I feel like I’m not good enough for a relationship?

[ShelbyTownsend]

I feel like I’ll never be good enough for love and that I’m completely undesirable. From my last relationship, I was told that I was boring and difficult, and on top of that was being manipulated, guilt tripped, and touched inappropriately. It was so hard to deal with and I honestly wish I could find someone that truly loves and cares about me rather than just using me briefly. I get told I am pretty by friends and other random people, but I sometimes wonder if it’s true because guys don’t seem to like me or want me around. I’m also one of those girls that doesn’t do bad stuff like drinking or drugs either, and I’m super nice- almost too nice at times. I’m also a little nerdy too.
All of my friends are treated right by someone I’ve noticed too and I wish I could experience the same thing. I don’t know if it’s my fault, or if I’m just unlovable.

[ohshee]

Okay find out fix time. First of all take a deep breath
The moment I started reading your question in my mind in my heart all I could think of is This Girl is hot this is the type of girl that you've been looking for as I'm reading it I'm thinking to myself he is a little cutie a little nerdy a lot smart and she's just beautiful on the inside yes I read it it's breaking my heart because I'm thinking to myself whoever this guy is he is a jerk and then I'm thinking it's his loss but but that doesn't stop you from having a broken heart
Don't let this guy get you down I'm going to tell you something right now you are very very beautiful girl you are what most guys are looking for if they're honest with themselves I think you are one in a million type of girl
Let It Go but always remember everything's that guy said and did because see it again or feel it again and I'm sure it's going to happen so just be cautious don't get in a big hurry listen to every word that the guy says to you always look deep into their eyes because if they're lying to you he will tell you the truth in the same sentence find that confidence be that person that I feel that you are like I said I don't know you but I can feel your energy from here and it's quite beautiful it's actually very sexy and you are smart

Do not ever think that you are not good enough because you are as a matter fact you are better than enough you are more better than most of the girls out there and in your own way even hotter than most of the girls that are out or beautiful and in a good way and in your own ways you are hella sexy I can feel it do not let one guy ever get you down again is that guy's lost as far as I'm concerned but don't let anybody ever Define you her tell you who you are because only you can do that nobody else it's just their words so smile give yourself a hug because I'm telling you the truth you are 100% worth it

[JDAC2209199]

You are good enough, be mindful every relationship has two sides it's not all fun and rainbows a serious relationship is hard work *maybe not the right words*but it's give and take and sacrifices and limitless forgiveness and kindness and yeah Its a lot. It creates a bond so strong nothing can break it almost and you never have to worry about them cheating because the experience just allows you to know them and have faith in them blindly *well that and the reassurance they give*but all that aside, not to be pessimistic but I doubt any of your friends relationships are real like that especially at your age. Try not to worry about relationships, work with yourself to try new things that you've always wanted to do and meet other people who like the same things as you and eventually you'll find someone who loves and cherishes you as much as you do them. That's what I did and although I've come out of a 4 year break up I don't regret it, I loved those four years and I know I'll find someone else to continue on this journey of life with me after I've healed its just a matter of time and random encounters and corrage to enjoy life to the fullest by making your own life an adventure. Try something different or new whenever you can but obviously only if you want to. Basically just have fun with your youth ^-^ *Yes I know I'm only 22 and yes I know I don't know much about this life*however this has worked for me and it seems to work for everyone else too when you really look at life. Best of luck ^-^/

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I think you just need to find someone who is compatible with you, your personality and morals. I don’t think it has anything to do with looks.

[PrettyPriya]

I doubt it has to do with you at all. It is about finding a person that meshes well with your personality. That is probably what is missing.

[AncientWisdom]

Well that’s absurd. It’s not that your not good enough. It’s that your very young abd you should take your time. You live in a amazing time where young women can be pretty bear anything they want to be. I assure somewhere out there is a young man who will love you. However at your age they are not worried about love. They are learning just like you.
It’s very nice to see a young woman who doesn’t do bad stuff. That is outstanding. You stick to it , and have patience. Those girls out there doing bad things end up in bad situations. Good girls who are careful , and focus on goals while they are young end up with everything they want. That is a fact young lady. This is the same thing I tell my granddaughters.

[ShelbyTownsend]

Thank you

[AncientWisdom]

Your welcome.

[Eeyore18]

Everyone has their own worth. You worthy of love and to be loved by someone. Don't get yourself down thinking you're not enough just because of past "relationships" or because people tell you off. I'm sure you're beautiful. Nothing wrong with being nice or nerdy either. You just need to keep looking for the right guy who will love you with his heart instead of his head.

You're good enough for a relationship like everyone else. Whether or not you choose to get into another relationship is up to you. Get to know the guy before asking him out or before you say yes to him. If he's a greedy bastard and wants you for your body instead of your heart and personality, you'll know quickly.

I hope this helps, and if you need anything else. Pm me 👍🏻

[ShelbyTownsend]

Thank you :)

[PositiveNote]

I've been in your shoes. You know what the answer is? You need to seek out a circle of friends who have same interests and morals. If you are like I was, I always measured myself by those who seemed "successful" in relationships. That's not what you want. You want to seek out a guy who fits your description (which you should actually think about and write down.) Then, join an organization that may harbor such folk, i. e., volunteering, church, bowling team, groups who visit museums, whatever you think you'll find those guys.

[IAmMichael]

It's normal to be self-conscious, especially at your age. Find someone you feel comfortable with, someone who you can relax around. If they don't want to be in a relationship with you, they won't be. If they do, then you obviously are good enough.

[IMuser]

You are just 17 lol. Give yourself time to mature, this world has so much variety that you will get the one who adores you

[awkward_author]

I'm sorry you went through that. You're definitely good enough, and I would recommend seeking therapy to process what happened, as well as work on your self-esteem.

[snatchhound]

I completely agree with the opinion that positive note wrote

[2021biguy]

You're still young, it's not you. You just met the wrong guys. You are not unlovable, don't believe that, you seem like a great catch.

[legalboxers]

hate to sound like a parent but. You are still growing.. learning. You got time. Focus on you and what you want in life!