I always split whatever expenses with the woman, until I for sure really like her.
Or I have sex with her
To me, it's all about fairness and not being taken advantage of.
How do I know if I really like her? Well, it depends on her answers to certain questions and the quality of the time we spend together.
Implementing this has given me more peace of mind and respect for myself.
I never pay full for anything until certain things are met.
So, if I find out the woman I'm with has slept around, then I at least didn't pay full for her in any capacity before telling her off and finding another woman.
In my observation, this method of dating/interaction is the most fair for all sides and especially for men who may feel like they've been constantly taken advantage of in the past.
1. My generation does things differently, as you know, and that's okay. It's not right or wrong; it's just different.
2. "So, if I find out the woman I'm with has slept around, then I at least didn't pay full for her in any capacity before telling her off and finding another woman." If you decide she is not for you, what value is there in telling her off? If she misrepresented herself, I understand giving her a good cussing. But if she didn't misrepresent anything. . . she has no obligation to be what you want her to be, she's just being herself, and you just made a bad choice. One day, she'll probably recover from her whoring ways and might even become a good mother for somebody else's kids.
Listen brother I really Give you a lot of credit for being able to pull it off. But for the other 99% of us guys, the splitting check thing doesn’t usually work too well on a first date. Even with today’s “modern woman“ in the dating pool. I’m sure if you are 6 foot three, multi millionaire with six pack abs and movie star looks you could probably pull off those kind of rules, but realistically they probably wouldn’t fly. Don’t get me wrong, I completely agree with what you’re saying about the fairness of it all. I’m talking more practicality. I can only imagine the reaction of women when I ask her out for a day to a nice restaurant and follow up with the closer that they get to pay half. That one doesn’t usually end very well.
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I'm none of those things
I pull it off
Just think about it for a second
How many women exist? Billions?
In my country, US, there's more women to men. In my state and city, more women than men.
You can find 1000 that will be judgmental over your rules for dating
Then you can find 1000 who aren't
And this is only 2000 women, not even a quarter of a quarter of the total women in my state...
You get what I'm saying?
No man is approaching this many women
So, I wonder where some men get the "it doesn't work for me"
These dudes probably just approach 3 women and use their behavior or reactions to generalize ALL women
Like I said, good for you! Man there’s no arguing with your logic. Damn I wish I could have a lot of that money back that I wasted. No doubt what you say makes sense. Appreciate you sharing, peace my man!
I didn't read them, because I don't need to know your dating rules, because i have no plans on dating you, and you don't have plans on dating me.
But i do think putting rules in place are important it will help you find someone that fits what you are looking for in a partner and rid yourself easier of potential partners that don't fit what you are looking for.
I think you're smarter than the average man when it comes to dating and I agree with you. I never put myself in a position to be a simp or get taken advantage of. Too bad most men nowadays see that as "not being a gentleman" or some lame sh*t.
in my opinion your rules are fine. My only advice is I wouldn't correlate your finances to expectations. This is why I suggest younger guys use coffee dates to very women. That way you dont have to worry about if she's using you while simultaneously feeling her out. You Al's get the advantage of looking like a gentleman while spending only a few dollars.
Why would her body count have anything to do with you paying for her? Doesn't really make sense. If you don't like paying for girls then take them on free or cheap dates
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What I'm saying is, I don't want to go on date after date with her, paying for everything, and then after finding out something about her I really don't like end up feeling used and wasting my time/money.
Yeah I totally get that part cuz I've heard some girls go on dates just for the free meal. It would suck to be a guy and have to date around. I definitely suggest doing something small on the first date. No full meals or anything fancy
Women just can’t handle the fact that sleeping around makes you undesirable, can you? Looking back to the women I knew in college, nearly all the sluts have gotten divorced.
Not "wanting to feel taken advantage of" is a sign that given a chance, you would take advantage of someone else. And worrying about being taken for the cost of a meal? Does that mean so much to you?
do you ask how much sex she has had around with other men... before or after you had sex with her yourself?
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Oh, good question.
It's hard to weave that into the conversation initially meeting a woman. Unless, she asks me first, I've never asked a woman first who many people she's been with it.
Usually, after sex, you both are more comfortable to ask each other more personal or intimate questions.
has it ever happened that a woman you've asked, therefore she asks you how many women you've slept around with... saw you as a ~not a good candidate~ based on the many promiscuous women you have sleep with in your past, therefore making you seem as a promiscuous man as well?
Honey I’ve moved on. You don’t need to keep trying to convince me that you’re not a hypocrite about a man’s income and asking other people for help just looks desperate.
Dating is like going to a casino. You would never expect the house to pay for half of your chips. And sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. The odds are always in favor of the house.
I'm not & will not ever be looking to date at all. So I don't know but it is funny tho hearing you would count a girls body count as a way to know if you would pay in full or not hahaha.
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Lmao, not going lie it's funny when you put it that way
