobs, and I'm not a maid.
"Women", who get upset about not using me for money or free meals (in the initial stages) are not ride-or-die.
Well, yes I have my set of rules and they are strict too. However, the fact I never wish to date.
s I’ve never had any specific rules for dating, other than my standards for the person that I’m dating.
My only rule is that she tells me exactly what she wants, so I can do my best to provide it.
-if i dont have sex on second date, no third date
-if no kiss on first date, no second date
one at a time... one on one..
I can't stand it when I find out person is seeing someone n playing the field
Be nice. Don’t hurt me.
Sounds simple enough, but it ain’t
I never rely on the first date if the 1st and second date don’t work out I usually part ways and go the other way
I make everything up on the fly
Been 20 years, but I’d say: Don’t fck this up.
no boobs or butt no go
They had to be born between 1975-1993.
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