Why do I have a promblem about always fousing on not having a boyfriend but still want a boyfriend?

[Lovesims3plumbob]

I know that I've got a problem with always wanting a boyfriend each time I am single and I find it very upset. I'm very angry at other straight couples. I would prefer to see more homosexual couples. My mother doesn't understand anything. I kept saying the same thing you need to stop focusing on wanting a boyfriend. I also tried to do it in real life and had zero lucks so far with guys. My emotions are always over the place. I never seem to get happy. I don't find anything fun anymore. I also tried this therapy and I think they made me feel like a little girl with a learning disability. I've got all my covid19 vaccines and the booster always feels verI also had a very bad dream.

[lightbulb27]

we all have to figure ourselves out and work towards a better future. I would wonder how long the hormonal instability has been going on. multiple misspellings and messy communication. emotions all over the place, drunk, ?

of what I understand of girls, they are a bit more complex due to hormonal swings.

heavy influences in behavior are emotionally impactful events in your past as well as passed down from family... that be your sub conscious mind. Hormones kick in for mating around age 12 and create more complexity for girls as theirs swing drastically, causing all sorts of mayhem.

Then add to this your life... like if you spend all day on social media looking at others wonderful life and success and your failures, that will make one depressed and miserable. Failures will compound the effect.

Lastly environmental impacts... food choices which may be poisons in your body, addictions, drugs, stability of home enviornment.

so some of this is normal, some is not, and some requires you to take responsibility to better your life. improve diet, sleep, read a book my fiance gave to me..." the art of happiness". start there.

[Lovesims3plumbob]

What if I tried all these things? I know that my family doesn't pay any attention to the worst. I always is changing for the worst part from trying to get me outside since I don't see a point of going outside anymore and everything that I do is going to be temporary and why bothers better to be sad than toxic positives. The boyfriend thing is the only thing that I focused and I hate so much. none of my parents knows nothing about my brain too much intelligence for people that similar learning disabilities. I am right in the middle of every single thing. Family I am the middle of my two younger sister and older sister. I got positive attention. I am here waiting until they give me the positive attention but never happen. I always got the negative attention from my mum. why do people think that i am dunk. i am not drink any alcohol on weekdays. is only for weekends.

[Lovesims3plumbob]

I want positive attention didn't get any positive attention from my mum. my town is chasing into more than a couple of towns. The more experiences for single people now the only cheap places to go are like ffast food places from stupid England the worst place to be at this time.

[lightbulb27]

I'd suggest no drugs at all until you can sort out yourself. your writing is very emotional, that's why.
You really need to be a in a good place in life before getting a mate, so focus on getting yourself to stable ground.
There's things you can take responsibility for in your life and will have to, are you willing to do anything and everything to get to yoru better self? That's what it takes.
Early life trauma can result in learning disabilities, and then they compound if not resolved. Or the disability is never addressed. Some disabilities can become gifts, if managed right.
Focus on boyfriend is probably about filling the need for love, attention, affection , etc.. you can't get and results in jealousy of others. That makes sense but does you nothing.
I can't judge your family, maybe you were abused or neglected by mom? someone close to you or therapist hopefully can help guide you out of it. Time to start reading everything you can, learn, eat right, exercise, meditate, discover and pray to God, setting goals in life. Like everyone else...

[lightbulb27]

ah so you are a brit. mom never supportive or positive, always complaining since you were an infant? that be a problem to talk to therapist on and start digging through to heal the wounds. We seek love and guidance from parents, if parents aren't good... child suffers. middle child can get it worse because of the position. You can learn a lot by reading and studying. a lt of life is learning to understand, accept our selves, healing our inner child, and thriving in life in spite of the difficulties we face.

[Fireguy17]

I think there is a lot of social pressure put on people to have a partner.
Most of the ads show it, it is a common them in many TV shows, probably most of your friends have someone in their lives.
Subconsciously that can mess with your mind.
Your self worth is based on if you are in a relationship, good or bad, as long as you are in a relationship your are a good person.
I have chosen to be single often in my life, and I was just fine.
I enjoyed the freedom it offered me. Come and go as I pleased.
I didn't have to worry if I had to go to my girlfriend's baby's christening or to my buddies garage, or a 200 mile motorcycle ride to get lunch.
You are young.
My thought it is better to wait until the right person comes along, rather than be with anyone just to be in a relationship, even if it a crappy one.
All of this is easy to say, now just get your brain to believe it.

