Though it seems that evolution would draw highly attracted people together, why does high attraction often create shyness and insecurity?

[Billyscotter]

I'd think that evolution would draw highly attracted people together, but it often results in high levels of insecurity and self-doubt. And when there's really high attraction and sexual tension, it's pretty much always mutual, so the self-doubt doesn't make a whole lot of sense.

High attraction draws people together, but it often causes problems: it often makes people idealize the other and gives one self-doubt. And even if the person attractive and intelligent, it often doesn't prevent them from feeling insecure. Why does high attraction often create problems, when one would think it would be easy?

[Effably]

Habit?
Entertain me here. If we were living in the wild humans are hierarchy based as a species. So making a move on someone is a rather big deal. Some inherent hesitation would make us alert to possible danger while also fading away as we establish ourselves and get more experience doing it. I think from an evolutionary standpoint it makes a lot of sense. If you humped everyone you find attractive some other person would bash your head in.

And as for modern life? It is mostly habit. Think of it like a rollercoaster. It is scary the first few times. A thrill even when you've done it plenty. But after enough experience the nervousness becomes mostly excitement.

[boobliker]

we need all skills to live here or off of here too that matter