[Lovesims3plumbob]

In my town there is always a couple dinner. They get cheaper if they already have to move in and now the ads are already staring, showing more romance and couples. my older sister got back with her ex boyfriend. my mum is married to my dad and my granny and granddad are also married. I am the only one that is single apart from my younger sister. I also saw another two couples, people getting married. Youth club I saw my cheater ex boyfriend. He has two dates called by two different guys. Healso does a couple dining that no. so what are you going to say?

[Fireguy17]

yep, just so much pressure to conform, you will be fine, someday out of the blue someone will come along and he will be the right one.

[Lovesims3plumbob]

Everyone in my friend also has a boyfriend or girlfriend. Ikept seeing couples each time I go out and yet even dogs couple that so much better the ugly human straight couple that I hate the most since I am also straight single.

[Changiis07]

I know same here. It's nice having the company but yes you need to find things that make you happy. Friends that get you out and about to meeting new people. The more we want and the more we focus on having on the less we get one

[Lovesims3plumbob]

I already tried going outside and yet meet new people. I still have have no luck... there guys already have a girlfriend and another guy is not interested in a relationship. I do not find anything that makes me happy.

[Changiis07]

Yeah I got to a point in my life where nothing made me happy also but we just have to change our mentality and be positive. Going to church helped me a lot and praying. Thanking God for all that I have and more. The fact that we can see and hear. The fact that we can walk and talk, we have our toes and fingers. Being more positive and just sorrounding yourself with people that enjoy your company as well as yours. Eating better helps, working out and having goals help. Have you seen that documentary on netflix called the secret? it's really good. I also have made a vision board, I set goals to save a certain amount of money etc

[Lovesims3plumbob]

I can't do church since I have a learning disability and only a group that has a learning disabled man that I am only allowed to date. I do not have a learning disability. I am not allowed to date them.

[OlderAndWiser]

People with learning disabilities can also suffer from long tern clinical depression and what you describe sounds like depression.

[DaveToo]

You should identify what you really are. Are you gay or straight? If you're gay, then why be concerned with a BOYfriend? If you're straight, then take some time to evaluate what it is you want from a male relationship, then don't settle for less.

[Lovesims3plumbob]

I am not instersted or not be attracted to any women. i already said the same thing i will always be straghit no matter what since i dislike women so much that ruin friendship trust. i not gotting anywhere so far with men. they seem to be a jerk.

[DaveToo]

Then you are lookin' for love in all the wrong places
Lookin' for love in too many faces
Searchin' their eyes, lookin' for traces
Of what you're dreamin' of
Hopin' to find a friend and a lover
I'll bless the day you'll discover,
Another heart- lookin' for love.

[Lovesims3plumbob]

I already not been trying since i already two dates canled. about sign up with a online dating sevice for learning disabties. that maybe has events and maybe go to the event. i also run out of opiton of men once again.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Maybe you are worried about meeting a guy who will be wrong for you, hey sometimes we meet so many wrong people in life that we end just giving up I know I've did it

[Lovesims3plumbob]

I have very bad dreams. I still find bad men are going anywhere. I still find nothing every single time I go out or they have already taken. I might as well try the online dating service since I run out of option again with having two dates called so far.

[yucel_eden]

Why are you single and why do you want a boyfriend?


Maybe you need to work on yourself? Maybe it’s your distrust? Maybe it’s past experiences? Do you approach men? Do you get approached?

[Lovesims3plumbob]

I sometimes get approached by bad men and unwanted men that I don't want. I like having a game and shy. That guy should be similar height or smaller than my height. He has 9 ex boyfriends. He has strict rules that come to cheating or being toxic. I have trust issues with women than I do with men.

[yucel_eden]

Your comment didn’t make much sense towards the end? Are you a women and attracted to men or?

[Lovesims3plumbob]

I dislike women very much and not be attractive to women. I always have to be attractive to men only. women ruin my trust as friends by tempting the guys that I was in a relationship at the time at college. do you not understand me now.

[TexasRed95]

You should probably seek psychological help rather than seek help from random people here. Your depression sounds like a problem.

[Lovesims3plumbob]

they didn't help they threapy didn't help. they kicked me out from it.

[TexasRed95]

I'm sorry but that doesn't make sense. I have never heard of therapist kicking someone out.

[Lovesims3plumbob]

Yep they did kick me out since they treated me like a teenage and baby and also a kid. What you like if you treated like a kid just because you have a learning disability.